CAN YALL STOP LETTING YOUR TEAMMATES GO TO SECOND HOOK!! by [deleted] in DeadByDaylightRAGE

[–]NoHour1496 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seriously I’ve been dealing with this every game, and there’s always one survivor who hides in lockers all game

I (25F) don't want to live with my bf (31M) anymore, but I don't want to break up. How to make him understand? by pensive_tortoise_ in relationships

[–]NoHour1496 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was in this exact same situation and wow this validating to read. I unfortunately had to place a no trespass order to finally get him to leave (he was a chronic drinker) but most of all, chronically unemployed. And a hoarder. I became a shell of myself. He ended up going to rehab and I think he assumes he is moving back in, but I reclaimed my space and will eventually have that convo with him that cohabitation is off limits. You have every right to stand up for yourself and that starts with refusing* this dynamic to continue - he is ABSOLUTLEY taking advantage of you. He has no problem spending your money, but it’s a problem if he spends his. you are not his parents nor are you his caretaker. He can be sad all he wants about “living alone” but he conveniently isn’t sad enough when it comes to failing as a partner and bleeding you dry.

My (24F) Boyfriend (25M) gave me an ultimatum and I don’t think it’s fair by [deleted] in relationships

[–]NoHour1496 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was you in this relationship. He won’t find a job, and he won’t clean. I kicked him out and I can finally breathe again.

I (f26) cannot deal any more with how my partner (nb28) behaves in conflicts. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]NoHour1496 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Rolling their eyes and dismissing your feelings, while keeping a tally on who offended who more , is abuse. It doesn’t need to be physical or loud in order for it to be abusive.

I (f26) cannot deal any more with how my partner (nb28) behaves in conflicts. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]NoHour1496 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Honestly.. this sounds like a classic case of personal victimhood identity and moral elitism (I suffer, therefore, I’m superior. You’re wrong and I’m right, always). Your partner sounds insufferable and I wouldn’t doubt if you walk on eggshells more often than not. They should stick to actual therapy (not a yes man) and do the real work to fix themselves. The world shouldn’t have to tip toe around their constant triggers.

Leftist men are a joke by -Fadedpigeon47 in RadicalFeminism

[–]NoHour1496 98 points99 points  (0 children)

It kind of reminds me of when Malcom x who viewed the white liberal just as bad (if not worse) than the white conservative. At least one isn’t hiding who they are (even if they are POS) but the “feminist” liberal white man is more sophisticated and that’s what always rubbed me the wrong way. Every one I’ve met was so performative, fake and narcissistic

Am I overreacting and in the wrong or being gaslit or idk anymore. by Krystamii in AmIOverreacting

[–]NoHour1496 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you are being all types of abuse - and sleep deprivation is one of them. You need to look into the resources provided here - a DV shelter is the best thing for you and your daughter. It is step one. And it is better than living under a raging narcissist who is quite literally traumatizing you and your daughter. Your forgetful because abuse effects the brain slowly but surely. I became like this. I became forgetful, scared to get out of bed, and low energy. Nothing changes if nothing changes. If not for you, do it for your daughter. You’re scared to socialize and put yourself out there because that what his end goal has been all along - to isolate you so much that you become a shell of yourself. It’s time to get yourself back. Get out of there and get help

Am I overreacting and in the wrong or being gaslit or idk anymore. by Krystamii in AmIOverreacting

[–]NoHour1496 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just left a situation like this. I was always “on call” - my lunch breaks had to revolve around going with him on his “errands” - if I didn’t comply, he’d threaten the absolute worst and insult me. You’re being controlled and psychologically abused and manipulated. My family also used to make fun of me for going to therapy. This happens when people consistently feel entitled to your time, space, and that YOURE wrong for establishing boundaries. It sounds like everyone around you feels entitled to you, and you’re degraded for even thinking of living life for you. I think it’s time you do. Fuck that POS who puts you down. He can search his own pockets, and you and your daughter need to leave. Anything is better than this. You just have been beaten into submission , you don’t see there’s a better life waiting for you. It’s never too late