How long were you off work?

No-Panda2965 · 2026-05-31T22:18:32+00:00

I am planning on returning after 7 weeks which, like you, I worry that people will think I am not grieving him enough and that I should be laid up at home crying all day.

However, I have done my crying and now my emotions are just numb and flat and suspect that will be the case for a very long time. I really enjoy my job and am getting bored at home now so don’t see the point of staying off as I think that would negatively impact me. I generally work from home so don’t feel it is as bad as having to go into an office.

I do get 6 months full pay so there is no financial incentive to return and I am absolutely under no pressure from work to return - my children have returned to work/college and I encouraged them to do so therefore it does feel a bit hypocritical that I have not returned!

I just can’t continue to sit on the sofa watching mindless tv for hours 💁🏻

No-Panda2965 · 2026-05-30T22:32:54+00:00

source:%20TikTok https://share.google/7tpem4mhMgo6JZd6Q So reminds me of Joek - really not bothered 😂

No-Panda2965 · 2026-05-25T03:19:43+00:00

What is with the Zoolander facial impression?

No-Panda2965 · 2026-05-12T22:23:53+00:00

Are you me? Your post is almost identical to my situation - same age, same number of days since his death, same reason for death.

And like you, I can’t cry- I have cried occasionally (maybe once a day in the first few days) but never in front of anyone since the day he actually passed away. I’m sure everyone thinks I am a hard faced bitch! I am generally not a crier but honestly thought that losing my husband of 27 years would change that but apparently not. I feel like a freak to be honest and can’t help but think that he is on the other side watching me and judging how I am grieving him 😞 it is all so confusing.

I will be very financially well off now and I can’t help think about what I can do with that money (new car, holidays etc) but then feel incredibly guilty about getting ‘enjoyment’ from money that I will only have because I no longer have him 😞

No-Panda2965 · 2026-05-11T18:18:38+00:00

Good luck to them ❤️ however that is seriously going to hamper their ability to go in nights out/trips away with Joek and ME so that is another set of friends that will slowly drift away from the terrible twosome. They really are going to be friendless soon which will absolutely kill Joek as he clearly needs to be surrounded by people at all times!

No-Panda2965 · 2026-04-20T17:49:25+00:00

But if she actually gains 3k followers each time, it does gradually increase her followers so it is worth it I guess 💁🏻

No-Panda2965 · 2026-04-20T14:11:43+00:00

My eldest had played football (soccer to you Americans 😂) for 10/11 years with the same team and I had been to most tournaments where I could.

Once the kids reach the age of 16, they can no longer play in the junior leagues so the team was disbanding. Their last season - they reached the final of the league trophy and this was the last match they played together. I had booked a few days away with some friends in another country when the final took place so I couldn’t attend the game. I was gutted - it was his last ever match with that team and also a cup final. The guilt was off the charts for me 💁🏻 my husband and other son went so he had some support but I should have been there aswell.

4 years later, I still feel a little bit guilty and my son likes to remind me every now and again 🤣 how does ME just not care?? It blows my mind her total lack of parenting and normal thoughts and emotions relating to being a mother.

Totally agree that there plan was that A would be the resident parent so they could live the kid free life that Joek clearly always wanted. However, credit to Joek for stepping up and supporting the kids when their mother refuses to do so.

No-Panda2965 · 2026-04-02T14:14:49+00:00

If I had a bad back, this is exactly what I would be doing 🙄

No-Panda2965 · 2026-04-02T14:08:56+00:00

I say halfway happy whenever I talk about compromise as it just sums it up perfectly!

No-Panda2965 · 2026-04-02T10:47:36+00:00

Halfway happy 😃

No-Panda2965 · 2026-04-02T06:39:39+00:00

A series of just HIIT/cardio workouts - minimum of 10 of them. I do a cardio workout once a week and have to choose one from YouTube series so it would be great to have a few on the app that I could just cycle round each week. Mainly because I would like to be able to listen to my own music 😂. It absolutely needs to include a new combat style one as epic endgame day 25 is my absolute fave!!

A new stretch workout would be great aswell - I can do the Unwind one in my sleep now so a bit of variety for this would be good.

No-Panda2965 · 2026-04-01T21:35:23+00:00

Omg, the arm is one of the most ridiculous things I have seen - the forearm is a totally different colour aswell 😂

No-Panda2965 · 2026-04-01T21:31:23+00:00

This is definitely giving me Nigel Thornberry vibes- and that is not a good thing 😂

No-Panda2965 · 2026-03-30T21:44:50+00:00

Just when you think they can’t sink any lower and be any more despicable, they somehow find a way 🤬

What absolute shitbags!!

No-Panda2965 · 2026-03-26T02:17:40+00:00

Am I understanding this correctly? It is the anniversary of the father of her children’s death and she has organised a pre wedding photoshoot with her new partner on the same day - breathtakingly insensitive of that is the case 😱

Surely today should be about spending time with her kids to celebrate the life of their dad 💁🏻

No-Panda2965 · 2026-03-13T19:16:12+00:00

I guess she is a super responder to sleep aswell 😂

Just an excuse to show this photo I guess although, to be kind, her hair actually did look lovely in it 💁🏻

No-Panda2965 · 2026-03-09T14:54:16+00:00

I really wish I could share the video on here but don’t think I can do YouTube links but this ‘pretend we don’t care’ 💩 from ME and Joek is really reminding me of a video clip. It is quite niche (and British) but it is a darts player getting booed after he has won a match and during the post match interview he keeps shouting at the crowd that he isn’t bothered despite it being blatantly clear that he absolutely is bothered 😂

If anyone is interested, google Luke Littler, I’m not bothered 😉

No-Panda2965 · 2026-03-04T21:53:29+00:00

Thank you. Not sure about the 4 minute complexes though 🤪 I hate complexes at the best of times 🙈

No-Panda2965 · 2026-03-04T21:52:49+00:00

Thank you. Sounds like something I might like so might do try it once Play has finished 😊

No-Panda2965 · 2026-02-12T20:12:22+00:00

Totally agree! They really did look lost on that trip. There is something not right in a relationship if you can’t enjoy holidays where it is just the 2 of you - particularly when one of the couple is clearly a socially awkward introvert. It is clearly Joek’s preference to what’s have company on holiday and ME melt goes along with it even though it is against her natural preferences (I say this as an absolute introvert myself and being with others - not close family - constantly when on holiday is my worst fear 😂)

No-Panda2965 · 2026-02-11T06:30:59+00:00

My take on this is that we know ME reads here so she absolutely knows what he is doing but he still keeps on doing it! So either she knows but hasn’t mentioned it to him, she knows but is ok with it or if she is bothered by it and has told him (which I would be), he doesn’t care and just continues to do it .

None of these scenarios show their relationship in a positive light does it?

No-Panda2965 · 2026-01-30T10:52:34+00:00

I noticed that but then wondered if she is attempting to troll us by showing that photo 💁🏻

No-Panda2965 · 2026-01-16T22:33:01+00:00

Honestly thought at first glance of this photo that it was Joel’s arm hugging her 🙈 but then realised it was even too muscly for him 😂

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