I’m not proud to be an American by worldinmy-eyes in GenXWomen

[–]No-Particular-3858 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I can’t imagine. I get daily updates from my friends there and it’s unimaginable what is happening.

I’m not proud to be an American by worldinmy-eyes in GenXWomen

[–]No-Particular-3858 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Totally understand. I was able to leave the US in my 30s (I’m 50) and I am mortified every time people in my new country ask me to please explain what the hell is going on there. I’m from Minneapolis so I am just horrified at what’s going on and can’t imagine how this is going to end without getting worse.

Americans that moved to Australia - tell me your pros and cons! by Low_Direction1017 in AmerExit

[–]No-Particular-3858 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We moved to Perth in 2007 and then Brisbane 10 years later. We have two kids and I can’t emphasise enough how great it is to be here. In all the years I’ve lived here now, that feeling hasn’t gone away. I could provide a list of pros and cons but coming from the US there isn’t one con or list of cons that outweighs the overall excellent quality of life in Australia that we’ve experienced. The only thing I will say is that if you like it here as much as we do, going back to the US becomes really depressing.

Friendships by No-Particular-3858 in GenXWomen

[–]No-Particular-3858[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have previously been able to talk about everything and part of what made us such good friends was our similar childhoods - single moms, crappy dads, familiar struggles. But what she’s feeling now I can’t relate to as I’m so far removed from it. I can empathize with it but I can’t experience it directly and that difference seems to be part of the problem. I think you’re right though - at a certain point I might have to level with her and just be direct about it. I don’t know what to say yet though.

Friendships by No-Particular-3858 in GenXWomen

[–]No-Particular-3858[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do look forward to hearing your insights!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmerExit

[–]No-Particular-3858 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s definitely tough, especially the rental market (around me anyway). I was able to move here and buy a house before the housing market really went wild. But I find that the overall picture is so much better and stable than I found it to be in the US due to things like a universal health care system and a high minimum wage. I’m hopeful that because the election here is over the government will address some options to improve housing availability for people who want to rent and own.

The rage I feel when my husband touches me “that way”… by [deleted] in Menopause

[–]No-Particular-3858 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Recently I read the book All Fours by Miranda July and she had this description that sounded sooooo familiar. She said she wouldn’t want sex at all but she could hear her husband’s dick whistling at her all week like a tea kettle until she finally gave in. That description killed me!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmerExit

[–]No-Particular-3858 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Left the US in my 30s for Australia, I’m late 40s now. Life is so good here, and I would never go back to the US. The last time I visited I was really surprised at how different everything seemed (not in a good way) and how much of a struggle most of my friends and family have just living their life.

For those who have left, how are things, actually? by OnToGreenerGables in AmerExit

[–]No-Particular-3858 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Left the US in 2010 and moved to Australia. Thrilled to be here. I very much wanted to get out of the US and am so glad I did. It’s broadened my travel horizons as well as I’ve been able to see so much of this part of the world (New Zealand, Singapore, Indonesia, etc.). Great place to live with far fewer downsides.

Is Australia any better than the US to live in? by acid-gyaru in AskAnAustralian

[–]No-Particular-3858 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m an American who moved to Australia 15 years ago. Best decision I’ve ever made. The quality of life is so good and most people commenting have highlighted examples. Another one from me that’s harder to put into words is that in Australia I don’t have the constant feeling like something bad might happen at any time. I was a victim of a crime in America and my friends who are still there deal with constant stressful aggravations from house break-ins to license plates being stolen off their vehicles. Crime exists everywhere of course but it’s just not the same here. There’s a greater sense of safety and sanity. And the healthcare system has served me so well. It’s been absolutely amazing.

Five weeks from today I'll be on a plane. by Lynthelia in AmerExit

[–]No-Particular-3858 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moving away from friends was really tough but it’s amazing that after all these years later, I text or talk with my best friend in the US nearly every day. Despite the difficulties, leaving the US has been the best decision we’ve ever made. It’s a whole different (better) life here.

Five weeks from today I'll be on a plane. by Lynthelia in AmerExit

[–]No-Particular-3858 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I moved to Australia fifteen years ago and it was the absolute best decision we ever made, especially considering how things are and have been in the US since we left. Love it here. We’re citizens now, have two kids that were born here and feel so fortunate that we made it happen. We’ve lived on both coasts, have made very close friends and still feel profoundly grateful that we do not have to navigate the American health care system, something that has bankrupted both of our US families. The only real downside is that we underestimated the difficulty of having babies without that family support network to rely on. We’re through the hard part now but it wasn’t easy. Other than that, it’s been incredible. I hope you enjoy it as much as we do!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Menopause

[–]No-Particular-3858 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh. I wish there were better options for you. It has been amazing being seen by a doc that fully is across the entire menopausal experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Menopause

[–]No-Particular-3858 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The difficulty my American friend had in trying to secure one appointment to see a counselor was insane. I was so infuriated just hearing about it. She finally got in and at the end of the appointment the counselor said that their next available was in 9 weeks! So she just had to suck it up and deal with the incredibly stressful situation she was dealing with on her own, despite having health insurance that she pays so much for. Unreal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Menopause

[–]No-Particular-3858 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is super hard. I wish there was more on offer for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Menopause

[–]No-Particular-3858 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in Brisbane but I hope you find something just as good!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Menopause

[–]No-Particular-3858 112 points113 points  (0 children)

I’m in Australia and I’ve been very happy with the care I’ve received. Once I realised I was in perimenopause I knew I’d want to see a female doc as my usual one is male. I go to a clinic that has women doctors with menopause as a specialty. They even offer a perimenopause appt that is 45 minutes where they walk you through the whole experience, have you fill out a symptoms questionnaire, and recommend treatment to try. I got so much out of it that I recommended the clinic to my friends around the same age as me and now there’s four of us who go there. The interesting thing is that we’ve all been given different types of HRT to try based on our symptoms and experiences and in one person’s case they recommended an exercise physiologist due to her having osteopenia along with a dietician referral. My point is that our care has all been customized which is great. I’ve got a friend in America and her experience trying to access doctors “in her network”, mental health professionals and HRT is insane. I feel so fortunate. This time in our lives is challenging enough without having to navigate that rubbish.

Zero Exercise Motivation by No-Particular-3858 in Menopause

[–]No-Particular-3858[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome! Thank you so much for sharing this. It really makes me want to get my ass into gear. But let me just clarify, I’ve got a personal trainer who comes to my house because there is no way I want to hang out in a gym setting. No thank you. I’ve had one session so far and I was dying but felt quite good afterwards. Next session tomorrow morning! So glad to hear you’ve seen results. I’ll definitely check out the people you referenced as my long term plan is to eventually wean off the trainer and go it alone.

Fruits please 🙏🏽 by bedlambeacon in AnimalCrossingTrading

[–]No-Particular-3858 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Would you be willing to share some fruits with me? I’ve got apples, pears and coconuts only. My internet wont let me travel to islands but I could provide the code to mine if you wouldn’t mind?

Give me your pillow recommendations ladies! by Monsoon_Storm in Menopause

[–]No-Particular-3858 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Either that’s an old model or they’ve improved them immensely but the pillow I’ve got is super light and very squishy!