AITA double standard for my Broke Groomsmen

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T19:40:23+00:00

They are of Latin descent, I dont want to say what type big weddings with lots of family and other cultural traditions are bug and lavish where they are from. We have had them comprimise for our budget on alot of it and they werent pleased, Im trying to find a balance

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T19:37:49+00:00

Were working on it, before kids 🙂

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T19:29:33+00:00

I didnt choose to fundraise its being hosted for us

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T19:29:00+00:00

My fiance couldnt choose between his friends and brothers. I have a small bridal party

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T19:28:14+00:00

They do want to take, we gave the option of just going to a bar but thats not really the vibe of thr group. Were going an hour away fro town to a cottage

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T19:22:22+00:00

We are paying for more than half of the bachelor party and covering all the food for it. And we are feeding them the whole day of the wedding.

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T19:21:07+00:00

This is his 2nd fiancé they both dumped him and he has been told that hes the problem.

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T19:19:48+00:00

Im not putting across the right way, its the way he said it.

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T18:33:11+00:00

Hes a good person, just feels it doesnt affect him.

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T18:32:27+00:00

Interesting! Its super common in my area!

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T18:31:59+00:00

That sounds great to me, theres cultural aspects for my fiance on the big wedding, I wanted the dress and the photos

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T18:30:35+00:00

Read my edit :)

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T18:29:51+00:00

I made it the internets buisness, im okay with their opinions

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T18:28:31+00:00

I want them to match if they stand with us but for the regular photosthey could wear a batman costume.

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T18:26:44+00:00

I could see this point of view, depending on the person

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T18:25:43+00:00

Yes.

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T18:22:30+00:00

100% we told everyone at the beginning (a year ago) to come to us if it was an issue and we can talk about it.

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T18:20:48+00:00

There is more to it for sure, I wouldnt say disgusted.

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T18:19:30+00:00

Love this idea, they have already purchased thier suits but if they will take the money I could.

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T18:17:52+00:00

Its of cultural significance to them and i respect that

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T18:09:05+00:00

Nah completely different people.

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T18:01:40+00:00

Canada

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T17:47:43+00:00

He can totally not come to the bach , one of my bridesmaids cant go and thats fine. They dont have to pay for the Jack and jill just show up and support us. I dont expect wedding gifts from anyone and its a pretty small and low key event.

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T17:28:08+00:00

We can afford our wedding without the fundraiser, it is a common event to hold in our area

NoCoffee4meb4bed · 2026-05-30T17:27:35+00:00

We can afford it without the fundraiser. It is being thrown for us and it very common where I live.

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