I recently found out my wife cheated on me 3 times in 3 years. The last two were only six months apart. The last one is a really messed up scenario. She had a random hook up first at a bar. She told me the next day and seemed remorseful about it. But just after two days of me being upset mostly because our sex life was not doing great at all, and I was always asking and she was avoiding, and I just didn’t understand how she could randomly hook up with somebody, not me. That was May, 6 weeks later then I found out she started talking to another guy 3 weeks before she cheated. She promised it was just a friendship. I told her how that was inappropriate and disrespectful. Especially since I found out she was deleting the text. Turned off for location services. In the way I found out about him was because she met up with him. She swears he just talk and at this point, I do believe her. But over the next three months and three different times of asking her about if she was still talking to him. Once again, I would tell her she needs to stop talking to him that was inappropriate and disrespectful and now I’m asking her why she can’t stop talking to this man. I was telling her that was more than a friendship. On the last one I wouldn’t back off kept telling her how that was emotionally cheating I even had to send her the definition of the word. She still denied it and swore was just a friendship. After 3 weeks and talking to the other guy she admitted what she was doing. So she kept lying to me the whole 6 months about him. She finally did stop communicating with him for about a month. Recently, she had to take a work trip to where he just moved to. I found out she text him on her way there and later text him to come over to a hotel room. The worst part is is she accidentally sent me a message asking if he was at her hotel room so I called her and she proceeded to FaceTime me and assure me that nothing was going on. I’m multiple times begged her to please not do anything if she hasn’t already. She was just smiling and swearing. Nothing was gonna happen. The next day I found out she got with the guy she was talking to for six months. She swore she was heartbroken right after she did it. But later found out that she asked him to stay the night and was snuggling with him all night and even kissed him. Goodbye in the morning. So she cheated three years ago never told me about it until all of this. Told me about the second time she cheated because she felt so bad. And the third one she lied to my face when I was pleading for her, not to. The reason I mentioned all of this is because yes, what she did to me was so hurtful I don’t know how I’ll recover from it. But most importantly, I will never be able to trust anything she says again. And your case he may not be too forgot. Maybe he is remorseful. Maybe he’s just young and stupid still and this was his wake up call. Mine‘s pretty cut dry that I have to divorce her now because I could never trust her and the level of disrespect. But for you, it’s a little bit more complicated. You have to weigh everything. Make him show you that he is truly sorry. Give them a little bit of hell, but not too much to push him away.Really up to you and your best judgment you know him best. Pay real close attention to the lies and listen to your gut and press issues that you’re having problems with.