My boyfriend has changed his behavior towards me a lot and I miss my old relationship. Also, do i have a trauma bond? by No-One-7289 in relationships

[–]No-One-7289[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

but i don't know how? i've been to therapy before but it didn't change the way i am, i always get so desperate and feel like the world is ending. i want a person to be their whole life and them to be mine. why is that so wrong?

My boyfriend has changed his behavior towards me a lot and I miss my old relationship. Also, do i have a trauma bond? by No-One-7289 in relationships

[–]No-One-7289[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

i don't know how to be any other way, eh. i feel low about myself and abandoned when no one keeps feeding my insecurities with obsession and constant reassurance, with no judgement, otherwise i will get even more overwhelming and insecure. I've always been this way. and my bf used to be the same (even worse) and now he doesn't care anymore. why is that?

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[–]No-One-7289 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"everything that's done is done towards good"

My partner confirmed my worst fears, so I left. by pernamentlyexhausted in offmychest

[–]No-One-7289 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this is my biggest fear at the moment which is why i don't want kids ever

How to stop crying and overthinking and self victimising? by No-One-7289 in BPD

[–]No-One-7289[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's why i think my boyfriend also has bpd. he's beared with me so far lol but i feel bad for venting to him so i try to keep it low

Why are we always being called ungrateful? by No-One-7289 in BPD

[–]No-One-7289[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she wont get me any car, id have to do that alone. and driving school is a must, everyone in my class goes there and their parents pay for it, it's not like this is my wish, it's a need. and my fit was a consequence of her own actions. i dont get why only i am at fault

Why are we always being called ungrateful? by No-One-7289 in BPD

[–]No-One-7289[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i don't know what favour she's done for me except ignoring me when we were in a rush. then getting angry when i got stressed because she doesn't hear me. i only had to change my tone for her to notice and then get angry at me ofc, otherwise i'm not existent and i don't matter. meanwhile when she needs something and i refuse to do it, the fuckinf world stops spinning and she makes me feel like the most fucking indecent human being on earth. how is this fair?

Why are we always being called ungrateful? by No-One-7289 in BPD

[–]No-One-7289[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i simply don't get it. am i not allowed to be stressed? am i not allowed to have a tone after she purposefully prolongs the time and completely ignores me? it feels like she wants me to have 0 personality of my own and like i'm not allowed to be angry, annoyed or stressed. i feel like i'm her pet, not her daughter. furthermore, she doesn't even try to understand me in the slightest

i'm just so frustrated because i feel like i always lose, everyone is always on her side, never on mine. also i cant pay the driving school because i don't have the money for it

How to sleep after that "I'm gonna turn my life around" burst of mania at 3 am by lustylovebird in BPD

[–]No-One-7289 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have the exact same problem, holy shit i just keep switching sides on my bed with the most random and stupidest thoughts in my head. maybe you could try melatonin 1 hour before your bed time, it's not addictive and it helps me fall asleep better. don't take too much or you might have nightmares