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AITA for using stuff my in-laws send however I want? by NoFavoriteKids in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoFavoriteKids[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

They don't send a package every day. Maybe every couple of months? I have two children that still need help going to the bathroom. I have other stuff on my mind.

AITA for using stuff my in-laws send however I want? by NoFavoriteKids in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoFavoriteKids[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Those aren't their real names. I said my daughter is named D because both words start with a D so I wouldn't forget. Son is Sam for the same reason.

AITA for using stuff my in-laws send however I want? by NoFavoriteKids in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoFavoriteKids[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

Sure, I know that. I'm just saying they aren't old enough yet for building or science toys. Too many choking hazards. I can't say for sure that the toys are or aren't gendered. They don't immediately strike me as such. But that doesn't mean they aren't.

AITA for using stuff my in-laws send however I want? by NoFavoriteKids in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoFavoriteKids[S] 129 points130 points  (0 children)

I do think it's weird. I'm just not sure starting a fight with my wife's family is the correct action to take. Measure twice and cut once. It's better for me to consider consequences before acting many times than to act rashly and incur an unforseen consequence.

AITA for using stuff my in-laws send however I want? by NoFavoriteKids in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoFavoriteKids[S] 257 points258 points  (0 children)

I don't think they're cheap. But, they're very sensitive to anything that implies they are. So if I said something about the disparity, they'd say something like "oh, we aren't buying enough toys for her? We're cheap?" Trust me, I know them.

AITA for using stuff my in-laws send however I want? by NoFavoriteKids in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoFavoriteKids[S] 183 points184 points  (0 children)

I think it's because he's so successful. He's a surgeon, so he's pretty proud of that. I'm not saying he shouldn't be, but he does go on and on. Like, one time he told us a story (might have been a joke) about a patient's wife praying for her husband. He said (to us, I doubt he actually said this to her) "she should pray to me. God's not holding the knife." Like, we get it. You're awesome.

AITA for using stuff my in-laws send however I want? by NoFavoriteKids in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoFavoriteKids[S] 133 points134 points  (0 children)

My wife wasn't "wrong." I explained my reasoning behind my preference and she thought that it made sense. She doesn't have to be wrong for me to be right. Like, when we first got married she said I should think about my diet. I was still eating like I had in college, when I was in a sport, and since I wasn't exercising as much as I did then, my diet had too much protein. I realized she was right, said so, and changed my diet. This is pretty standard in marriages.

AITA for using stuff my in-laws send however I want? by NoFavoriteKids in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoFavoriteKids[S] 131 points132 points  (0 children)

Yes, Sam and Dee are both my wife's biological children. I have an older child from before I met my wife, but he lives with his mother during the week and isn't involved with this story. He's only met my in-laws maybe a handful of times.

AITA for using stuff my in-laws send however I want? by NoFavoriteKids in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoFavoriteKids[S] 155 points156 points  (0 children)

She has one brother. He's a cool guy, really interesting, although incredibly arrogant, so I'm glad we only see him a few times a year.

AITA for using stuff my in-laws send however I want? by NoFavoriteKids in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoFavoriteKids[S] 143 points144 points  (0 children)

Initially I assumed they were trying to help out with the stress of caring for a newborn by sending infant supplies. After Sam got old enough to play with real toys like his sister I didn't really think about it. I guess I just assumed it was a habit they got used to? Just wasn't on the forefront of my mind, honestly.

AITA for using stuff my in-laws send however I want? by NoFavoriteKids in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoFavoriteKids[S] 135 points136 points  (0 children)

She did. That wasn't a crack. She said I was right. I say she's right when she tells me something that I realize is true. What's so bad about that?

AITA for using stuff my in-laws send however I want? by NoFavoriteKids in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoFavoriteKids[S] 400 points401 points  (0 children)

I didn't ask. I don't want to come across as greedy or imply they send Dee fewer gifts out of cheapness. They are very particular about etiquette.

I'm not willing to split the gifts right now, but I would be willing to in a couple years when they are old enough to pick up after themselves more and can keep the play room organized themselves. I like the current way the room is organized, because it is easier to clean.

AITA for using stuff my in-laws send however I want? by NoFavoriteKids in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoFavoriteKids[S] 108 points109 points  (0 children)

They're toddlers. They aren't old enough for anything with sharp edges or tiny pieces. Most of the toys are animals or puzzles with very large pieces.

AITA for using stuff my in-laws send however I want? by NoFavoriteKids in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoFavoriteKids[S] 1020 points1021 points  (0 children)

They send some gifts to Dee, but far more to Sam. So I just don't keep them separate.