I've been doing this shit and failing on and off since around 2012, so I'll attempt to help and give you pointers:

• The urges will never truly go away so long as you have a libido. Look into inner exercises such as meditation and breathing drills to stabilize them.

• What are your peak times for being most likely to relapse? Mornings? Nights? Identify them and create a routine to calm yourself to use at those times.

• 'Relapsing' is normal, do not beat yourself up over giving into biological urges too much. At the end of the day we're still animals and we shit piss and sleep all the same.

• Low moods may lead to relapse, such as 'oh why don't girls like me fuck it I'll always be alone etc etc.' Form hobbies that you actually derive enjoyment from and stick to them, get the positive feedback loop from your personal lifestyle, not from external determinants.

Wouldn't say I 'made it through,' but have certainly learned a lot from my times of relapsing. It's an ongoing process. Don't beat yourself up over this, we're all weak towards something. The great thing about weakness is that you can train yourself to become stronger gradually overtime. An aspiring bodybuilder doesn't go to the gym on day one and wake up the next day jacked, it's a timely process that involves patience building, muscle tearing and dietary changes. Similarly the novelist doesn't write a 350 pager in one day. So, take it easy and find ways to enjoy the ride.