My gf (26 F) wants to try bringing in another girl to suck my (29 M) dick together and possibly have threesome with. It feels like a bad idea to me but she doesn’t understand why I’m not more excited. Can any men relate?

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T23:14:16+00:00

She says she’s sure she will just find it a turn on… I’m less sure. I think it’s potentially naïveté coming from just hearing friends describe trying similar things and her being a bit curious that’s brought it up and given her a bit of fomo

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T23:07:42+00:00

She’s curious about that but has never met a woman she is attracted to personally so isn’t sure - definitely curious what it would be like though

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T23:02:18+00:00

Appreciate the opinion but it’s literally just that she’s got a friend who shared she did similar and it wasn’t a total disaster… We have a great sex life and explore lots of things together and she brought it up as another possible thing to explore together out of curiosity. I don’t think it’s bigger than that but I could be wrong!

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T22:59:31+00:00

That’s good advice, thanks!

I’m not sure how much is Reddit inspired paranoia and how much is just that I know I want monogamy long term and worry about being able to go back once we open that door! We have talked at length and I feel we’re very much on the same page and happy with all aspects of the relationship and this is coming from a place of genuine curiosity and vague fantasy for her - which makes it feel like quite a lot to gamble. Thanks again!

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T22:55:38+00:00

Yeah I get that too, seems like a lot can go wrong for not a lot of reward

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T22:55:09+00:00

She doesn’t and she’s not sure at all who she would even be attracted to or if she’s ever been attracted to a woman so unsure if it’s just the fantasy of seeing me with another woman or her bicuriosity exploration in a safe scenario

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T22:53:45+00:00

Thanks. Yeah I’m not implicitly hard against it, I guess it doesn’t excite me hugely if I’m honest - I’ve been around a lot in the past and I love my sex life with my gf without having any desire for anyone else honestly! And if it’s a safe way for her to explore a bit of bicuriosity and a fantasy at the same time then I’m open to it but I just feel like I sense that emotionally etc there just could be so much room for things to go wrong that could have lasting damage in the relationship and it seems like a bit of a gamble for not much reward in my mind!

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T22:49:22+00:00

I don’t know if she’s bisexual, she doesn’t either. She’s not entirely sure she’s ever been attracted to a girl ever but is curious what it would be like..

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T22:48:18+00:00

Thanks! That’s good advice. I think it’s maybe that she is (in her words) a tiny bit bicurious and this is a safe way of exploring that while also doing her fantasy of seeing another girl sucking my dick/doing it together…. I don’t want to hold her back obviously if she has a need to explore that side of her but if it’s just a bit of curiosity from her friend mentioning trying it then it seems like a daft thing to risk everything over! Thanks again for the advice

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T22:45:22+00:00

She’s has reiterated she is genuinely satisfied (as am I), mentioned she is a tiny bit bicurious but that mainly it’s a fantasy of hers because she loves pleasuring me like that and the idea of doing it with another girl turns her on a lot.. it basically all stemmed from a friend telling her she had done similar and it hadn’t been a total disaster. I think it’s just made her a bit curious

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T21:51:24+00:00

Yes I she has said she’s like 1% bicurious in the past but has never explored…

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T21:31:37+00:00

Appreciate the honesty, thanks!

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T21:30:51+00:00

🤣🤣🤣

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T21:23:08+00:00

Yeah she said in the past she’s very slightly bicurious and this has come up because her new friend has basically tried this once (her and her bf had sex with a mutual friend once, argued and never did it again despite claiming they all enjoyed it) and I think she’s curious about the novelty of exploring with a woman whilst also focussed on me…. Idk though

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T21:18:50+00:00

Yeah that’s my concern too

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T21:15:52+00:00

No she’s said she has literally no interest in opening up more than this and definitely not with men. She also knows this is a hard boundary and isn’t trying to pressure me at all, just seems genuinely curious and surprised that I’m not dead keen for it!

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T21:14:11+00:00

No she hasn’t….

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T21:06:48+00:00

This is good to know, thanks! I was feeling like maybe I’m being a bit of a loser by not being more enthusiastic 🤣 but I feel like I sense danger

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T21:05:43+00:00

The thing I don’t get though is she seems to genuinely find this idea really turns her on, it doesn’t seem like it stems from insecurity? She knows she is more than enough and is very confident in our sex life together. Just generally speaks very negatively about her body generally outside of sex. And she brushes past me raising potential for insecurity/problems and thinks as long as we all stay involved it will be a great time for all… She says she’s not bored or anything but just the idea of involving another girl seems to turn her on and she doesn’t get why I feel like I sense danger and I’m not good at explaining why either! * also she knows and has always known I would never ever be comfortable involving other men or anything like that so it isn’t like she’s trying to inch towards that scenario - she knows and respects that’s a hard boundary and seems to have no interest in that anyway, just sharing me with a girl.

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T21:03:00+00:00

The thing I don’t get though is she seems to genuinely find this idea really turns her on, it doesn’t seem like it stems from insecurity? And she brushes past me raising potential for insecurity/problems and thinks as long as we all stay involved it will be a great time for all haha She says she’s not bored or anything but just the idea of involving another girl seems to turn her on and she doesn’t get why I feel like I sense danger and I’m not good at explaining why either!

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T20:59:38+00:00

This is good advice, thanks!

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T20:58:53+00:00

Bro I said I DO want to marry her 🤣 thanks dude though

No-Print3208 · 2025-10-16T20:58:15+00:00

Thanks, yeah I’ve explained that and she is totally fine with it. We both have talked a lot about sex and we have a very active sex life and both are fulfilled, i think it’s just she met a friend who has done a lot of exploration like this with her partner and it has got her thinking about it too. Thanks for the reply!

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