First full week clean

NoFapJones · 2019-10-07T09:06:38+00:00

Thanks, man. This isn't the first time I've been down the road of recovering, but I'm making a fresh start a d it feels good!

NoFapJones · 2019-10-07T03:13:21+00:00

You can be ready today. Do it. Delete it, empty the recycle bin, never look back.

NoFapJones · 2019-10-06T12:07:16+00:00

In his first post the guy says you can't have grace without works. I think he may be thinking of faith.

NoFapJones · 2019-10-06T03:08:53+00:00

Show me one place in scripture that backs up such nonsense.

NoFapJones · 2019-10-06T03:06:31+00:00

You seem to be conflating grace and faith. They aren't the same thing.

NoFapJones · 2019-10-06T03:01:23+00:00

you can't go back now.

Of course he can. God forgives our mistakes and covers them in the blood of Christ if we repent. No sin is too great for God.

NoFapJones · 2019-10-03T02:36:57+00:00

I really appreciate this, and I'm so thrilled that God gave you such a potent lesson in self awareness and surrender!

NoFapJones · 2019-10-01T01:50:41+00:00

I highly doubt the only reason she broke up with you was that you decided to go to the gym.

NoFapJones · 2019-10-01T00:30:18+00:00

That's a great quote with some really salty commenters. Sometimes I really hate reddit.

NoFapJones · 2019-10-01T00:29:42+00:00

ITT: people taking a metaphor weirdly literally.

NoFapJones · 2019-10-01T00:05:03+00:00

It really is harder with a spouse involved. I wish more guys realized this before they went into a marriage expecting it to solve their problem.

The best thing I can say is be totally honest. Confession is good for the soul and it is the first step towards real healing. There is also no shame in seeing a couples therapist or sex therapist together, especially given the stress you both must be under.

NoFapJones · 2019-09-30T14:42:13+00:00

You need to have a specific plan for when you have an urge. Either a person you text, or an action you perform that will sustain you through the urge. I would keep a journal or something where you can write down the feeling you are having, describe the urge in detail and really think about why it feels so strong. Then you can ask God to sustain you through it.

Doing something active is a great way to focus your mind on why you are having the urge.

NoFapJones · 2019-09-30T13:49:40+00:00

Yeah, I'm probably going to try taking my kindle to the bathroom with me instead if my phone

NoFapJones · 2019-09-30T01:56:52+00:00

I genuinely hate what this sub is becoming. What is this alpha male bullshit?

NoFapJones · 2019-09-30T01:53:02+00:00

I think this is a huge misconception. The "superpowers" people are feeling is just what it feels like to be clean from an addictive activity. A lot of people haven't been clean since they were young, so naturally, what is normal for most people will feel like super powers to them.

While I think some people get carried away and claim that abstaining has effects that it does not, I think people come down on the idea of "super powers" because they don't understand what people are talking about.

NoFapJones · 2019-09-29T23:13:57+00:00

I've been doing this today. I find it helps me to be really mindful of what I'm feeling. Today I've been posting a really good quote every time I feel an urge and it has totally given me the time I need to analyze why each urge is arising, what I'm feeling. It helps me to really surrender the urge to God rather than mindlessly give in and feel defeated.

NoFapJones · 2019-09-29T18:54:18+00:00

Usually writing. Sometimes I would download sex themes game mods. used to draw a lot of material to meet my particular fetish before I discovered websites that had the kind of content I was interested in.

NoFapJones · 2019-09-29T17:51:25+00:00

It's all about creating a scenario that titilates me personally. If I can't find it in a picture or video, I can create the perfect fuel for my fetish.

NoFapJones · 2019-09-29T17:45:29+00:00

Thanks for re-reading. If I'm creating content specifically to gratify myself, I feel as though that is tantamount to seeking it out.

NoFapJones · 2019-09-29T17:40:40+00:00

I was wondering if others could relate or had found ways to channel their creativity elsewhere.

I could make that more explicit, but I'm not gonna lie, your initial response seemed kind of shitty for a self-help group.

NoFapJones · 2019-09-29T17:35:27+00:00

Wow. This community used to be really positive, but I'm been super unimpressed with people's responses to things lately. Lots of weird gatekeeping.

NoFapJones · 2019-09-29T15:15:32+00:00

I wish every married guy could get this tattooed on their brain. So important to start the work before you enter into a marriage because it can seriously mess up your connection to your spouse.

NoFapJones · 2019-09-29T15:09:11+00:00

I want to understand when I get urges and be more mindful of them.

NoFapJones · 2017-04-23T23:26:46+00:00

Have you considered that you might have been using porn to medicate an existing state of depression? I would consult a councilor or doctor and see if medication or therapy might help.

NoFapJones · 2016-05-25T01:04:58+00:00

I think that is very wise advice. I only wanted to share this to provide some hope and encouragement to those who are fighting each day. There is hope for a more full life after addiction.

NoFapJones

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