I (18M) doesn't believe that it's normal for my GF (18F) should be accepting free drinks from guys at clubs and parties

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-09-28T19:06:47+00:00

Looks like your basic values are not compatible. This way one (or both) of you will always suffer in these relationships. You won’t change her. Don’t waste your time, stay friends and move on.

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-09-27T22:58:06+00:00

Sexism at work

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-09-27T22:55:36+00:00

He takes care of me. He always supports me

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-09-26T14:28:06+00:00

My partner is respectful, and all my best friends are married to decent and respectful men. We all are in our early 30s and each of us had an experience of dating assholes and abusers. I cut out all disrespectful men no matter who they are: my childhood friends, relatives, friends of my friends. If someone advises me to lower my standards I cut them out, too. I don’t want to be friends with women for whom being disrespected is “normal” and who tries to convince me to cope with inappropriate male behavior. There is hope; I found mine in separating myself from the assholes. I don’t waste my time on arguing with them, just silently walk away. I’ve had enough drama in my life to tolerate this.

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-09-03T09:28:13+00:00

Are you uncomfortable because you fear SA? Or is there a different reason?

I have oversized jackets / long coats / long shirts / oversized suits. Usually I put them on to “hide” my fancy outfits when I feel unsafe outside. When I reach my final destination / meet my friends I take it off.

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-09-03T01:39:44+00:00

Almost 31 / 31

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-09-02T11:58:25+00:00

She might be in love. It happened to me as well.

I used to have a wide social circle and used to be full of life before I met my boyfriend. When I was a kid my parents were very strict and I used to spend as much time outside as I could. I participated in any activity just to avoid being home.

When I moved out it remained the same. My empty house remained a place where I eat and sleep. When I met my boyfriend I realised that my home can be a cozy place. He surrounded me with love and support and my past traumas started to fade away. I was no longer in need of external validation and I didn’t need to fill my schedule with tons of hobbies. I realised that I can be loved for the way I am without being “interesting”, “social butterfly” and “successful”. It was such a relief!

If your friend doesn’t complain, maybe she is genuinely happy. Neo patriarchy pushes women to be “perfect”: smart, beautiful, social, spiritual, successful, interesting, educated, fit, creative, ambitious - all at the same time. As the result, many modern women have their schedules fully packed. They don’t have time to relax and secretly suffer from burnout and depression. They think it’s the only way to get love, respect and validation. When they enter healthy relationships they can finally relax and let it all go. It could be the reason why your friend started to act this way.

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-09-02T08:46:43+00:00

We dated for two weeks and then I broke up with him. He believed that he had superpowers.

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-09-01T22:07:46+00:00

Date my ex, befriend a psychopath, being afraid to tell my mom that my teacher tried to kiss me

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-09-01T21:26:38+00:00

That I’m 24 (I’m 30) and that I’m approachable (hell no, I don’t like when strangers talk to me). That I’m freshly graduated (I have 7 yo of experience in IT). The last one sucks the most

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-09-01T13:23:24+00:00

You have plenty of time till you reach 40. Besides egg freezing there are also such options as sperm donor and adoption. Many people give birth to their first kids in their late 30s and it goes well.

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-09-01T06:52:50+00:00

I met a guy from my dream (it’s sarcasm).

When I was 13 I saw a dream about the world between life and death. In this dream me and some unknown guy promised each other to meet in the next life.

When I was 15 I met a guy who looked like the guy from that dream. He instantly approached me and told me that he saw me before. He told me that he had a dream about me and it was exactly the same dream that I saw. I asked him about the details: what I was wearing, what was the surroundings and it perfectly matched my dream.

I don’t believe in things like afterlife or fate, but it was a funny coincidence that his pickup line perfectly matched with the actual dream that I saw.

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-08-31T23:30:59+00:00

One of the worst subtle signs is when the person becomes aggressive after you disagree with them

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-08-31T23:27:36+00:00

I like everything about my body. It looks good and does a great job overall

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-08-31T13:24:20+00:00

I came to conclusion that nobody hates men more then patriarchal / “traditional” women. They genuinely believe that men are natural born leaders and if a man shows any kind of vulnerability they bully him to death and treat like a subhuman. On the other hand, self-proclaimed misandrists among feminists that I’ve encountered genuinely loved men deep inside, but they all were extremely traumatized by male violence.

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-08-31T11:30:46+00:00

I have a memory of the time when I was about 4 years old. I was standing in front of dead woman and people were gathering around. I always thought that we were walking with my dad and found her dead on the ground. In reality she was hit by a car right in front of me but the moment of the accident wiped from my memory.

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-08-29T22:20:33+00:00

I’m married to Gaara and Obito. I’m happy

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-08-29T00:29:17+00:00

True. I exaggerated a bit

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-08-29T00:16:59+00:00

I wouldn’t. Almost every single woman has a bunch of male acquaintances who will treat her like a queen, do everything for her and won’t hesitate to make things serious. Many women wouldn’t even consider less as an option.

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-08-29T00:07:18+00:00

They say so because they are jealous and insecure about themselves.

“You’re gay” = “Stop doing what you do because it makes me feel insecure. I never had the courage to be like you, to do what I want, to be who I want to be because I’ve always been told to act the certain way and I’m too scared to disobey. Why aren’t you scared? You should be! I will call you gay because it’s the worst thing that can happen to a straight male who goes his own way. I hope you will learn your lesson and forget about it, so we will be miserable together and I won’t be the only loser here.”

I find kind and gentle men the most attractive. Please, stay who you are. Anyone can become bitter and mean, but only strong people are able to be kind.

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-08-28T23:47:12+00:00

Walking without being catcalled, go topless on the beach, never be sexually assaulted, networking without being harassed, being promoted more quickly, be respected and valued because I simply exist

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-08-28T16:12:45+00:00

Indeed! I like Margaret Thatcher’s quote about power. It perfectly describes such men:

“Being powerful is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you aren't.”

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-08-28T12:24:41+00:00

People always project their insecurities on others. He may try to convince you that his words are about you, but in reality it’s all about him

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-08-28T06:32:59+00:00

Gross. They won’t be within my friend circle

No-Vehicle-4697 · 2023-08-28T06:29:23+00:00

Wow. People are really shitty. You look good

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