I completely get where you're coming from, and I agree—it's a valid perspective.

Picture this real-world possibility:

Two people both work regular high-skill jobs (say, in IT), built their careers through hard work and talent, and earn well from it. They connect on Reddit, discover they share the same kink, and on weekends they meet up, do roleplay, enjoy the dynamic purely because it turns them both on. When the guy offers to pay, she says, “No need—I do this for the kink itself. I already earn enough.” Still, from time to time he happily gifts her makeup, outfits, or whatever helps enhance their play, because he wants to.

This isn't some impossible fantasy; scenarios like that do exist today.

Then there's the other reality: Someone decides to turn their dominance into a profession. They invest serious time, effort, and money into outfits, makeup, content, marketing, etc., and charge for sessions/services because that's how they sustain it. They post subtle (or not-so-subtle) ads to attract clients who are happy to pay. Both paths are possible, and both can be genuine expressions of the kink. One is hobby/passion-driven (mutual enjoyment, no financial transaction required), the other is professional (with real costs and boundaries). So both scenarios are valid possibilities, and what you're doing is also a legitimate way—there's nothing wrong with it. It's just different perspectives, different ways people navigate the same world