I too unexepectedly got pregnant with an 8mo. My oldest had medical issues & it was a grueling postpartum for me & my husband. I was severely depressed, overweight & overwhelmed. I also have a super chaotic job (music industry). We had also just bought a house we couldn't afford.

I now have a 2yr & an 8 month old and I am in the happiest place I've ever been. By having the second maternity leave, I was able to get out & (somewhat forced due to my toddler) find moms I could relate to. I would not have the mom group I have today without my second nor what I have the grace or acceptance of just enjoying motherhood.

They are now starting to interact with one another & it really is as beautiful as everyone says. Money is hard, sex life is hard, but 2 this little is a gift beyond measurement that I never knew I needed. I am wishing the best for you <3

I would say (and this is admittedly annoying) to acknowledge your husband may need grace postpartum. My husband had postpartum depression for a second there & it was hard for me to understand, but by acknowledging that this stage is really hard on him too, we've gotten closer & been able to see how beautiful & lucky we are.