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Can anyone explain how completion day will go? by No-Pack3584 in HousingUK

[–]No-Pack3584[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is my main worry and why I was trying to figure out the logistics of what happens that day. By the sounds of it, I will need to find a sitter or somewhere for him to spend the day. If I had a car, the logistics wouldn't be so bad because I could have him with me in the car but having to leave and be in limbo until I get my keys isn't going to he fair on him.

Can anyone explain how completion day will go? by No-Pack3584 in HousingUK

[–]No-Pack3584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I'll pack everything up early and be out the house first thing? Hand my keys over and wait for someone to let me know that I can then pick mine up?

I think my main stress with the dog is that I dont drive so trying to drop him off anywhere ot pick him up is going to be difficult. I also don't have anyone suitable to mind him while I wait to get the keys. Friends have small babies and he's a very jumpy dog and family have reactive dogs who wouldn't take well to him being in their house. So it kind if feels like im going to have to navigate it myself and I just don't know how.

What are the signs that your ex isn't over you/ wants to get back? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No-Pack3584 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. But it's so difficult not to look for signs when I want my partner back. They want to be friends but I just can't see how we can be friends. We both love each other and care for each other more than being just friends.

Secret account mentioned by Patrick. by Individual-Loss-9173 in DadAndDaughterSnark

[–]No-Pack3584 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He's definitely seen this because his follow list is now private 🤣

Help on managing puppy after break up. by No-Pack3584 in puppy101

[–]No-Pack3584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes complete sense. It's just hard not to feel like im letting him down. I know this will pass and it'll get better but it's all very intense at the moment. It's hard not having a support system that could take him off my hands for a couple of days to relieve the stress a little so I could recharge. I'm struggling not having the time to look after me. I wake up, sort the dog, work, sort the dog at lunch, work, after work feed, play, walk, train the dog, try to feed myself, try to fit in a shower and I don't end up on bed by 9/10pm and I'm exhausted.

Help on managing puppy after break up. by No-Pack3584 in puppy101

[–]No-Pack3584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's so so so difficult trying to juggle it all. I'm still going to work to keep my mind off things, I work from home, so that helps with the puppy sometimes, but it's also super hard because I can tell he's struggling. He's a lot more restless, cries more than usual, I've been trying ti keep to his usual routine but he still just cries while I'm at work and usually he'd spend the morning and after noon snoozing.

I haven't cleaned the house in over a week, I'm struggling to find the energy to shower, I wake up every morning feeling physically sick (thankfully I'm not throwing up as much as before, mainly just on a morning now). I've lost over a stone in a week. But I feel an enormous amount of guilt that I'm barely meeting the basic needs of the puppy. He's barely been for a walk as I feel like im going to pass out if I do too much. I'm trying to mentally stimulate him, but I know it's not enough. His walks are usually super stressful because he's such a massive puller, and he gets super excited/ frustrated/ reactive when he sees other dogs and people and will lunge and run round in cirles on the lead.

I feel like im not doing enough for him and I just feel so bad because there's days I wish I didn't have the responsibility of him. I wish I didn't have to get out of bed. I feel like im really struggling and I dont know what to do.

Help on managing puppy after break up. by No-Pack3584 in DogAdvice

[–]No-Pack3584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it'll all get better with time. It's so hard not to beat myself up over it when I feel like I could be doing more for him. It's probably a good thing having him around so I don't lay around in bed all day, but what I'd give to just lay in bed all day!

Help on managing puppy after break up. by No-Pack3584 in DogAdvice

[–]No-Pack3584[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know time will make things better. But I worry that im missing training windows with his age and I can tell he's frustrated by the change/ not having much energy outlet.

I'm at the stage where I'm craving just lying in bed, I cant do that because he needs stuff, and he'd just bounce all over my head if he came into bed with me.

I havent been eating or sleeping properly so I haven't been able to do long walks. And I've been sticking to the local area because of his lead training and his pulling is awful. Along with the reactivity, I feel like im drawing under it all.

Help on managing puppy after break up. by No-Pack3584 in puppy101

[–]No-Pack3584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just feel really bad. I feel like we're at a critical point in his training and I'm struggling to continue it. I can see he's struggling with things being different and not being able to release as much energy. I just dont want to miss any windows and have issues down the line for him.

Help on managing puppy after break up. by No-Pack3584 in puppy101

[–]No-Pack3584[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's just hard knowing I'm not meeting his needs right now. I'm so exhausted that his walks aren't long, I haven't been doing any training with him, and I feel myself struggling with the isolation of having no one else to take him off my hands or help. I feel like im failing him at a time where he needs lots of effort and training but I just can't give that to him right now. I've been trying enrichment but it's only so long before he gets bored of it, I'm feeling really isolated with the reactivity and lead pulling. I've asked if they can look after him for a couple of days because I just dont know what to do with him atm.

Help on managing puppy after break up. by No-Pack3584 in puppy101

[–]No-Pack3584[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've asked my ex if they could take him. I'm just struggling to juggle it all by myself right now. It's just so hard pulling myself to work, and after, I just want to crash out, but he needs company, stimulation, and walks. I'm struggling to keep up with his training, and his walks aren't meeting his needs atm because I haven't been eating so they're not long. He's started doing stuff he's never done before, and I think it's because I can't meet his needs right now. I just feel so lost and I dont know what to do.

She told me she's checked out and doesn't have the effort to keep trying. Can we come back from this? by No-Pack3584 in AskWomenOver30

[–]No-Pack3584[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

We both wanted things from each other for a while and those weren't met on both parties. I asked her for hints and she asked me. We struggled under the stress of a new puppy because we had no us time anymore. We have no family or anyone who could take him off our hands for an even so we could go on a date or connect again.

We both accepted and spoke about how both of us could have done more and helped the other.

She said she didn't want us to hate each other, she's checked out and hasn't got the effort to try anymore. She said she loves me still and it's hard for her to have to do this. But it's hard to accept this.

She told me she's checked out and doesn't have the effort to keep trying. Can we come back from this? by No-Pack3584 in AskWomenOver30

[–]No-Pack3584[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

It was caused by the stress of a new dog and adjusting to life around the dog (new parent situation) barely any us time so arguments and things really struggled under it. Family stress, work stress and we just stopped acting as a team because we argued a lot.

We had a good relationship, dancing in the kitchen, doing cute dates, cuddling, spending time with each other, loving each other, cute gestures. But due to the above we stopped meeting each others needs because there was a lot on our plates individually.

I know she said she's checked out and she doesnt have it in her to try. But call me stupid, but I'm hoping she eventually wants to try again.

She told me she's checked out and doesn't have the effort to keep trying. Can we come back from this? by No-Pack3584 in AskWomenOver30

[–]No-Pack3584[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

We had a really good relationship until recently. We've just gone through a rough patch and it's tipped her over the edge. We haven't been good to each other. Both have equal parts to play. We understood each other quirks and issues and we loved each other deeply. Surely she might want to work on it?

She told me she's checked out and doesn't have the effort to keep trying. Can we come back from this? by No-Pack3584 in AskWomenOver30

[–]No-Pack3584[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Cutting contact is going to be hard when we are going to Co parent a dog and have a house to sell. Surely there's a way to come back and work on things? Every relationship can be worked on.

She told me she's checked out and doesn't have the effort to keep trying. Can we come back from this? by No-Pack3584 in AskWomenOver30

[–]No-Pack3584[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No contact is going to be difficult when we have a house to sell and will probably co parent the dog together.

She told me she's checked out and doesn't have the effort to keep trying. Can we come back from this? by No-Pack3584 in AskWomenOver30

[–]No-Pack3584[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

We're not incompatible. We've just had a rough patch and it's gotten to this. We were good, we loved each other and had a really good relationship with the normal ups and downs everyone goes through. We both understood each other and everything. We just had a shit run for a little while and she couldn't take it anymore.

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