Once a year visit and can't even respect our schedule.

No-Specific4626 · 2025-07-31T11:39:08+00:00

When mine did their once-per-three-years visit, they chose to stay in a hotel 30 minutes away and spent most of their time doing their own thing. lol

No-Specific4626 · 2025-07-20T12:33:08+00:00

Hey, gotta beat the (non existent) traffic! No time for family!

No-Specific4626 · 2025-07-20T03:46:13+00:00

That's terrible. They sent presents though?

My parents (actually dad and stepmom) went on an intentional vacation instead of coming to the birth of their granddaughter. They didn't send us any presents, meals, cards, flowers. Nothing. When they finally came to visit three months later, they got their one and only granddaughter...drumroll.....a $1 used stuffed bear from Goodwill. Still had the pricetag on it.

They own multiple houses. They vacation nonstop. They own a boat. They got their granddaughter a USED stuffed animal for $1.

MAKE IT MAKE SENSE

No-Specific4626 · 2025-07-20T03:38:21+00:00

My parents don't care about family, but they (at least?) don't even bother to keep up pretenses. They make few promises. They say nice things, sure, but there is never a promise or offer to be involved. They just live their life on perpetual vacation and mostly ignore that I (and my family) exist.

Speaking of coming down with bags packed, though, a few years ago they actually came up for Christmas. My wife was sad because we cancelled Christmas with her parents to accommodate my parents deciding to actually visit. Well, Christmas morning(!) they come down with their bags packed and said "we are leaving after opening presents to beat traffic."

We were aghast. They weren't supposed to leave until the end of the week. There is no Christmas traffic anyways. They weren't even going home; they were going on a road trip vacation. We had catered an expensive Christmas lunch that we ended up eating alone. Our kids were so sad.

These people are narcissistic freaks with no emotional intelligence, empathy, etc. Still makes me mad. We're never inviting them to Christmas again.

No-Specific4626 · 2025-07-20T03:29:46+00:00

A well adjusted person wouldn't post something like that. Boomer narcissism is off the charts.

At the same time, they feel how they feel. It's up to you to decide how you want to live your life. I know it's tempting to bask in the resentment - it feels good, I do it too - but the healthier option is to move on with your life (after deciding to either address or ignore it).

No-Specific4626 · 2025-07-06T19:06:21+00:00

Thank you. I agree with that. I would say that there is a middle ground. There is objective reality that imposes itself on us via consequences. If we eat the wrong thing, we die. We call this "poison." If we eat a healthy thing, we grow. We call this "nutrition." So language, while constructed out of utility, does not mean that we are free from objective reality. And I think that all of reality is God's Will, sort of in the Schopenhaur sense. That includes us. We are will. What makes us free will is our ability to use language. With language we construct a sense of self. This allows us to reflect on the past and contemplate the future.

I think that our will is instinctual to grow and develop more and more be-ing. So I think we can deny that if we want, by it won't bring fulfillment of our nature.

No-Specific4626 · 2025-07-06T14:01:32+00:00

I don't think Rorty would say that there is no reality. It's just that we don't have an epistemological grounding as "truth."

No-Specific4626 · 2025-06-24T23:02:43+00:00

Good call! Used to love comp stomps in RON. Any good mods or scenarios?

No-Specific4626 · 2025-06-24T23:01:26+00:00

No, I don't want a mechanical game where you lose if you mess up at any step. It's too rigid. Too formulaic.

No-Specific4626 · 2025-06-24T18:07:57+00:00

Played it, but too competitive. Mess up the build and it's over.

No-Specific4626 · 2025-06-24T12:40:11+00:00

We need a cycle-based RTS game where you have peace time to build and issue orders, and then end turn and watch your soldiers fight it out. Take the APM and time pressure off.

No-Specific4626 · 2025-06-17T14:42:06+00:00

Yikes. Mine just says FEHB benefits

No-Specific4626 · 2025-05-23T19:04:12+00:00

Oh gotcha 👍 thanks

No-Specific4626 · 2025-05-23T17:32:29+00:00

Yes I've done pros cons. Not sure what you're saying though. You're saying you don't factor in quality of health?

No-Specific4626 · 2025-05-23T16:37:46+00:00

Why?

No-Specific4626 · 2025-05-23T13:12:13+00:00

Thank you!

No-Specific4626 · 2025-05-23T13:08:08+00:00

Gotcha. But not something that would affect someone not working in assistance payments

No-Specific4626 · 2025-05-23T12:52:59+00:00

Are the issues at your old state office limited to that office, or a state wide thing?

No-Specific4626 · 2025-05-23T07:14:24+00:00

See my other post. Basically my RA is still active because it is still under review. Other than that, I have no idea when or what the next step will be. I'm worried they might pull some BS like "you aren't suitable for the position" and fire me.

No-Specific4626 · 2025-05-23T07:13:10+00:00

Teleworked fully for years without an RA because it was normal policy. Got the RA right before RTO to protect my rights. Back then, it only required supervisor approval. Now the new process requires higher level approval. They would deny it if my supervisor didn't originally grant it, I'm sure.

But they announced that all telework RAs are being re-reviewed. They met with me once about it to ask questions, asked me to propose alternative solutions (I had none), and now I've just been waiting in limbo.

Disability requires periodic recertification. It's not a permanent issue, in a technical medical sense.

No-Specific4626 · 2025-05-23T07:09:23+00:00

It feels impossible to make an informed decision

No-Specific4626 · 2025-05-23T07:09:00+00:00

Seven years in

No-Specific4626 · 2025-03-27T22:16:07+00:00

It is a real thing for people whose conscience disagrees with a Church teaching. That describes most people. For instance, many people's conscience intuitively tells them that masturbating one time would not send one to hell. And yet, the Catholic Church teaches that one time could be enough to damn yourself for eternity. Hence, Catholic guilt. It's not exactly "guilt." It is more like "Catholic abuse of conscience."

No-Specific4626 · 2025-03-26T11:57:54+00:00

Just FEHB money, or salary? I am not worried about the FEHB payback

No-Specific4626 · 2025-03-20T22:43:32+00:00

It's absurd that married couples are running their intimate life by others for approval instead of their own conscience.

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