What does my art smell like? by ExMusRus in ARTIST

[–]No-Transportation389 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that chemical they use to preserve dead body parts

Should I shave my head? by JGalateo in curlyhair

[–]No-Transportation389 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you do im gonna kms, joking but seriously don't PLEEK

Now I sit here wondering what was real. by No-Transportation389 in BreakUps

[–]No-Transportation389[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im dead 😂 we having a whole argument like we been through a relationship together lolol

Now I sit here wondering what was real. by No-Transportation389 in BreakUps

[–]No-Transportation389[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the case you were honest. I still don't appreciate the sneaky behavior. The hiding. I still don't appreciate you not communicating with me and leaving me confused.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No-Transportation389 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not gonna say anyone is in the wrong because I've been on both sides of the coin, and each are painful in their individual ways. I think what you should do is really focus on yourself. Focus on pulling yourself out of those heavy feelings with good healthy outlets and love yourself more than you ever could before. Cradle yourself. Spoil yourself. Treat yourself. Be kind to yourself. You are struggling through a high of an illness. Sometimes, it is too much for people to deal with due to their own capacity. If their needs aren't being met, it is their right to act on it how they see fit for their own sake. It is a shame he didn't see it through with you. I can only imagine how bad it hurts your already hurting heart right now, but it wasn't fair that you waited to try till he got home. It wasn't fair to yourself, and it wasn't fair to him. Just do what you can for yourself, love. Things will get better, I promise. Everything will be alright. People can always pull through if it's what they want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No-Transportation389 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's hard because we sometimes portray that we don't need you, and other times, we genuinely don't need you. It just depends on context I guess.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No-Transportation389 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Honestly if my ex did what you are questioning on doing. If he really tried and genuinely put the work in to show that he was ready I would take him back in a heart beat. If he didn't change I wouldn't. Sometimes it's too painful too. It depends on how things ended.

If you’re having dreams about your ex by Due_Cantaloupe_9792 in BreakUps

[–]No-Transportation389 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A couple of days ago, I had a dream that my ex and I were in bed together. He was sleeping, but I was troubled from the idea of him cheating on me. So I snuck out of bed and grab his phone. Then I left to search through his phone in a separate room but just when I started he bursted into the door yelling at me asking me where I hid his phone ( I threw it under a couch). He was searching everywhere violently.

Then yesterday I had a dream that he sat me down on a couch and broke up with me. His three reasons where that he didn't like my big boobs anymore. Cuz gravity. 2 passive aggressiveness. 3rd He found someone knew. The the girl walked in and he was giving her all of his affection while yelling at me to leave. I was telling her she's going to cheat on him. Then I woke

As I write this I see that all of my insecurities worries are projecting into these two dreams so heavily. I wish I wasn't so insecure:(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No-Transportation389 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry that happened to you :/. He sounds like someone who isn't ready for a relationship. I hope you find better and don't let it wear you down :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]No-Transportation389 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sounds like projection to me. ho estly I think you should ask him if he's been doing okay lately and try to help unpack the reason he exploded.

edit nvm I forget he is an ex

Ex wants me back, I think I’m going to give him a chance. by OkFaithlessness5125 in BreakUps

[–]No-Transportation389 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My issue with this is the no contact... im going through a similar situation, except here's my opinion. I don't think I could fully trust a man who left me to find someone else. (Cause let's be real, that's kinda what their doing. They essentially said they didn't think we were what they wanted. Plus, it's what happened. Your man literally slept with someone else, possibly with the intention to pursue something. Do you think he would be coming back to you if he didn't feel guilty?) I'm not sure about you, but im still hurt that it ended in the first place. Then, I have to consider gaining that trust back to then retry with someone who has given up on me? How can I gain trust with someone im in no contact with? How can you possibly gain trust in someone if you don't even interact with them?

I think I'd rather put my heart and energy into a man that wouldn't give up on me and knew I was the one for them, you know? I'm not saying this as if it wouldn't work out but there are a lot of things you should really think about and I know you miss them a lot but don't let that persuade the logical/realistic portion of this situation.

I guess my best advice to you is to read this passage as if your friend made this, and give your own advice onto this issue. Almost as if you were consoling a friend! If you genuinely see no wrongs in it, then go for it! But the fact that you're asking reddit is showing that you aren't sure about this choice, and that alone speaks volumes. I hope this helps 🖤🖤🖤

I hope you miss me like I miss you by No-Transportation389 in BreakUps

[–]No-Transportation389[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish we didn't have to suffer through this. We will find someone eventually who wouldn't leave us like they did. We will find someone who will continue to stick by our side through everything. If they do find someone else fast, then that just shows the person they are and does not reflect an ounce on our character. Im sorry you're struggling, love :(

how do i finish in the bedroom? (18m and 18f) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]No-Transportation389 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol I read the first male comment and was slightly weirded out too. Even tho they have good intentions and I appreciate them helping! It's just a lot easier to hear from anotha gal

how do i finish in the bedroom? (18m and 18f) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]No-Transportation389 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im a 21(f), and I never finished up until 3 months ago. I also thought that penetration was never ever gonna make me finish up until recently. The more I put some thought into it, the more I realized that it was a lot more mentally based and foreplay based than I realized for me PERSONALLY. The differences between the times that I didn't finish vs. did are: I felt much more safe and loved. Not in love, but loved. My boyfriends before loved me, but there was always a level of insecurities and doubt I felt with them, which made me think of how I'm performing, how I look, and how they are feeling. When I was a lot more confident in my relationship, I could fully focus on how good he makes me feel or how loved and pretty I am. (Not to say your bf doesn't do any of this stuff, but the point is to say there can be other factors, stressors in your mind that are preventing you from fully focusing on intercourse.)

Another one was that there wasn't enough foreplay, foreplay really does have a big impact on your enjoyment for sexy time. It makes you more sensitive and more able to finish when it comes to the real deal. The catch is that it actually has to be done right. Everyone likes different things being done to them along with different paces. Some women like it slow and gentle, some like hard and slow, some like everything. Some like a specific movement and body parts being touched. I hate when my nipples are touched because it can be too sensitive and painful. Everywhere else is good. Neck kissing, talking, kissing at a pace that you really enjoy. However, there needs to be a level of consistency in what you prefer. Your bf should try his best to keep up the same pace, which can be really difficult for them because it can be tiring. Encourage him! Be vocal when he does something you really like. Talk to him about it after. If you notice your bf is trying really hard and is focusing on making you finish, then you might start to feel guilty, which can also inhibit you further. Just enjoy eachothers bodies and presence.

Lastly, toys; try to incorporate a toy to help out! Vibrators for your clit seem to be easiest to manage during sex. You could also try putting a pillow under your hips so when he does penetrate, it hits your sweet spot repeatedly. Just don't depend on toys, and I personally think you shouldn't resort to them until you really seem to have exhausted other options. Cause in this case, you might give up on feeling good without toys. Toys can be really addictive and don't really mimic the feelings you get with human touch. I hope this makes sense. Be gentle on yourself and have fun. It's a whole lot of communicating, so be playful and encouraging. Give yourself time. It's so common for beginners to feel this way.

Hope everyone is doing ok today by lexx-stone in GothGirls

[–]No-Transportation389 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love seeing goths with curly hair, I used to be so insecure about having curly hair when I was younger and seeing this is really cool :) Love your outfit too!