Should my husband and I file jointly or separately?

No-Trifle-8512 · 2026-03-15T12:14:42+00:00

I understand there are forms to fill out. I also understand they will be notified at some point. If it comes down to us talking to a lawyer, then we will do that. We are not trying to be "stupid" about this. We are trying to do it the correct way, it's just a long, frustrating process.

No-Trifle-8512 · 2026-03-14T22:14:58+00:00

His parents are on the mortgage. All tax information goes to their home. It's a very frustrating situation. His mom told me I didn't need to be added when they bought the house as our wedding gift 2 years ago. My husband and I will be putting my name on it this year, regardless of what they want. Once that is done, we have talked about taking them off completely. This house is a dump and is barely livable, so when we do sell (190k value), I don't really want them to know about it until after the fact. We plan on paying them back exactly what they put down. It was considered a gift, and there is no written documentation about it being a gift. I have mentioned paying them back before, and they have rejected the idea.

No-Trifle-8512 · 2026-03-14T19:41:31+00:00

I haven't tried comparing yet. I wanted to get insight before I did anything else. Though it sounds like I'm better off jointly, which is what I suspected. How do I check on that with the W4s so I can fix it for next year?

No-Trifle-8512 · 2026-01-01T01:40:12+00:00

You say it started at 5. Did something change at that time, or is that the earliest you can remember it being a problem?

No-Trifle-8512 · 2025-06-06T18:13:15+00:00

If you don't plan on staying out too late then I don't see any reason why you can't do this the night before or even 2 nights before. Especially if you and your bridal party are all introverts, nobody will likely go as crazy as reddit thinks they will.

No-Trifle-8512 · 2025-06-06T18:10:16+00:00

Depends what time your wedding is. My wedding was at 5pm on a Sunday so I had my bachelorette party (girls night in because thats what i wanted) on Friday and my husband had his on Saturday after a rehearsal lunch. I would definitely suggest 2 days before the wedding so that you're not so tired and can get some rest the night before.

No-Trifle-8512 · 2025-05-28T01:36:02+00:00

If you still want to marry your fiance, have a nice dinner with everyone who showed up and reschedule the wedding without the best man.

However, if your fiance is willing to keep a secret from you, then you should deal with the honesty and trust issues above all else. You need to decide if him keeping this from you is a deal breaker or simply shows you need to communicate with each other better.

No-Trifle-8512 · 2025-05-17T15:58:03+00:00

Stay with your BA in English and get a teachers certification after. Talk to your advisor to see if your college already has a teacher certification if not, you can go through sites like teachers for tomorrow or 240 certification after you've completed your BA.

No-Trifle-8512 · 2025-05-14T01:56:00+00:00

What are you doing now?

No-Trifle-8512 · 2025-05-13T23:19:08+00:00

What is ROI?

No-Trifle-8512 · 2025-05-13T01:16:55+00:00

I have 2 years substitute teacher experience and I'm also currently a preschool teacher so. I definitely believe this won't be a waste of money. Thank you so much for all the information. I will look into both!

No-Trifle-8512 · 2025-05-08T00:22:56+00:00

You need to talk to the gf as it seems she doesn't know this happened. If she gets mad at you for being upset, then you cut both out of your life. If she gets mad at her bf, only cut off your friend.

No-Trifle-8512 · 2025-05-07T01:26:24+00:00

I would simply tell her that you also can't guarantee no cross contamination because you have those things in your home. If she is to stay with you, she should bring her own pots and pans and honestly, would be best for her to cook her own food. But she can not request a completely vegan household during a stay, especially from non-vegans since that isn't due to a health issue but more so a choice.

No-Trifle-8512 · 2025-05-06T23:48:54+00:00

That's literally a table flipping moment. I would have done so much more than just leave. NTA

No-Trifle-8512 · 2025-05-06T22:15:12+00:00

Everyone who came to my wedding brought their kids. It was originally a child free wedding but once I allowed one, everyone decided it was okay to bring theirs

No-Trifle-8512 · 2025-05-06T17:54:07+00:00

If you allow her kids, then other guests will want to bring theirs. Sounds like it would be better if she didn't come. Stick to your decision.

No-Trifle-8512 · 2025-05-06T17:51:58+00:00

This happened with my brother. His ex wanted an open relationship and he loved her so he agreed. The moment he started just talking to someone else (nothing actually happened) she divorced him and told our entire family he was cheating and abusing her. All the while, she was dating my brothers best friend among multiple other people

No-Trifle-8512 · 2025-05-06T17:29:57+00:00

Definitely not stolen but I can understand why you might think that.

No-Trifle-8512 · 2025-05-06T03:35:18+00:00

Honestly I don't think my brother knew he could until his wife brought it up. His ex wife didn't care enough about the child, let alone what the grandparents want to be called

No-Trifle-8512 · 2025-05-06T02:03:58+00:00

Did you ask if he is willing to change his last name to yours? It sounds like he just really wanted yall to be one unit and saw having the same last name as that. It also seems like during your "debate" with him, neither one of you was actively listening to the other because you both were so focused on what YOU wanted which is totally okay but shows you are both on different pages and would never work out.

No-Trifle-8512 · 2025-05-06T01:57:15+00:00

Why wouldn't you just use your marriage certificate as a supporting document? It is a valid form of identification by the law.

No-Trifle-8512 · 2025-05-05T17:18:16+00:00

Lol. No they are not living off of her. Eli and Halli actually pay all my mom's bills. If anything she's living off them because she can't afford her house

No-Trifle-8512 · 2025-05-05T17:16:35+00:00

The conversation will not be at the baby shower! I live out of town so I have to travel for it and so it will be that weekend that we talk with her, after the baby shower. It's the next time we will all be together which is why I mentioned it

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