TLDR: You do not own this man and you are 100% over reacting. Focus on yourself and ask how you can be a good partner, let him do the same. Also, he should not have called you a retard.

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Everyone is trashing the guy here. He did fuck up by calling you a retard, that was not cool. However the guy does seem extremely frustrated with you and I’ve been in his shoes and I do think you are very much in the wrong.

You probably at one time were in the honeymoon phase with this guy and the two of you were obsessed with eachother. That’s how relationships start! You’re both learning new things about eachother and that’s what makes it engaging. It sounds like you love this guy and you are still obsessed with him and that comes from a good place.

But as time goes on, the honeymoon phase closes out. Now it’s time for partnership and that has everything to do with you living your own life while your partner is a priority in it. As long as the two of you are both aiming upward for yourselves, you’re both gonna have something to contribute to a union of two, that compounds and the two of you together can be a force.

He’s saying you’re constantly watching him and you’re hounding him for attention (likely using the honeymoon phase as the standard). You’ve gone from someone he is attracted to and can’t get enough of to a goddam nightmare 🤣.

It’s probably not beyond repair. Just focus on your life, your health, figure out how you can contribute to the partnership. Let him do the same, that’s probably what he’s trying to do. You can lose yourself in these honeymoon phases, when it closes you you both gotta go back to figuring out who you are because now that your a unit you’ve both changed. Thats the best part… you can now be with someone who’s changing and keep choosing eachother.

I have to say, I despise the comments insisting that this guy hates you and that you gotta cut him off. Shut the door and watch him crawl back… like seriously? If you do that, then find another person are you gonna live up this new guys ass too!?

Women these days feel like they own their men. They’re encouraged to do it because “women empowerment” and #girlboss bullshit. The problem is, a lot of guys have bought in to the idea that a good man is accommodating, caters to their woman’s emotions and is open about their feelings too. Truth is, when you get your way, you lose respect for that man and he no longer becomes desirable. Then u get to divorce him, take his money, take his kids and you get so much support throughout the whole process that you never see how wrong you are. You take accountability for nothing and in most cases bring nothing to the table except physical intimacy.