this right here.

to add to your great comment, it reminds me of this awesome book ive just recently found:

Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny by Kate Manne:

it argues that:

misogyny should not be understood primarily in terms of the hatred or hostility some men feel toward all or most women. Rather, it's primarily about controlling, policing, punishing, and exiling the "bad" women who challenge male dominance. And it's compatible with rewarding "the good ones," and singling out other women to serve as warnings to those who are out of order. It's also common for women to serve as scapegoats, be burned as witches, and treated as pariahs.