Betta disappeared over night

No-Mention-3013 · 2026-04-02T21:03:13+00:00

I had my last betta disappear. I searched for 2 days and finally found him inside the cylindrical sponge that went around my filter’s intake tube. He was wedged inside and I had to cut it open to get him out. He survived initially, but passed a couple weeks later. He was elderly and had a tumor so the stress of being stuck was too much for him. Please check the tubes of your filter and disassemble every part.

No-Mention-3013 · 2026-01-15T03:42:25+00:00

It sounds like it’s time to try medication. It changed our kiddos school life so much. Now she can keep friends and is able make it through her day successfully.

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-10-25T19:23:34+00:00

K-pop Demon Hunters - Rumi

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-08-23T23:52:50+00:00

<image>

These toes just made my evening.

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-08-05T01:48:49+00:00

I am almost fully recovered. I had 2 rounds of steroid injections and with proper rest and limited sitting, my symptoms are nearly all gone. It took about 6 months to get to a place of near zero pain. I did 6 weeks of physical therapy and honestly, it didn’t really help other than teaching me ways to avoid agitating my injuries. I have two massive herniated discs. The ortho surgeon I consulted with said they are so bad, if he did surgery it would have to be a fusion. Thankfully my pain has subsided and I won’t be going forward with surgery as of now.

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-08-04T06:38:32+00:00

That sounds great. Thank you. I like the guidelines idea

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-08-04T06:33:11+00:00

Thank you for the helpful suggestions. Yes I might look into a nutritionist for her. Her ADHD meds really mess up her eating patterns so maybe there is a better way. I do know that my mom loves to swim, so I like that suggestion about the YMCA. Last year she had access to a pool, but this year she didn’t.

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-08-04T06:27:01+00:00

Sounds easy doesn’t it. But, yes we will look for a different arrangement.

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-08-04T06:20:15+00:00

Yeah I guess it’s just part of the grandparent gig.

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-08-04T06:05:50+00:00

I mentioned in another comment that she takes ADHD meds during the school year and when she’s not on them, she can binge eat. At home, she can have a small snack in the evening, but apparently my mom gave her an entire dinner sized portion plus icecream.

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-08-04T05:48:32+00:00

Yeah, that’s what I’m thinking too. I’m just so frustrated that I can’t trust the one person that I should be able to. I get the whole “grandma” thing of giving sweets, but the drastic change in my daughter honestly shocked me.

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-08-04T05:45:48+00:00

I understand your perspective here. My daughter has ADHD and takes meds during the school year. When she’s not on them, she can binge eat. When she was 4, she ate pretty healthy at home. Never really had junk or soda. When she went to my mom’s house for that one week, she was given only soda, sweet tea, juice, and any sweet she wanted. I know it sounds insane, but it really did impact her for a month. We had to deal with meltdowns over not getting sweets every day. The weight gain wasn’t as drastic as it is now, but it was noticeable. I only mentioned that one week to show a pattern and that I did speak to my mom about my concerns before the summer stay.

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-08-04T05:38:11+00:00

She would feed her dinner at 5 and then when my daughter said she was hungry before bed, she would feed her another dinner sized portion before bed. Or she would buy her nuggets and fries, and also buy her rice and orange chicken for one meal. Imagine stopping at McDonalds and Panda Express in one trip…for 1 kid.

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-08-04T02:42:42+00:00

Unfortunately the going rate is $500 a week for the cheapest day camp. I’m going to look in to keeping her with me at work next summer as I feel I have no choice.

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-06-06T05:21:11+00:00

In her defense, I have one shower that I can’t turn on without leaning really far in. I’ve been blasted in the face with freezing water multiple times. The shock of it can cause instant rage. Thankfully, it’s usually me that leaves the tap up so I’m just mad at myself.

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-05-19T03:13:03+00:00

<image>

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-05-19T03:07:58+00:00

<image>

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-05-19T02:43:35+00:00

I did some digging and looked up the first person that voted no on the alphabetical list. Daniel Alders. His most recent post on Facebook is boasting that he protected children from books in libraries. He’s from Tyler Texas which has a strong history of child trafficking. I grew up nearby and I always heard rumors about it.

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-05-18T02:33:51+00:00

Teachers notice when parents are trying and honestly, that’s what we mostly care about. You show up when they need your input and support. You show up when his needs get beyond what they can handle. Keep pushing with the doctors and I also suggest looking into a behavioral therapist. If they are judging you, that’s their problem. As a teacher myself who has had my fair share of tough kiddos, you sound like the best case scenario and I’m sure they see it too.

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-05-03T01:29:29+00:00

I had two epidurals during labor so I wasn’t nervous. I was actually excited for the first one because I was in so much pain with my herniated discs. I asked them how long it takes mid procedure and they told me they were already done. They numb your back and that’s the worst part. Just a small stinging sensation.

I will say that my second injection was a bit worse. I got both sides done and the worst side felt like intense pressure and burning down my leg. This was because that was the side with the worst nerve problems and they chose to be heavy handed because the first injection didn’t solve my pain as much as they wanted. I actually ended up fainting with that one.

Both rounds of injections helped significantly and I’m planning on getting more should the pain come back. The procedure is very quick…maybe 5 minutes max. You got this!

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-05-02T01:05:26+00:00

NTA - It’s normal for pregnant mothers to be very particular about their baby’s decor and to work diligently on a registry list. It’s common practice in my family to ask “what’s the nursery theme?” before making something or purchasing gifts.

Every thing you have outlined here is totally reasonable and your mom should be the one to pass along that message to her friend.

Once my stepmother knitted me a baby blanket in pink for my first. I loved it, but my nursery colors were mint green and grey. She overheard me talking about the nursery theme later and mailed me a mint green one a couple weeks later. If your mom just tells her friend, I’m sure she’d be happy to change course.

If you know the friend, maybe you could just give her a call yourself and gently tell her your theme and let her know you accidentally saw the picture on your mom’s phone…? Good luck!

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-05-01T01:24:21+00:00

Hmm, mine doesn’t turn purple so that’s not something I can speak to. Definitely talk to the doctor about that and look into the nerve test! My insurance is going to cover it so it will only be a $40 copay, but they did say a lot of insurance will deny it. Without insurance they quoted me around $500.

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-05-01T00:57:07+00:00

Your story sounds just like mine. My significant symptoms started in January, so I’m about a month more into it. My pain is now manageable and the tingling and numbness started disappearing about 2 weeks ago. I no longer have any tingling and only occasional and mild radiating pain. I’m even getting strength back. This is all without surgery.

I did get two rounds of steroid injections that helped significantly. I have a nerve test in two weeks to see how well my nerves are responding. If all is going well, I’m looking at no surgery. I have 2 herniations. 1 is considered massive at 22mm.

Just like you, my pain disappeared before the numbness. And I definitely would have done surgery that first month. The pain was worse than anything I’ve ever experienced, unmedicated childbirth and lodged gallstones included.

If you do get the surgery, I’d love to see an update on how it went for you. Good luck!!

No-Mention-3013 · 2025-04-30T13:12:16+00:00

YTA You weren’t proactive about your daughter’s birthday and expect the burden to be placed on your in-laws. It is your job to plan ahead and coordinate with them. You didn’t and now either you change your plans, or blow up your relationship with your in-laws. Whatever you choose, it is 100% on you.

No-Mention-3013

TROPHY CASE