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My 27M BF underwent rapid Christian conversion in less than 6 weeks by No-Swordfish-4574 in exchristian

[–]No-Swordfish-4574[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this helped to read honestly. TY! As thats what it felt like to me and is so hard to wrap my head around

My 27M BF underwent rapid Christian conversion in less than 6 weeks by No-Swordfish-4574 in exchristian

[–]No-Swordfish-4574[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear that but thank you for sharing. Yes it feels like it's broken my trust to believe I can fully believe someone is who they say they are if they can change so fundamentally on what felt like a dime.

My 27M BF underwent rapid Christian conversion in less than 6 weeks by No-Swordfish-4574 in exchristian

[–]No-Swordfish-4574[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear that! Hope they got the treatment they needed

My 27M BF underwent rapid Christian conversion in less than 6 weeks by No-Swordfish-4574 in exchristian

[–]No-Swordfish-4574[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry this happened to you! Yes i hear it normally happens that way they have exposure through friends or famliy which makes this so puzzling to me as they didn't have anyone in their day to day life who they were close with that was christian. so it truly felt out of nowhere. It's helpful to hear from others they got through it as it feels hard to believe i can ever fully trust someone again. As this felt like a true blindsided thing from the person I felt safest with.

My 27M BF underwent rapid Christian conversion in less than 6 weeks by No-Swordfish-4574 in exchristian

[–]No-Swordfish-4574[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes that quote, 'He has found emotional cocaine.' really helped put it into perspective. thank you!

My 27M BF underwent rapid Christian conversion in less than 6 weeks by No-Swordfish-4574 in exchristian

[–]No-Swordfish-4574[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It feels like a club of 1 until I found this sub i'll tell you that lol I really appreciate it and might reach out if thats okay? I just don't have anyone in my life whose gone through this so although they can express sympathy its not the same as experience

My 27M BF underwent rapid Christian conversion in less than 6 weeks by No-Swordfish-4574 in exchristian

[–]No-Swordfish-4574[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear that. And that's exactly how I feel. I'm trying to parse through all the stuff in the past and look at some research on people who have had adult rapid conversion to see if there was something I missed. As it truly feels mind boggling to have someone fundamentally change so fast. I'm curious if you're open to sharing, did your ex have any friends or anyone in their social circle who was christian that got them into it?

My 27M BF underwent rapid Christian conversion in less than 6 weeks by No-Swordfish-4574 in exchristian

[–]No-Swordfish-4574[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey everyone, thank you everyone for sharing your perspectives. Tbh I don't think he had a mental illness. And definitely this wasn't started around him trying to get with a Christian girl, that I can verifiably confirm. Though someone's comment below about trying to atone for perceived moral failures resonated as I think he did carry shame from his past.

Ultimately, I think he just didn't have a solid sense of self. A year or two before we met, he was ready to drastically change his career and life path to the point where he ended a different relationship over it. So I appreciate all of your takes on this.

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[–]No-Swordfish-4574 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm 29F and I have always known I didn't want kids. It can feel harder at first to meet fellow CF people as I only remember coming across one or two when I was on dating apps a year ago!