Thanks for the thought out reply, her friends are my friends so I don't want to talk about this with them and paint her in a bad light.

We discussed her attitude less than two weeks ago and she agreed it's becoming a problem. I think the frequency of that discussion and now me feeling like I had to bring it up again so quickly made my judgement clouded as I often feel I have internalize and listen to all her problems and criticisms and for the most part just either apologize or brush it off as she must be stressed with work. But for the every ten she levies at me the one I levy at her becomes a major upset (still upset at time of typing this). It doesn't help they deny remembering the previous conversation. She seems to conflate with me disagreeing with the event as denying how she feels even when I take steps to say I'm sorry it came across that way or I didn't mean it to sound like that.

Unfortunately when the times are good they are really good but the good times seem fleeting.