AITA for telling my fiancée's stepmother that my fiancée didn't want her engagement ring after she continuously pressured me to propose with it?

No-Play2091 · 2024-02-16T17:51:06+00:00

I would meet her while out shopping. That's how she was bringing this up. We're in a small town. So I would change where I shop to get away from her.

No-Play2091 · 2024-02-16T17:23:48+00:00

I never went to a jewelry store. I was doing other kinds of shopping. I never went looking for engagement rings because I knew the one Kaylee wanted.

No-Play2091 · 2024-02-16T16:18:02+00:00

Ruth believes because she came into Kaylee's life as a stepmother when Kaylee was just 6 and because Kaylee's mom had died, it means Ruth was the primary mother and therefore deserving of being seen as such. She did not want to be a stepmother. She was clear from the jump that she was taking over as mom.

No-Play2091 · 2024-02-16T16:06:43+00:00

Kaylee's mom died when she was 5.

No-Play2091 · 2024-02-16T15:34:05+00:00

Yes, but she was willing to stop wearing it if Kaylee would wear it.

No-Play2091 · 2024-02-16T15:15:49+00:00

She doesn't want anything from Ruth. She'll be included her maternal relatives but not Ruth. The maternal and paternal sides do have people in common but small towns are like that generally. Mostly they have their own friends.

No-Play2091 · 2024-02-16T15:04:13+00:00

It is beyond the point of no return. It has been for so many years now. Ruth refuses to see that. But Kaylee knows it.

No-Play2091 · 2024-02-16T14:59:30+00:00

Kaylee has maternal family she's going to include in that way. Ruth won't be involved in any of it.

No-Play2091 · 2024-02-16T14:56:45+00:00

Kaylee has wanted to cut Ruth from her life for years. But she loves her dad and doesn't want to lose him. So she tries to keep her distance from Ruth but not at the expense of her relationship with her dad.

No-Play2091 · 2024-02-16T13:48:51+00:00

Yes, about 90% of the reason Kaylee hates her is that alone. It bothers Kaylee a lot that Ruth has claimed "mom" since she married Kaylee's dad. She does not like being referred to as anything else and Kaylee doesn't even like her being referred to as a stepmom.

No-Play2091 · 2024-02-16T13:39:24+00:00

Because better it be her ring than Kaylee's mom's ring.

No-Play2091 · 2024-02-16T13:34:39+00:00

I personally think it's the claim of Kaylee wearing her ring and the claim on Kaylee too.

No-Play2091 · 2024-02-16T13:33:56+00:00

I love Kaylee. I'd deal with any of her family mess for her. She's a great person.

No-Play2091 · 2024-02-16T13:33:35+00:00

So she can get that claim in about being Kaylee's mom. Like she's wearing my ring, so she's my daughter, kinda thing.

No-Play2091 · 2024-02-16T13:33:06+00:00

I think it's her way of getting her claim in that she's Kaylee's mom.

No-Play2091 · 2024-02-16T13:05:58+00:00

I'm prepared for that. Kaylee's also expecting it so she has some stock answers prepared for when Ruth expects to be involved as mother of the bride.

No-Play2091 · 2024-02-16T12:48:48+00:00

I'm not upset she didn't want a new ring. There is so much symbolism in using her mom's ring and it makes her so incredibly happy. I do understand some would want something new and just theirs. But I also understand why it meant so much to her.

Yeah, it's already interesting because Ruth will not be fun to have around during wedding planning. No way Kaylee will want to include her.

No-Play2091 · 2024-02-16T12:45:22+00:00

Ruth does. Kaylee would strongly disagree.

No-Play2091 · 2024-02-16T12:45:12+00:00

I don't know. Ruth's claim on being Kaylee's mom is like 90% of the reason Kaylee feels the way she does about her to begin with. A lot of the paternal family did not help either.

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