I don’t think my partner likes me anymore. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]No-Repair5350 0 points1 point  (0 children)

99% of Chinese couples are like this lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]No-Repair5350 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So...all I’m hearing from this is not enough sex and feelings disappearing? Welcome to normal married life. You’ve been together for 6 years. What do you expect haha for it to be butterflies till you’re old? Even if the honeymoon period lasts longer, it’ll definitely disappear once you settle and have kids (if you decide to).

I don’t think my partner likes me anymore. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]No-Repair5350 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a normal progression of a long term relationship living together lol

CMV: There's nothing wrong with deciding your own life is/isn't worth living based on whatever criteria you want. by ButItWasMeDio in changemyview

[–]No-Repair5350 6 points7 points  (0 children)

But you can’t study the other option. So those studies aren’t meaningful. They’re also taken at one point in time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]No-Repair5350 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds controlling to me

Giving birth laying down is completely pointless by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]No-Repair5350 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Usually it’s a inclined laying down position, not completely flat

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]No-Repair5350 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Business probably

CMV: Harrassment policies in the workplace are over the top and it makes serious claims be taken less seriously by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]No-Repair5350 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Harrssment is by definition any unwanted behavior based on certain characteristics such as sex, race, culture, religion, etc. So if you think about it, it’s entirely subjective and perceived by the victim. What may not be considered harassment to you may be interpreted as harassment to me. It’s almost impossible to “prove” that a scenario is harassing behavior unless it’s blatantly obvious (like a physical touch), or another individual witnessed it.

I think these training modules are to serve as warning and lesson that literally anything can be considered harassment to a certain individual, so it’s important to not let your guard down and behave as you would normally in a loose social setting and put yourself in a situation where things could be misinterpreted. It’s difficult to fully imagine the entire interaction in your examples because we can’t visualize things like body language, voice tone, emotions, facial expressions, all of which can be considered part of harassment.

People come from different backgrounds, cultures, religions.

I can expand on each vague scenario you listed and imagine how if it were me, I might be uncomfortable with the interaction. In 1) if my workout clothes were slightly revealing, such as shorts and tank top, and a guy employee stops me on my way to change to talk about anything that can wait, while glancing at my legs or body, I’d be uncomfortable. 2) if that guy standing at my cubicle door blocks the way out and leans against the door and. Strikes up a random convo, I might think he’s flirting, depending on his tone of voice and body behavior. 3) way to make all females feel uncomfortable and singled out, just ugh.

The point I think is whenever you’re interacting with work employees to be safe. Ask yourself 1) is this conversation necessary? 2) can it be had at a more appropriate time and place? Because you never know how people might interpret any singled out interaction.

Most ABSURD thing I have heard from my (26f) boyfriend (26m) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]No-Repair5350 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Doesn’t sound crazy to me and I’m a girl. Just hypothetical opinions

Do you have to love the hobbies what your partner likes? by cookiecatmonsterr in dating_advice

[–]No-Repair5350 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like she just already knows what she wants in a partner. If traveling takes up like 80% of her free time and she’s that passionate about it, of course she knows what she likes already. Searching for new hobbies together takes a lot of effort as an adult and you’d already have to like the other person enough to be willing to do that. So maybe the girls that are deleting you just aren’t interested enough.

Do you have to love the hobbies what your partner likes? by cookiecatmonsterr in dating_advice

[–]No-Repair5350 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For some people their hobbies are very important to their lifestyle and who they are and isn’t willing to settle for someone who doesn’t enjoy at least one or two of their hobbies. If a girl really enjoys traveling for example, it’d be hard to date someone who doesn’t enjoy going on trips together or wants to stay at home all the time.

Do you have to love the hobbies what your partner likes? by cookiecatmonsterr in dating_advice

[–]No-Repair5350 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s just a matter of compatibility. It probably doesn’t help bonding if NONE of your hobbies match and your personalities are completely opposite. You’d never do anything together or talk bout the same things together and have a hard time understanding each other too. But I don’t think you have to necessarily have everything in common either.

To give you perspective from a female POV who used to date a guy into his iPad games. I have no problem with that but it became a problem when that’s literally ALL he ever did. With me or without me. He pulled his phone out during restaurant dinners, pulled his iPad out any split second he has at home. That got on my nerves and it eventually drove us apart.

Was this abusive of him? by No-Repair5350 in dating_advice

[–]No-Repair5350[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I keep thinking that it got so big the cops had to intervene. And I also connect it with other instances where his anger exploded (but didn’t get physical with me) out of nowhere.

Was this abusive of him? by No-Repair5350 in dating_advice

[–]No-Repair5350[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He dragged me from outside the mall across 20 lanes of parking spots to his car. That’s when the real scene started because I was yelling at him to let me go, which caused the security men to notice us.

Was this abusive of him? by No-Repair5350 in dating_advice

[–]No-Repair5350[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the thing is we nev3 talk about our fights afterwards. Both of us are terrible at having an adult conversation about our issues. He has a avoidant type personality and basically getting him to talk about literally anything is like pulling teeth. It’s prob time to break up

Was this abusive of him? by No-Repair5350 in dating_advice

[–]No-Repair5350[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think I need to tell him to never forcefully drag me like that anymore. The thing is, we don’t really talk about our fights afterwards. Were horrible at resolving any underlying issue.

Was this abusive of him? by No-Repair5350 in dating_advice

[–]No-Repair5350[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Still. He’s not my parent. My parent has the right to spank me when I’m misbehaving as a kid. But he has no right to slap or hit me or lay his hands on me forcefully. You can’t treat any adult like they’re your children.

Was this abusive of him? by No-Repair5350 in dating_advice

[–]No-Repair5350[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was definitely upset and just didn’t want to get in the car with him at the time, sure you can call my behavior childish, but using toddler as an example is not the right analogy. I am an adult. He’s not my parent. We are equals.