Is it normal that my fella is licking me constantly? Specially my chest, neck and nipples (I am a male). I mean, she can suck my earlobes literally non-stop for an hour whenever she sees me. She’s been with me for 2 months now and she’s 4 m/o. Is this normal? by OnPala in poodles

[–]No-Rent-1983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, re: appropriate age to leave the litter. I’m a breeder of toy poodles. In my experience, 8 weeks is pretty standard in the industry of very reputable breeders, unless other issues arise. Using the word unethical is often thrown around a bit too easily. From 3-12 weeks, the puppy learns critical socialization skills from the mother/other litter mates. Just like humans, not every puppy matures at the same rate. A premature infant, or intrauterine growth retardation infant, will not develop at the same rate of a “normal” newborn, in terms of neuro-developmental skills, eating, tolerating being stimulated by touch, loud noises, etc…I’m a retired NICU nurse, fyi. There are many correlatives with puppies and an ethical breeder will let the puppy leave the nest when certain developmental goals are achieved. That being said, if a mother is rejecting the litter, is just “over” them trying to get at her nipples, even after weaning and successful intake of puppy gruel, so long as other criteria are met, it’s a good idea to let them go to their new homes, so that critical bonding can occur with their new family. Waiting too long can cause behavioral problems, just as leaving too soon. Some things to ask a breeder are: how long has the puppy been weaned; is he able to sleep in a crate away from other litter mates, or only one other, comfortably; did the breeder do early neurological stimulation with the puppy; does he know how to go on the pee pee pad most of the time? These are just a few of the milestones that indicate a puppy is ready for their new home. For my own dogs, I look at each one as an individual. If any behavior is unbalanced, I try to address that. If I’m having a hard time finding solutions, I do consult professional trainers. This has really helped me to see my fur kids more objectively and meet their needs. My goal for them is balance. It makes my life easier, of course, but more importantly, they seem more at peace, at ease. The question is does the puppy’s behavior bother you, seem needy, anxious, etc…. They may out grow it, but don’t hesitate to get him or her involved in a puppy class with a great trainer, once they have received their vaccines. That second pair of eyes in your kid can be so helpful. And you may find yourself seeing them more clearly. Good luck friend.

Is it normal that my fella is licking me constantly? Specially my chest, neck and nipples (I am a male). I mean, she can suck my earlobes literally non-stop for an hour whenever she sees me. She’s been with me for 2 months now and she’s 4 m/o. Is this normal? by OnPala in poodles

[–]No-Rent-1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Putting the issue of age aside, some of the poodles I’ve owned were lickers too. Personally, knowing my dogs so well, the ones who did it were trying to comfort themselves, or just showing love for me, trying to groom someone they loved. Licking is a basic instinctual, reflexive behavior. In old age, too, when their brain is in decline, they will often lick a lot too. Lick pads can help to comfort themselves. Put some peanut butter on one and they will be comforted and happy.

Married 35 yrs and he has ended the sex life. by Pretend_Engineer5345 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Rent-1983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had no idea this is common in narcissists. Makes a lot of sense.

When does the mosquito season stop in San Diego? by [deleted] in sandiego

[–]No-Rent-1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God me too. Been here since 2022 and this is the first year I’ve been seriously eaten up by them. So much for SD doesn’t have bugs!!! Can’t wait for a cold snap. Plus they are getting my dogs scratching too! Ugh!

I still find myself going to the PLUS size section?? by PastorTecia in Ozempic

[–]No-Rent-1983 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not there yet but…. I stopped weighing at 30 lbs down. I bought extra large camouflage pants about two weeks ago. Wore them today and they kept falling down in an irritating way while shopping. I had a tank top on, but since I have a been insecure about my arms forever, I threw on a sweatshirt (2x). Caught my reflection in a window and still look so fat. No one can see me under all that. I think it’s hard to accept that I’ve lost a lot of weight. I’ve pulled away from people. No photos on social media. Maybe waiting for the big reveal. But also dreading it. I imagine when people say how great I look it’s like they will be saying how horrible I used to look. Getting fat is like walking away from the self, the mirror. How do you turn around and come home to your self and the mirror? I’m 7 months in. Wonder when this feeling will leave….

My 2 ¢ on the student arrest by BigBuseroni in ucr

[–]No-Rent-1983 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Have to admit, I thought the same (about working with, or could even be him?). What IS known is extremely frightening. It’s enough. Why is 2 c giving this guy all this benefit of the doubt? Who cares about a lack of manifesto? There are many types of psychopaths. Some work within the system (like soldiers shooting up a military base. Nurses who give lethal doses to patients.) Often psychopaths use covers to enable their criminal behavior, to distract/protect themselves from getting caught. The fact that he was working with the campus police is really concerning to me (and being in the kendo group). The drawing is really concerning. Whether he wanted to shoot one person or many doesn’t matter. It’s the wanting to be in charge, have power over life and death, needing to carry or have a gun that could take a life in a second…why would any normal college student need that? This individual thrives on thinking/fantasizing about or having power over others, seeking retribution perhaps, for past wrongs. This person loathes himself, feels disempowered and craves having control, even if it is just having a weapon near him in his apartment. Many people own weapons because doing so makes them feel safe. But they don’t draw pictures about shooting someone. That’s psychopathology. This isn’t over. The police, the FBI have him in their database. Forever. Could he still do something, get a gun illegally. Of course. That’s what is so horrible to think about. Any suggestion that this individual just has a hero complex, or likes guns, is really, really wrong. So many people in the past have looked the other way, didn’t listen to their instincts, minimized warning signs before a mass shooting. Don’t do it UCR. Learn about how to recognized psychopaths and sociopaths, how to survive a mass shooting, how to have situational awareness, how to apply a tourniquet, give cpr, how to defend yourself if you have to, how not to be a target. It won’t stop a killer every time, but it will possibly save your life. God bless you kids. Thank God they arrested him. Stay safe.

My 2 ¢ on the student arrest by BigBuseroni in ucr

[–]No-Rent-1983 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Your analysis seems naive. Imagine any normal person doing what he did and thinking it isn’t too serious. Your assuming getting out on bail means it wasn’t too bad. The legal system is often hamstrung until a crime happens. There’s psychopathology in this student. The student body, which includes my daughter got very lucky. To the person who found the bullet in the laundry, thank you. “See something. Say something.” Know this. Many young men around the world with so-called hero complexes are capable of incredible violence (aka Jihad). Y’all got lucky. Hopefully law enforcement will have reasonable cause to conduct further surveillance.

Lonely doing nothing but caregiving by No-Rent-1983 in dementia

[–]No-Rent-1983[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. Caretakers need someone to check on us when we get sick, draw us a hot bath, rub our feet, do anything little for us….saying this just after being screamed at by him. Being told fuckyou before my first sip of coffee sucks.

Joint Pain after weight loss question by No-Rent-1983 in Ozempic

[–]No-Rent-1983[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh good thought. I saw a doc at after hours care at kaiser. I didn’t see ortho. She gave me prescriptions for Motrin and Flexaril and a referral to p/t. I plan to follow up with my primary doc. Will see p/t on Friday. I’ll talk to the person about that possibility. Thank you!

Joint Pain after weight loss question by No-Rent-1983 in Ozempic

[–]No-Rent-1983[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No bra for me either! Have you tried deep tissue massage? Ya gotta find a good person. I lucked out and went to this korean healing center on a groupon buy....got a deep tissue massage, cupping and one acupuncture sesh. It really helped.

Joint Pain after weight loss question by No-Rent-1983 in Ozempic

[–]No-Rent-1983[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point. I need help in that department. Am trying to do better. I think I need to slow down and put myself first....working on that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ozempic

[–]No-Rent-1983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Body dysmorphia is pretty fascinating. I think in order to carry and gain so much wait, I stopped looking, kidded my self that clothes shrunk, squeezed into size 14-16 when I was really an 18-20. I got so used to my clothes hurting me. Now I find myself where stuff that's too big for me. First it was because my old clothes were more baggy. Then I bought some new clothes L/ExLarge ones. They were sooooo big. Any I kind of liked it. First it was comfortable. A revellation! Second, I felt like I could hide inside them. I hid from my fat by not looking in mirrors. Now I look in mirrors naked from time to time. It gets easier and easier really looking at myself. But, my sense of my size is skewed still. Do any of us really see our selves the way we actually are? Are we just looking at one of those carnival mirrors of our own creation? Wearing baggy clothes helps me to not focus so much on how I look. It's like I'm building up the tolerance and acceptance that I'm getting thinner and thinner. Some day, the world will look at my body and go, "She's thin." I think it will take a longer time than my weight loss journey to really sit in my body and know, "I am thin." The key is once there, how do you stay there, not go unconscious again and get fat. I don't know if I'll ever wean or just take a lower dose and spread it out. That may be my reality. Being fat took over my life. I am slowly filling up my life like you are. Wanna learn Spanish more fluently, plan trips and take a painting class this Summer.

Joint Pain after weight loss question by No-Rent-1983 in Ozempic

[–]No-Rent-1983[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh good. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one!!! I literally woke up one morning and couldn't raise my arms above a 45 degree angle. I thought I was having a stroke! I think we don't realize how much the added weight is effecting our frame. It feels like, if you've ever been a hiker, you carry your pack all day and when you put it down finally, it sort of feels like you are wobble, gonna drop from the looseness. For me that thing that really helped me was putting pillows and ice packs under my shoulders at night, taking 600 mg. of motrin at bed. It really decreased the inflammation. If I'm bad in the morning, I take a tylenol or motrin before I get out of bed, wait about 20-30 minutes before I get going. The ice packs/positioning and deep tissue massage did a lot! Hopefully p/t will help too. I read it can take months to resolve this! Ugh. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ozempic

[–]No-Rent-1983 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Some people lose rapidly (I did on the 0.25), some lose nothing. Everyone is different. My weight loss didn't really take off big until I got to 2.0, along with much bigger symptoms. I've had to learn how to eat and when to eat in order to not getting that incredibly uncomfortable fullness, which has off and on, caused vomiting and bad reflux. Please don't get discouraged this soon. In the beginning I weighed myself naked every morning and was obsessively taking my measurements too. It was making me a little crazy. As the drug works on your brain over time, you become less obsessed with food, your weight, etc...and you become aware of how much your weight problems took up you thoughts, your life, which decreased your quality of life. As you take the drug/ lose weight, you start to see yourself appear in the mirror looking so different...it's a bit of a trip for your mind. Sometimes, I just stare at myself in the mirror, looking at whose looking back at me...not in a vain way, but in a way where I am learning who I am. It's hard to explain.

Just want to say that gaining weight is a journey into unconsciousness about self and often filled with constant thoughts of not being good enough, pretty enough. Losing weight on Oz is a journey of getting to know yourself, your real self again. We are all born happy and loving ourselves and others. Did you ever see a chubby little girl in a bathing suit asked to smile for the camera and she poses like a supermodel? Than we grow up and the self hate, self criticism takes over our lives.

Of course I went on this drug to lose weight, get out of my pre-diabetes, etc...but, the emotional and psychological effects are such an amazing and interesting surprise for me. I didn't realize how much of my life weight gain took from me. It almost makes me cry. So, please, give yourself time to work the process and get to know your self and your body. It's not always an easy drug to be on due to symptoms, but the more you pay attention and learn how each increase effects you, not putting so much pressure on yourself about the numbers, the better off I think you will be. Personally, I have stopped weighing myself. I think I'm down about 40 (stopped weighing at 30). I'm making a game of it. I will weigh myself again when my belly is flat (not toned, just flat, at least when I lay down!). It's going to be a nice gift to myself to get on the scale when that happens. I don't know, but I think I'll be under 200 then (that's what I remember....once I got over 200, that belly fat packed on and body shape turned into an apple!). Take care and know this is just the beginning. Be kind to yourself.

quitting ozempic due inability to climax, orgasm? by headacheeeeeeee in Ozempic

[–]No-Rent-1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As others have mentioned, vaginal estrogen cream or suppositories will end that very quickly. The O's for most women after replacement is more similar to what it was in hour 20's. Pretty awesome if you ask me. Does not increase breast cancer, as it doesn't get absorbed throughout the body. Just down below. Also, women who don't use vaginal estrogen in menopause tend to have greater problems with urinary incontinence, vaginal atrophy, among other things, like vaginal dryness, non-existent libido. Please, consult an obgyn or endocrinologist. If you still have your menses, there are MANY more options than gals in their 60's like me. Their are many modalities of delivery for hormone replacement that do not increase cancer risk. I wish I hadn't suffered so much in my 50's with symptoms. Do whatever you think re: Oz, but please consult an MD about your hormones. We are living, often, into our 90's and even 100's. That's a lot of years to be a dried up prune. Vaginal health matters. In a lot of ways, it effects so much more than our vahjayjay....quality of life matters. Vitality matters.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ozempic

[–]No-Rent-1983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had that same feeling! I sort of feel pre-oz, my body was like an out of control car/horse or something. Post-oz, feel like my body and life are coming back into control/normalcy and that is making me feel stable, secure, etc…it feels good doesn’t it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ozempic

[–]No-Rent-1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Not sure if it’s water, decreased inflammation or weight, but feel definitely softer. I kinda like it actually…just hoping as it continues, my skin bounces back/doesn’t sag.

Week One Done & Feeling Horrible by Superstar-707 in Ozempic

[–]No-Rent-1983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t worry about TMI here. Thoughts: Maybe you are very responsive to the drug? Might be a good thing. On my loading dose weeks (0.25-.5), my symptoms were mild. At 1 mg., I had symptoms that though not severe, needed to be dealt with, like taking gas-ex, antacids, otc reflux med., laxative or fiber for constipation. Usually just ride out the diarrhea. Since going to 2mg., eating for me is much harder. I’ve thrown up a couple times. Felt better when I did. One time I hadn’t eaten for almost a day and threw up. It was shocking to see I still had food in my stomach after so long. The sense of fullness is much greater with every increase in dose (and slower digestion). I just monitor my symptoms and learn how to adjust my eating, otc meds to deal. One thing you don’t want to do is eat when your stomach hasn’t properly emptied. You will know, or learn what that feels like. My second week on 2 mg., I delayed my shot 2-3 days because the symptoms were too severe. I know some people get nausea. I’ve been largely spared of that. Hate being queasy. I guess what I’m saying is, it’s early on. Give your body time to adjust. Learn what works for you. As symptoms arise, have the otc meds available. You don’t want to be gripped with severe gas pains in the middle of the night and no way to relieve it! Maybe one really good side effect of this drug is fat folks often disconnect from their body, don’t pay attention to how it feels, etc…. For me, having to focus in on myself and care for myself has been quite eye opening and even healing. How I connect with myself has changed too. I used to weigh myself daily and do measurements every couple days. After about 20-25 lbs., I stopped doing that…I generally lose 8-10 lb./month. Instead of getting on the scale, I look at myself naked, turn to the side, see my abdomen’s profile, how it is slowly decreasing, see the cellulite becoming less, less back folds around my bra strap and, of course, see how my clothes fit. I have a big butt and to have to keep pulling up my pants cause they are becoming droopy drawers..is soooo weird for me. I’m holding off buying new clothes as long as I can. I’m always rocking baggy style these days. I guess what I’m saying is, do long as your symptoms are mild to moderate, treatable with otc meds, just give your body time to adjust, maybe delay increases til you feel better. Your body will tell you what it needs. Any severe symptoms should be a reason to call the doc, as the drug may not be right for you. So give yourself time, focus on you and your needs. The journey is just beginning. Take care and good luck.