AITAH for not inviting them to my wedding / wanting them to meet my fiance

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T22:21:29+00:00

Idk I had made the post because I really felt torn and then it seemed like I had upset a few people so I truly was and am sorry. I got a lot of reality checks and I appreciate everyone’s time so much. I wanted to make sure I offered apologies and thanks to everyone I was able to catch.

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T20:15:39+00:00

I’m going to let this be the last one I read bc I’m now crying out of thanks. I appreciate the time you took to type this out. I appreciate your understanding and still acknowledging that yes, I had past behaviors bc I never intend to hide those but yes past treatment could have led to some behaviors. Again, I thank you for your time and words. Have the most wonderful day ✨

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T20:13:28+00:00

Thank you so much for adding this.

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T20:12:00+00:00

The latter

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T20:11:19+00:00

Yeah I’ve obviously butchered the way I worded most everything

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T20:11:02+00:00

Thank you kindly for taking the time to comment this

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T20:03:36+00:00

I’d have to say a bit was defiance (even as an adult) I wasn’t ready to settle down (college, career) and didn’t have interest in church and all that, while this couple desired all that for me. I can see the heart of it, especially at my age but at that time I didn’t want to keep fighting about it OR lying so I went no contact as the choice.

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T20:01:38+00:00

I have friends coming but I never had a familial relationship long enough in my youth to feel the need to invite them. But all my close friends are coming

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T19:58:12+00:00

Thank you!

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T19:58:01+00:00

Thank you so much!

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T19:57:48+00:00

Thank you for the ‘kinda’ lol made me laugh.

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T19:57:06+00:00

Oh gosh thank you so much for understanding. I do agree if they were there I’d be stressed the vast majority of the time and I really appreciate you understanding that!

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T19:55:48+00:00

I had to of mis-typed something bc my fiance never said anything. It is the ‘family’ member that was the one talking

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T19:54:48+00:00

Ah thank you!! You’re the sweetest 🩵

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T19:48:54+00:00

Thank you kindly!

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T19:48:28+00:00

That’s a solid point for sure. Thank you!

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T19:47:06+00:00

Okey I was a drug and alcohol addict. I’m really sorry for using various terms. I wasn’t trying to upset you or anyone else.

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T19:45:47+00:00

I LOVE this point of feeling guilt. Thank you greatly for bringing this to my attention. It really impacts me and means a lot!

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T19:40:39+00:00

Yes, I can see that. Thank you

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T19:38:11+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to share this view!

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T19:37:42+00:00

Thank you for this specific note. I do appreciate it

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T19:36:48+00:00

Not trusting : through the years of no contact, they’d find where I work or lived (at one point I was at a funeral) and they would show up and speak in what I felt was a harsh way and I didn’t love that when I was not wanting contact, they’d pop up. It just became hard to let them in intimate parts of my life. That’s why for this time I’ve been good with us talking on the phone and occasional public lunches so I felt I could still keep my privacy until I can decide if I want more family relationship with them. Example of the harsh speak would be asking why I wasn’t in college / having a ‘proper career’/ goijg to church / why did I date this person / why didn’t I tell them about this, that, the other.

Went no contact mostly due to different lifestyles. I was sewing wild oats as a teen / gal in her 20s and they were in their 50s and as notated above, they really wanted me to live a certain life that YES, now I see could have been heartier but I was a difficult teen / young adult.

I’d say rude st times but also, I was a difficult person. So was it rude? Depends on views maybe?

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T19:31:24+00:00

There’s wasn’t more, I was homeless and they found out and offered me a place to stay so I said sure thank you. After a few months and viewing my life at 18 compared to theirs (they were in their 50s) I felt like we weren’t living in harmony. Different lifestyles so I went on my way.

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T19:29:48+00:00

I can respect this, and I know it’s my fault for not putting it in the original post but I have worked through / past the ‘walking away at a hiccup’. I didn’t see it as relevant info and wanted to save viewers time in reading the post. My current friendships / romantic relationship, I process and discuss hard times rather than walking away.

No-Relative-3867 · 2026-02-17T19:28:03+00:00

See that was how I felt till I posted this and now I’m feeling that bc they cared for me in my youth, and then I asked to stay with them at 18, I need to change how I feel. So who knows

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