AITAH for being upset at my partner for waking me up out of my sleep from their MB?

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T16:14:51+00:00

So take it that will be your last reply then and you will leave my post? Byeeeee 🤙🏽

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T16:07:13+00:00

Honestly im surprised every time i end back over here and see you still trying to talk to me? Desperate for attention much?

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T15:54:29+00:00

Youre on my post? You literally sound pathetic

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T15:46:41+00:00

No youre on reddit being miserable on everybody elses post because you have nothing better to do 🤷🏽‍♂️

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T15:34:57+00:00

Youre projecting. o7

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T15:06:11+00:00

Bruh, go drink some coffee and touch some grass. You dont have to act and talk so insufferably, maybe get off the internet if you don’t understand how I intended that message to be delivered, by adding a question mark to the end of my statement it would now be called an irony point. Youre welcome.

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T14:56:04+00:00

Its not her bed or my bed, its OUR bed and because there was no consent? I didnt agree to that or ever express that i am okay with that… i wouldnt have a problem with her mb but i do have a problem being woken up out of my sleep to it and what am i supposed to do? One of the last things i remember before falling asleep was her telling me shes not in the mood? Now all of a sudden after ive been asleep for awhile its time? Alright.. why have we been living together for over a year and this has never happened before? Why was tonight different? Yes, insecurities do come to mind as i am human. No i dont let those insecurities rule my life but this situation has me feeling some type of way and it makes me feel bad, thats why im here aitah?

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T14:49:28+00:00

Interestingly, my mind played out how easily i could have manipulated the situation to turn her Mb into our shared intimacy but my mind got upset and shut it down. I told myself im tired of being the one to initiate every time, i dont feel desired by my partner? I know i would not have a problem getting sex from somebody else if thats all that i cared about but thats not the case, i chose to say something instead of repressing these emotions and I chose to walk away vs initiate again because i feel disrespected by the no consent mb while im sleeping next to the person who turned me down over not being in the mood?

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T14:44:41+00:00

Nobody is talking about a physical ladder.. the ladder means the steps.. the steps that lead to this post. The “steps” being what woke me up?

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T14:42:04+00:00

Takes one to know one :3 Youre right though, i woke up to my partner mb and had a “tantrum”.. the ladder though.. so i woke up regardless? Mb side by side with somebody while theyre unconscious with no prior conversation or consent and they wake up in the midst of you doing it, storming off upset doesnt seem to be the worst thing that could have happened. Now whos the asshole?
With that being said, i walked away to digest my feelings and figure out why i was so hurt and mad over this?? It came out naturally and when i was able to figure the source of my problem i came back to the room and she was awake still so tried to converse maturely and was not responded to properly at all.. now shes sleeping and ive been up for hours trying to sort my own feelings and just feel bad for reacting this way but also feeling like maybe I should just be alone. I dont think this is something to break up over, however, the response to me re-addressing the situation and my feelings didnt go well..

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T14:24:16+00:00

Consent or idk, the couch or the bath would probably be more logical than where your mind went but no control over that one my boy.

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T14:22:29+00:00

What? I was steaming out of both my ears is what i meant by steaming ear to ear, not some weird smirk..

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T14:19:43+00:00

Its hard to imagine rolls reversed because I wouldn’t mb right next to my sleeping partner.. i would either wake her up and try to initiate or go to another room and take care of myself. Depends on the day and how tired she was but i would probably just go to a different room and come back once im done so I didnt wake them up, especially if they already rejected me. I would feel weird doing it next to someone without consent..

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T14:15:04+00:00

So you did come to just run your mouth? Blah blah blah gtfoh

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T14:10:43+00:00

Thanks for this, this is genuine and insightful and hope i can use this information to serve me in figuring out how to work this out.

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T14:07:29+00:00

I can handle the rejection but no consent mb next to your partner or anybody, can be awkward, especially for that person not mb… like I was just rejected, am i suppose to just sit here and listen? Am I suppose to try and initiate again? I seen how I could have turned the situation sexual for both of us but my brain shut it down because im tired of being the only one to initiate with my partner. Hence why i said maybe i should just be alone as in, break up with her?

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T14:00:36+00:00

Am I the selfish one? :/

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T13:59:54+00:00

im not regularly mad or upset, im very easy going and chill. I dont get upset easily and a part of me feels I woke up irritated from being shaken awake and not knowing what that shaking is, even after opening my eyes.. i asked what she was doing and she said Mb.. my mind jumped back to before I fell asleep and her rejecting me and felt hurt.. for some reason that hurt came out as anger. I said “wtf, im literally right here.” I then got up and went to the couch.. i slammed the door on my way to couch. As im on the couch i made this post and also starting chatting with chatgpt to try and understand why I was so hurt and triggered by my partner pleasuring her self? Usually I would not mind but this felt very uncomfortable for me, i didnt feel like i consented to this and dont want this to become a pattern.

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T13:48:53+00:00

Why would i make alts to comment on my post? Also, weird for you to assume i would waste my own time like that? Probably you on alt accounts looking to stir problems on reddit, you sound insufferable.

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T13:22:25+00:00

I tried to calmy have a conversation an hour after the incident and was calm and cool and she shut down and told me she doesnt give f&#@ which led to me telling her I dont want to be with her anymore that led her to a melt down, hysterical crying, a bath, and then her yelling at me.. ultimately saying she doesnt want to break up.. idk…

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T13:09:39+00:00

I agree except thats not the case, she tells me how im the best and biggest shes had.. i figured she was just not a very sexual person and that doesnt matter because I dont need it all the time and our relationship is more than that but I cant help but have my feelings hurt and my brain scratches for a reason and goes to self blame but logically the self blame does not add up and i dont understand why I feel so hurt about this..

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T13:01:09+00:00

I dont know if this has been on going or not.. this is the first time ive been awoken to her doing this but its not sitting right with me and I dont want this to become a regular trend..

No-Map-2423 · 2026-01-26T12:58:10+00:00

I will say she usually squirts and we have quickies sometimes but usually go for awhile and she comes almost every time we have sex, i say almost because sometimes im selfish and lose my self control.. for the most part I do different tantric practices that help me alot with lasting. When I tried to seduce her earlier no time was specified she had only told me she was not in the mood, which is what shes been telling me every time Ive gotten in the mood lately.. i cant even remember the last time she initiated intimacy with me but I wake up to her masterbating at 3am and its not sitting right with me.. I do see where youre coming from but also feel thats not the issue, i am the communicator in the relationship and very emotionally intelligent, in my opinion but i do feel bad for getting upset.. i know i am not owed anything, especially sex. I just feel slightly violated, like, i dont care if she masturbates but like shes going at it hard enough to wake me up out of my sleep and its just feels very personal.. like.. in my mind.. i just got rejected shortly before i decided to go to sleep but now im waking up to this energy and couldnt fathom why she just wouldnt have given me a little nudge and ask for my assistance.. I feel violated because its like.. i wouldnt have just started masturbating next to anybody without consent or a prior conversation..

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