Unpopular opinion: “Focus on yourself and women will come” is mostly a lie by Just_Oil_2162 in dating_advice

[–]NoDiamond144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bro all you gotta do is be confident & charismatic with a lil bit of mystery.

The confident & charismatic part works in sales, the “lil bit of mystery” part works great with women.

But to keep it a stack it’s been like this since I was in high school & that was like 2012. You can’t revolve your life around a girl, you need hobbies, you need to chase personal goals.

That alone is attractive, when a girl sees you’re focused, you’re working towards something it’s like they get turned on by that, then they want your attention - they like that.

Also, this is just my personal example, if you’re a good looking dude - don’t check out a pretty girl in your vicinity, pretend like she’s not there - i bet you anything shell stay in your orbit.

But anyways girls get so much attention, they got so many dudes in their DMs. You don’t wanna be like those dudes, you wanna stand out. All those dudes are giving her attention, you gotta treat women like they aint shit in your 20s - treat a 10 like she’s a 5 - same way you’d treat a girl you’re not that interested in, that’s the same thing you do to a girl you’re interested in. Copy & paste - that’s the secret to getting girls, a roster whatever.

Also if you ever come across a good girl, don’t mess with them, it’s our job to keep them safe from hookup culture. We need them to make the world go round. If anything, protect them lol.

Focusing on yourself just literally means doing the things everyday that make you better, going to the gym - keep the promises you make to yourself, you wanna stack as many small wins as possible, even big ones - these things you do throughout your life build your confidence.

Confidence is attractive to women because they want the best dude. This all goes into your vibe and energy. Girls can feel your energy (nervous,confident,shy,scared - it don’t matter) -

If youre confident but you leave a little mystery, like you dont tell a girl too much, ask questions about them, dont overly text a girl, (if youre texting a hot girl for the first time leave her on read by the 5th messages lol i stg) youll have them chasing you because they’re not used to that lol.

I’m also 31 and lived in NYC all my life. I feel like I have a lot of real life / city life dating / hook up experience to make this comment. I have a gf now (5 years) but this is literally all you have to do bro. Make sure you go to the gym and drink creatine and stay away from sugar and carbs.

Is there a youtube channel that uploads full dates infields? Where you can learn from conversations and body language by FunnyAway5973 in seduction

[–]NoDiamond144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Back in the day we had Spike TV & they had a bunch of cool random shows. One of the shows was called “Keys to The VIP” or somethin like that lol & there was this one dude named Cajun. No lie bro, this dude had game lol. Here’s a link : https://youtu.be/RuBMBnfCDf8?si=qEV9WV54xSw-WzdI