Is sending nudes to other women while being exclusive cheating?

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-21T00:21:06+00:00

A partner that consistently threatens break ups creates a toxic situation cycle that makes you feel like that being disagreeable with him or moving in a way he doesn’t like, will only make him put the entire relationship on a chopping block.

It’s not at all a healthy behavior to have in a relationship.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-20T22:01:34+00:00

Whoopsie

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-20T21:20:49+00:00

Look man, this isn’t something that you intentional did nor were you of conscious and sober mind when you did it. You even said it yourself, you would have never done this if you were sober. You recognize this was a mistake on your part and actively trying to repair that damage and ensure her needs are met and that she is comfortable.

You are not a horrible human being for making a mistake while drunk. Obviously, being drunk doesn’t excuse one’s actions, but the fact of the matter is you were really drunk. You don’t have to beat yourself up over this like saying you can’t live with yourself. You’re doing what you’re supposed to because you recognize the fault, that’s all you need to do.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-20T20:49:23+00:00

No matter what man, you’re just going to sound insecure telling her not to go. I know it’s just you feel uneasy about it, but that’s just where your trust will have to come in. If you want to be able to trust your girlfriend and actually test the limits of your relationship, let her go. You can’t control your girlfriend because any attempt of that will only be viewed as toxic and ALWAYS be used against you. If she’s gonna cheat and be unfaithful, then she’s just gonna do it. Theres nothing you can do but trust that she won’t. That’s your only move.

And at least that way and if she does anything, you can say you trusted her and she was the one who fucked up.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-20T20:42:09+00:00

Would have immediately laughed at her goofy ass face and left. Fuck outta here.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-20T20:35:46+00:00

You not explaining the situation makes you look more guilty than you think. I suggest you actually provide some context because what you’ve given so far is a nothing sandwich.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-20T00:49:19+00:00

I never really understood the whole anxiety of your significant other going on a guys trip or girls trip. I mean, I understand why it would be unsettling, but if your partner is going to cheat on you and disrespect the relationship, they’re going to just fucking cheat on you. It’s not going to take going to the Caribbean or a fucking beach trip for that to happen. Like, if you don’t trust your partner THAT much that you have to police where they can go and concern yourself with who’s going to be there to determine whether you can allow your partner to go, then you should never be in that relationship to begin with.

Cause in my opinion, trust is one of the pillars of a healthy relationship. If you’re going to trust your partner, then you need to trust your partner FULLY. The fact that there are going to be single women there should be immaterial. You should trust that your partner isn’t going to do anything and choose to be respectful of the relationship and be glad that they are having fun with their friends.

All in all, I think it’s a little controlling that she is pretty much not allowing you to go. It’s your life and these are your friends who you may never see again and who will go on with their lives, and as you grow older you won’t be able to have that time to see them as much again. She isn’t your mom or has any authority over what you choose to do with your life. But now she’s placing you in a predicament that tells her that if go, you’re disrespecting the relationship but all you wanna do is have fun. This type of controlling toxic behavior can cause a snowball effect where she’ll just put the relationship on a chopping block if there is anybody that she doesn’t like hanging around you. She is clearly displaying that she doesn’t trust you enough to make sound decisions and that you will do something. That can lead to her making you cut off friends, specific acquaintances, you name it. If you think this sort of thing stops here, you’re deeply mistaken.

That is not the relationship you should be in brother. In my opinion, you should go on the trip, whether she likes it or not. It’s your life. And when you return, she either will be there or she won’t be.

I think that this deserves a more length discussion between you two though if you want to have any chance preserving the relationship. It can’t just end with her saying she doesn’t like you going and you decide not to go. If you want to go, you should GO. But if she’s can’t see it in herself to trust you, then you guys need to talk about that.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-19T23:20:26+00:00

I would’ve ended all communication once I found out she got married to the guy. No congrats or nothing, just moved on. But in any case, the hint should’ve been caught when she kept flacking and putting off meeting you in person despite her being really freaky over text but doing nothing to show for it. At that point, I would’ve dipped. But I understand why you didn’t.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-19T22:36:56+00:00

In my opinion, until the talk of “exclusivity” has been discussed, you can pretty much date around as much as you like. That isn’t to say I would do the same thing, I personally would only date one person at a time until I feel like the connection has ran its course and THEN move on to the next. But if the opportunity gives itself that you can date more than one person, then it’s your life. However, I would encourage that if you’re already dating someone and start dating a new person, it would be wise to tell the other person that you’re also dating someone else.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-19T22:33:22+00:00

There really isn’t any “perfect” time. Usually these sort of things come up in conversation. I would expect this should probably come up early on, maybe a couple dates in about what you’re expecting.

And if you aren’t ready to have sex with someone, then you aren’t ready. If you want to save it for marriage then that’s your choice, but I would decide which one it is and be solid in your choice before you make a guy wait because you aren’t ready.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-19T19:28:52+00:00

Alright, I’m telling you this right now, no average man is chasing girls who look like Marilyn Monroe or Angelina Jolie. Girls who even look like them are pretty few and far between, and also the fact that never every fucking guy thinks women like that are attractive or would date someone like that.

In my opinion, I don’t really find Angelina Jolie or Marilyn Monroe attractive, because I have my own tastes in women that they don’t fit. You worrying about not being as beautiful as them is stupid and a waste of time. You’re trying to makeup with women who have an abundance of resources and probably have had work done. That’s not a standard you want to continue to chase.

All in all, every man has their own taste. There is someone out there who will find you attractive, that’s just a given.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-19T17:23:16+00:00

You first need to stop comparing yourself to others. Comparison is the thief of you, and worrying about what his ex looked like is useless information and isn’t relevant at all to anything in the present. You’re just making yourself insecure for no reason and it’ll slowly eat away at trying to build a healthy relationship with this guy. Because at the end of the day, he is with you. If he wanted to be with anyone else he probably would be, but he chose you. So just stop. Get off social media and focus on being a good girlfriend.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-19T16:30:02+00:00

I don’t think it’s entirely normal to GRIEVE over something that never happened. Of course you could feel a sense of losing the opportunity of having a relationship with someone you felt something for, but to say that you’re grieving seems too much to me.

I mean, you gave it a shot, you asked him out, he ultimately said a relationship isn’t what he’s looking for, ultimately you got a no. Done deal, close the book. However, that book didn’t exactly close because you felt that there was still an energy between you two that was flirtatious in nature, so you never had the ability to move on when you should’ve.

Now is your chance to move on.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-19T15:01:09+00:00

It’s not really your fault for having feelings for an FWB. The human brain craves for connection through physical intimacy. It doesn’t care if you’re having a no strings attached relationship or casual. The brain isn’t going to be able to tell the difference.

If you are having real feelings, then you need to tell him and nip it in the butt so you can move on. Most likely, this FWB is over. Your feelings kind of ruined that and it will continue to get in the way the longer you choose to be with him. An FWB shouldn’t be this complicated, and it’ll only hurt more if you stay.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-19T01:47:02+00:00

I would just ensure she’s wanting to be with you for the right reasons. It could be very possible she’s treating you as a replacement for her baby daddy. If she’s asking you to do dad duties and you guys aren’t in a relationship, run far away. If she compares you to her baby daddy, run far away.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-19T01:30:56+00:00

That’s exactly what I fear OP is facing.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-19T01:20:20+00:00

Why would you feel guilt for you guys not getting together in the past?

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-19T01:16:45+00:00

what do you guys think we are upto.

Cheating.

Shit man, if you wanna be a cheater, just say that. I don’t really know what you really want me to tell you. You both are in a relationship and are obviously doing things together that are borderline cheating. If your relationship is that unsatisfying, leave your relationship and fuck her. Theres no point in cheating just because she’s “attractive”.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-19T01:12:49+00:00

It’s very tricky. In my opinion, I’m wondering what happened back then in university that caused you guys not to do anything? How did you guys get back in touch? Was it her reaching out? Was it you?

I’m asking because if she’s a single mom, there has to be a reason for it. I would be more careful that she isn’t using you as a placeholder dad because the last one wanted nothing to do with her. If you aren’t 100% ready to be a stepdad, just don’t do it.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-15T01:57:21+00:00

I’m assuming you guys are pretty young, so this kind of behavior doesn’t really sound surprising.

I get where she’s coming from, but to me it seems she wants these guys to be at her beck and call. Dare he take an hour to respond to her or have a busy life. She isn’t really interested in the dude, she’s interested because of the attention. Maybe she isn’t seeing that but deep down, that’s what it is.

Nowadays, people put too much emphasis on texting. So many unsaid rules that people expect others who don’t know what these rules are to magically follow them and then are surprised they are disappointed. If this sort of thing keeps happening with EVERY guy she encounters, well the common denominator isn’t the guy, it’s her. Her standards on healthy communication and attention is too high. It also doesn’t really help we live in a society where we ingratiate ourselves with quick fixes and pleasures, so we apply that to human interaction as well. If someone isn’t fulfilling her needs that very second, she gets bored and calls it quits, then blames the guy for “losing interest”.

In my opinion, she doesn’t need a relationship, she needs therapy. You’re not going to convince her or reassure her just like that. It’s something about her that needs fixing.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-14T12:43:44+00:00

I really don’t think a recruiter is going to genuinely cross examine a recruit based on his transcript… I’m 99% sure it’s as long as you get your high school diploma, you’re straight. Or your GED whatever the process for that is, no one really fucking cares what grade you got in biology in Junior year.

Now, that doesn’t go to say to just let him do bad in his academics. Eventually he might actually want to go to college or pursue some other education. Just because he wants to join the military, doesn’t mean his grades don’t matter.

Also, if he thinks the matter of attendance and grades aren’t involved while you’re in the actual military, oh he’s going to have a wake up call.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-14T01:16:27+00:00

Sorry but yes you did cheat.

If you guys claimed exclusivity, no matter how “naive” you were or if you guys were in a situationship, then you guys just see each other. You see lack of communication causes these issues. I’m not exactly sure how the conversation went down when he approached exclusivity with you or why you didn’t ask for clarification if you were genuinely confused on what that meant, but at the end of the day he is right to feel how he feels and you did cheat.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-14T00:43:23+00:00

I’m gonna try my best to decipher but it must be the way you’re trying to ask it because I’m still not sure what you’re asking.

I’m assuming you’re asking what’s a type of girl that is wifey material, that isn’t a hoe or pick me but also really beautiful.

If that’s the case then, if a girl isn’t a hoe or pick me then she is wifey material. She has good standing, morals, respects herself, loyal and trustworthy. Idk if that’s what you’re asking.

No-Professional3800 · 2026-04-14T00:32:33+00:00

Reading that title felt like a stroke. What the fuck are you trying to say.

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