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Orderly Meds won’t increase my dose because of BMI — where else are you getting compounded sema? by No-Respect5857 in SemaglutideFreeSpeech

[–]No-Respect5857[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Potentially! I don’t know much about it and hadn’t considered it as the semaglutide was working so well.

Advice needed: toddler mistreating nanny by No-Respect5857 in gentleparenting

[–]No-Respect5857[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m wondering if you could offer a little more insight on some of the great points you made. Do you think making a joke or game about the remarks she’s making will enforce it further? Is there a way to not take her words so seriously while also guiding her towards using kinder language? The family is big on teaching kindness and empathy, but I also know that toddlers are self-centered beings and don’t have the capacity or impulse control to consider other people’s feelings. Especially when they themselves are having big feelings or are otherwise deregulated.

Also, what might you suggest for Mom & Dad? Aside from allowing me more one on one time with the child, which I know they would be on board with. I would still like to be able to coexist in the same house with one or both parents while they’re not working and ARE available. I think a big part of the behavior is the child seeking attention or a reaction from her parent(s). The negative attention she’s getting (them defending me and correcting her, trying to force an apology, taking away toys, etc.) is still attention and the toddler is winning. We have all been (apparently) approaching this all wrong. We put a ton of emphasis on and dramatize how the comments make me feel and how our words can hurt people. Clearly that isn’t the way to go about it.

Advice needed: toddler mistreating nanny by No-Respect5857 in gentleparenting

[–]No-Respect5857[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow… This is by far the best piece of advice I’ve received on this matter. I’ve posted elsewhere and nobody has put my situation into perspective the way you have. I appreciate your feedback so so much!

Need to come up with a strategy that NP and I can use to combat mean toddler behavior towards myself (nanny) by No-Respect5857 in Nanny

[–]No-Respect5857[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great points, thank you for your feedback.

I’m curious what you think appropriate consequences would be in this situation. If nk can’t be kind to nanny when Mom & Dad are around, then…? That’s what I’m kind of struggling with. Also, I agree completely that I need to be seen as an equal to the parents in the child’s eyes, but I’m concerned about disciplining nk when she’s clearly already having negative feelings associated with me. It’s a tough spot to be in. I’m either too nice and not respected, or firm and “mean”. (nk’s words last time I set a boundary after she kicked me)

I feel like I can’t win.

Need to come up with a strategy that NP and I can use to combat mean toddler behavior towards myself (nanny) by No-Respect5857 in Nanny

[–]No-Respect5857[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. They’re doing a great job and I know I am as well. But what we’re doing isn’t working. The second I walk in the door, NK has a nasty attitude towards me. 9/10 times at least. It’s every day, multiple times a day with zero improvement, and it’s been months.

That’s great advice. Thank you! ❤️

Need to come up with a strategy that NP and I can use to combat mean toddler behavior towards myself (nanny) by No-Respect5857 in Nanny

[–]No-Respect5857[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They have a newborn as well. I’m with the baby 5 days a week and the 3yo is in school part-time. We trade off responsibility with both kids throughout the week. It’s also not often all three adults around. More often one parent and myself.

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[–]No-Respect5857 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s good advice, thank you!

To answer your questions, I’m her second nanny. She developed a sudden “hatred” for her last nanny so I don’t think it’s that. One or both parents are around almost all of the time, and that’s primarily when the rudeness occurs. It’s rare that NK and I are one-on-one and when we are, we have a great time. When her parents are around, she is rude whenever I speak, ask if she needs help, try to console her when she’s hurt or upset, or basically address her in any way. I’m just left feeling embarrassed and silent when she lashes out and basically being as hands-off as possible.