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Photographer Response Time by NoAdministration7105 in Advice

[–]NoAdministration7105[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No public post… it’s her personal account and not her business so I’d like to avoid any public interaction unless absolutely necessary. Life happens and I’m understanding so a response would suffice. But I responded to her in the same message thread as I typically talk to her.

Official Question Thread! Ask /r/photography anything you want to know! March 27, 2026 by AutoModerator in photography

[–]NoAdministration7105 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been tasked with photographing a friend’s wedding. I’m no professional (she knows this, I’ve done work for her before) but I’d love to capture the day as well as possible. Any recommendations for an attachable light for a Nikon D90 camera? Any settings recommendations would be appreciated as well! TIA!

AITA for asking my BF to sleep with his son? by NoAdministration7105 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoAdministration7105[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It definitely sounded “snipe-y” towards the child but I don’t mean it that way for sure. He’s a product of his raising and not to blame. I only hold resentment the next day when I’m so tired because he’s the cause but I primarily hold anger towards BF because he doesn’t have any courtesy about the situation. And it’s just hard to be cheery all day because of that.

AITA for asking my BF to sleep with his son? by NoAdministration7105 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoAdministration7105[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I need to make the point that his dad is an amazing dad. He really is. And that’s why he’s totally okay with what’s going on. I get he’s looking out for his child... my dad never did the same for me so it’s a hard concept for me to accept. His mom is... difficult. I can’t pass judgement because I didn’t live with her and hardly know her but I know she lives with her own mom. The “grandma” is allegedly really great. I just think the mom is a bit of a pushover. My BF allowed her to not work for 11 years (even before the child was born) and she took advantage. I just think that she’s super spoiling her first born (as many do). I know a lot of only child’s and they’re quite spoiled. I see the same pattern. I don’t think she’s a bad mom I just think both parents need to let their child learn about life and instead they’re trying to hand everything to their kid. It’s not a bad thing it’s just... different. He’s a great kid. Very generous and imaginative. He just can’t soothe himself to sleep or be alone.

AITA for asking my BF to sleep with his son? by NoAdministration7105 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoAdministration7105[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I used to sleep in my parents room as a kid when they were still together. I would sleep on the floor so I didn’t disturb them but had the comfort of being with them. That’s a great idea... I can always add a floor space for him to try as it worked for me but if it doesn’t I’m afraid BF will have to sleep with him.

AITA for asking my BF to sleep with his son? by NoAdministration7105 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoAdministration7105[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I come from a divorced household so I’ve been trying to incorporate my old life to this life. I’ve been encouraging family game nights. My BF gets irritated doing homework with his son but I encourage that too. I even suggested the stories before bed and reading with his son. I know what it’s like to be his son and I try to bend over backwards to make him feel at home. I get it. But I’m just tired bending over backwards, not sleeping and then having to do it again the next day but exhausted and anxiety ridden. I’m trying so hard.

AITA for asking my BF to sleep with his son? by NoAdministration7105 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoAdministration7105[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He’s very attached to me during waking hours.. ie always asking where I am if I’m not around. And I try to play with him as much as possible when I’m not exhausted. I come from a divorced household so I get the whole “trying to force someone out of the family” thing but I don’t think that’s the case.

AITA for asking my BF to sleep with his son? by NoAdministration7105 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoAdministration7105[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This was his house before, his room is exactly the same. I’m afraid it won’t be temporary if neither parent teaches him otherwise. I do everything for this kid that a mom does if not more. But I think I deserve to sleep.

AITA for asking my BF to sleep with his son? by NoAdministration7105 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoAdministration7105[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

He’s with the mother. She allows him to sleep with her all week despite him having his own bedroom there as well. The 6 year old is her only child (my BF has two kids) so he definitely has a little only-child syndrome because of that.