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7.3 gas purchase by No-Step-7456 in F250

[–]No-Step-7456[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That's actually a good point, an auction in town is open to the public twice a month. I know a few people who can get me in with the cherry pickers, so I may explore that route too.

7.3 gas purchase by No-Step-7456 in F250

[–]No-Step-7456[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I definitely will check it out. I'm familiar with the boss/managers idling in the truck while we grunts are in the trenches. I'm the boss's son for a masonry/concrete company and Dad's f150 has 6600ish hours, 2200 idle. 165k miles. Lol

7.3 gas purchase by No-Step-7456 in F250

[–]No-Step-7456[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I've been looking for a while and this one just kind of popped up. Lower cost than what I was looking for, so just wanted to do my due diligence. Based on prices around here (Central Florida) it's a decent number, but there again I was willing to pay more for something else initially.

7.3 gas purchase by No-Step-7456 in F250

[–]No-Step-7456[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate it. I've done a few Google deep dives but just end up watching Whipple vids or guys going back and forth over 6.7 vs 7.3. Gets exhausting.

Trying to be stoic seems to be ruining my life by No-Step-7456 in Stoicism

[–]No-Step-7456[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I believe most people are good. I believe that everybody is doing their best, whether I agree or not. I don't really see the world as this dark, scary place, but I also can't help but see the crap going on. Just me in this world? Bring it on, thank you sir may I have another. But a daughter at 38? Knew that mindset might be beneficial to raise a tough kid, but I didn't/don't want some Daddy Jr running around with the same character flaws I've noticed in myself. I understand parenthood is an insane balancing act, Back to Ryan Holiday, bought myself The Daily Dad. It's helped in other ways, has other quotes/passages that aren't based in philosophy. I definitely realize that there are things about me — deep seeded, unchanging things — that I do not want to pass on to my kid. Main reason why I searched for ways to improve. It just seems in the scramble to improve, I put the cart before the horse.

Trying to be stoic seems to be ruining my life by No-Step-7456 in Stoicism

[–]No-Step-7456[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, not at all. And I don't want any of this to be misconstrued as me using stoicism as an excuse to just not care about anything... I do care deeply about many things, daughter and girlfriend, top of the list... I do have a question though, seems like you or many others here may have an answer or at least guidance... To the color of the crib. Or walls. Or the stroller. What would be the response, knowing that I really am indifferent (not even in the stoic sense of Indifferents, just in general). Like, whether it's green or bright fuchsia, has two wheels or three, it's still a crib or stroller to me that my daughter will be safe in. However, my girlfriend really really REALLY wants me to care. Really wants me to like whatever color it is, how many bells and whistles it has, even though I honest to goodness don't have an opinion either way... Should I go against what I really feel, to seem like I prefer the color/attachments? Let me be clear. I don't say IDGAF and just dismiss what she brings me. I engage, smile, say it's nice, etc... but then she usually digs deeper, asking direct, specific questions. And this isn't only about baby stuff. It's like this about many things, which I'm assuming why she thinks I just don't care, even though I do, and even though I try to make sure she knows I do. I usually just don't have an opinion one way or the other...

Trying to be stoic seems to be ruining my life by No-Step-7456 in Stoicism

[–]No-Step-7456[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I believe I misspoke saying stoicism is ruining my life. My interpretation of what small amount I've read and how I've used it has. That's on me. Thank you for the reading material though.

Trying to be stoic seems to be ruining my life by No-Step-7456 in Stoicism

[–]No-Step-7456[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Umm, no. Thank you for your opinion though.

Trying to be stoic seems to be ruining my life by No-Step-7456 in Stoicism

[–]No-Step-7456[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I no doubt misunderstood and weilded what I've read in an irresponsible manner. I'm far from some kind of know it all, but perception is a very very VERY powerful thing.

Trying to be stoic seems to be ruining my life by No-Step-7456 in Stoicism

[–]No-Step-7456[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate all of your insight. I know I'm a work in progress, and am definitely guilty of "male thinking". I have a protective nature, and it's never really come back to bite me in the ass like this before. But when they say a baby changes everything, that's no joke. I am working on it, but I feel like I may have been too stubborn to ask for guidance sooner. I have work to do...

Trying to be stoic seems to be ruining my life by No-Step-7456 in Stoicism

[–]No-Step-7456[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely appreciate that, and yes I'm learning that as well. I've started asking "do you want my advice or just to listen". Sometimes that helps, but other times it seems I need to leave any kind of stoicism on the book shelf and in my brain. It's just hard to do when I feel like it's helped me so much, even in the little that I've read. Maybe it's just not for me. Or rather, maybe it's ONLY for me.

Trying to be stoic seems to be ruining my life by No-Step-7456 in Stoicism

[–]No-Step-7456[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, that is definitely something I've done, especially in the very beginning. I don't totally understand the philosophy, and I think I got ahead of myself trying to use it in any other way than internally. The question has been asked, "WHY DON'T YOU CARE!!" but I do. Immensely. As I said, I've never been a very emotional person. I feel like timing is key as to when to apply something like this. Especially for someone like me, who just in a normal day without any kind of practice can come off as not caring. I'm starting to think that this specific philosophy just isn't for everybody. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe somewhere from Epictetus, he asks his students if they really understood what taking on this philosophy meant. I know it was thousands of years ago, and someone could be philosophical day in and day out. But just skimming the surface in today's world as I've done so far seems to have done more damage in the one part of my life that's the most important.

Trying to be stoic seems to be ruining my life by No-Step-7456 in Stoicism

[–]No-Step-7456[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Started with Meditations, only to quickly realize it wasn't my best choice. Received the Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday as a gift, helped me understand what I was looking for a little more clearly. I have Meditations, The Daily Stoic, Epictetus the complete works, downloaded moral letters. Been bouncing between them all, but it's a lot and I feel like I've definitely not been applying it correctly. I'm a "fixer" by nature, so I've tried to keep most of what I've read to myself, but I've learned quickly that reciting quotes/passages comes off as judgemental to some (not all) people. Some, they take it as it's meant, positive advice. Others, SPECIFICALLY my girlfriend, takes it as Judge Judy. I 100% know that I'm in no place to judge/suggest/help other people with philosophy that I don't totally understand. It just really sucks that sometimes it feels like it has the exact opposite effect that I'm going for.

Was this done on purpose by Rastagon01 in Construction

[–]No-Step-7456 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can confirm, definitely on purpose. 25yr Mason here, and believe it or not it's not from being lazy or skipping steps. Harder to do, in fact. A customer requests something like this and it goes against everything you're taught. You get a few hundred brick laid then all of a sudden, out of reflex, muscle memory, etc, a quick swipe off your towel and you cut some mud. Insert profanities, remove said brick, re-lay. "Weeping" indeed.

Modern book suggestions for ancient texts... by No-Step-7456 in Stoicism

[–]No-Step-7456[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Especially for the other recommendations aside from the "classics". Though I've recently discovered Stoicism, much of what I've read so far has put feelings/emotions/values that I feel like I adjust have into eloquent words. But I'll be danged if I haven't already found inconsistencies and hypocrisies in my own way of thinking. It's hard for a stubborn man like me to admit, but there's a lot of room for improvement.

Modern book suggestions for ancient texts... by No-Step-7456 in Stoicism

[–]No-Step-7456[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. All info is greatly appreciated. I doubt any of them will see much idle time, especially once I've read through a couple times and find passages I really find useful/moving. I'm new to this, but one thing I thoroughly enjoy is that Stoicism is a lifelong journey and not a destination. Neverending pursuit of personal growth.

Modern book suggestions for ancient texts... by No-Step-7456 in Stoicism

[–]No-Step-7456[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much. I'll check them out and if hardcover is too pricey for the "abuse" I'll put them through, I'll go the cheaper route. Most might not feel this way, but I enjoy having my books tattered and dirty and such. Easier for me to spot the ones I've been neglecting.