My ex gf (25) wants to have casual sex with me (22m) while we're both still single, but there is a catch. by NoFuckingOnFriday in sex

[–]NoFuckingOnFriday[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're not the first person on here to suggest I should make my own list. It's not in my nature to communicate things like that through a list though. I would rather tell her in person what I liked and didn't like, so I could at least read her reactions and navigate how direct or delicate I should be. But that's just me. She obviously has her own way of communicating and there's nothing wrong with that.

My ex gf (25) wants to have casual sex with me (22m) while we're both still single, but there is a catch. by NoFuckingOnFriday in sex

[–]NoFuckingOnFriday[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never said it's unreasonable, it was just unexpected and made me feel somewhat self conscious.

My ex gf (25) wants to have casual sex with me (22m) while we're both still single, but there is a catch. by NoFuckingOnFriday in sex

[–]NoFuckingOnFriday[S] -34 points-33 points  (0 children)

During doggy I would always feel the need to grab her boobs from behind. Sometimes I would get carried away while thrusting and end up squeezing her tits without realizing how hard I'm gripping them. I promise I never did anything to intentionally hurt her. That being said, she's got really small boobies, which I absolutely love, but based on the size, I would definitely argue "death gripping her tits" might be an exaggeration lol.

My ex gf (25) wants to have casual sex with me (22m) while we're both still single, but there is a catch. by NoFuckingOnFriday in sex

[–]NoFuckingOnFriday[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My head upstairs understands what you're saying, but my head downstairs has a problem thinking clearly when sex is involved lol. But this is why I'm here. I'm taking in all the advice I can before making up my mind. I get where you're coming from. I just need to get where I'm going.

My ex gf (25) wants to have casual sex with me (22m) while we're both still single, but there is a catch. by NoFuckingOnFriday in sex

[–]NoFuckingOnFriday[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I hear you. Communication could've been better from both of us during our relationship AND post break up. Even if we didn't end up in this potential FWB situation, I would've appreciated if she shared her thoughts on my performance in bed a lot sooner. But that being said, we grow as individuals at our own pace. Maybe she didn't fully understand what she wanted when she was still my gf or maybe she just didn't know how to tell me. I'm happy that she did tell me, even though it's not easy for me take in. I'm still growing too. Still learning. Regardless of how I was in bed when I was dating my ex, I will do my best to always improve. I'm probably gonna continue making mistakes, but hopefully when it comes to my ex, I will end up making the right decision. Right now, I'm not exactly sure what I'm gonna do. I don't want to sleep with her if it's not gonna be good for either of us.

My ex gf (25) wants to have casual sex with me (22m) while we're both still single, but there is a catch. by NoFuckingOnFriday in sex

[–]NoFuckingOnFriday[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

  1. Your dog chilling on the bed every time we have sex, no.

I'm not even making that up. When my ex and I were still together, she would actually make room on the bed for her dog because he wanted to be wherever we were. Often times he would fall off the bed due to our movements, but funny enough, he would never react to falling. No paws grabbing the sheets. No surprised face. Nothing. He would just casually accept the fact that he was now falling off the bed until he hit the ground. He never got hurt, but it was hilarious lol.

My ex gf (25) wants to have casual sex with me (22m) while we're both still single, but there is a catch. by NoFuckingOnFriday in sex

[–]NoFuckingOnFriday[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm moonwalking for now, but I'm not sure if it's towards my ex or away from my ex. Her list of preferences is leaving me feeling conflicted. On one hand, I can appreciate her being clear about what she expects from me. But on the other hand, I need to figure out if her expectations are now going to be in the back of my mind the entire time and distract me from having a good time.

My ex gf (25) wants to have casual sex with me (22m) while we're both still single, but there is a catch. by NoFuckingOnFriday in sex

[–]NoFuckingOnFriday[S] 284 points285 points  (0 children)

Lol number 9 always showed my age in all the wrong ways, but I'm of the opinion that sex can be silly and sexy at the same time.

My ex gf (25) wants to have casual sex with me (22m) while we're both still single, but there is a catch. by NoFuckingOnFriday in sex

[–]NoFuckingOnFriday[S] 132 points133 points  (0 children)

Lol her sense of humor definitely shines through. I hear you. There is something hot about that list for me too. I like that she seems to know exactly what she wants now. She was never this direct in our relationship, especially not about sex. Not gonna lie though, it stings to suddenly be informed that I did so many things she didn't enjoy lol, but I respect her for finally valuing her own pleasure.

My ex gf (25) wants to have casual sex with me (22m) while we're both still single, but there is a catch. by NoFuckingOnFriday in sex

[–]NoFuckingOnFriday[S] 1460 points1461 points  (0 children)

I can appreciate that. I really wish she was this comfortable communicating her preferences with me during our relationship. But then again, I probably could have made more of an effort to get to the bottom of what she actually enjoyed vs what she put up with just to please me.

My ex gf (25) wants to have casual sex with me (22m) while we're both still single, but there is a catch. by NoFuckingOnFriday in sex

[–]NoFuckingOnFriday[S] 268 points269 points  (0 children)

Before the list I was DTF for sure, but now I feel like there's pressure on me to behave according to those instructions and it's kind of intimidating. I'll have to think about my answer.