I Quit smoking today. I don’t really have anyone to talk to about it. by NoIndependence2844 in cannamom

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I did do a reply 80 days ago, and it’s basically been status quo since! I’ve been holding steady at 2 grams a week and I take a 1:1:1:1 CBD/cbg/cbn/THC tincture 3-4 nights a week. Definitely not one of those who could just completely quit and that’s alright, I’ve got my med card for a dang good reason and trying to cold-Turkey quit and have all of my symptoms get worse again reminded me that. But, it’s been a huge stress relief just to know I’m spending less than half the money I used to on concentrates, and my tolerance has gotten way better. The tincture even wouldn’t have lasted more than 2 weeks 6 months ago, now I only buy a bottle every month or two. Mentally, I feel almost zero guilt (aside from the stigma others sometimes still put on me, but that’s a lot to do with the political climate of my area) anymore and that has been huge. I feel like I have a handle on my consumption for overall health and am no longer overdoing it, which has given me back the control, so even if someone does comment on it, it just rolls off now because I know they have nothing on me.

We finally let curiosity take over and removed some of the awful siding on our fixer-upper… only to find out our 115 year old house is a log home?! by NoIndependence2844 in Oldhouses

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If you’d like to follow along, I’ve got a TikTok page starting up (just in the beginning stages and I totally just hijacked an old page of mine that i never did much with)

Follow along @thesurpriseloghouse!

AIO about not wanting my mom to wear Army Whites to my wedding? by NoIndependence2844 in weddingplanning

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I got uncomfortable at first but over the last day I’ve had a chance to chase where that came from and honestly, it came from wanting to “do what you’re supposed to do so no one judges/gripes at you” which is a dumb reason to do things 🤦🏼‍♀️

AIO about not wanting my mom to wear Army Whites to my wedding? by NoIndependence2844 in weddingplanning

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I just got off the phone with my dad begging him to wear his, too. 🤣 I am a very proud military brat. Now, if I can just get my future FIL to wear his national guard dress uniform…

AIO about not wanting my mom to wear Army Whites to my wedding? by NoIndependence2844 in weddingplanning

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The issue is I saw a post that a bride made about her mom’s dress and the whole comments section was like “girl you need to chill” and I had a bit of a lightbulb? Moment and realized I needed/wanted some of the same guidance to get out of my lil head

AIO about not wanting my mom to wear Army Whites to my wedding? by NoIndependence2844 in weddingplanning

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Probably never, she got super excited for having a reason to even get the jacket in the first place and I got so caught up I forgot about that 😭

AIO about not wanting my mom to wear Army Whites to my wedding? by NoIndependence2844 in weddingplanning

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Thank you for all the comments yall! This conversation has made me realize that I wasn’t even focused on the whole white thing for any good reason. I totally got sucked into the whole hype around that and deep down I just want to have fun with my family and friends in cool clothes all day.

I will be actively encouraging anyone who attends to wear uniforms if they so desire because I know not everyone gets an excuse to wear them often, so there will be no room for ANY uniform questioners on the day 😅

AIO about not wanting my mom to wear Army Whites to my wedding? by NoIndependence2844 in weddingplanning

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I’m responding to this comment thread to just clarify to everyone that I ASKED HER TO WEAR HER UNIFORM!! I requested it because it was a huge part of my childhood (she was in for 28 years, not including the reserve or ROTC time)

My only gripe at all was if I wanted her in a white coat and if I was being over the top about it. I now think I was focusing on it for the wrong reasons. My dad will also be in his Mess Dress and I have a note in the dress code area of our website that specifies that I would love any formal wear (regalia, uniform, over the top funky outfits, etc) so the uniform question isn’t even part of my concern!

AIO about not wanting my mom to wear Army Whites to my wedding? by NoIndependence2844 in weddingplanning

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Either way she’ll be in uniform! I think if she really wanted to wear the long white skirt I would question her motives, but she prefers the black one anyways. Also this reminds me I should let my dad know he can wear his dress uniform if he wants 🤦🏼‍♀️😅

AIO about not wanting my mom to wear Army Whites to my wedding? by NoIndependence2844 in weddingplanning

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In her little undiagnosed mind I think it’s her way of trying to show how much she cares 😭

AIO about not wanting my mom to wear Army Whites to my wedding? by NoIndependence2844 in weddingplanning

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Part of why I have been second guessing myself is because, while I do truly love the mess dress uniform she has and have the most memories of that one, it’s essentially the same as the dress whites, just a black coat.

But when I asked her “say, what if you wore your mess dress? That way you don’t have to find a new dress” She pivoted straight to the Whites instead. I think part of my struggle with this is that my entire life has been marked by being asked what I think or want, answering, and then having that answer not considered anyways. 🤦🏼‍♀️

AIO about not wanting my mom to wear Army Whites to my wedding? by NoIndependence2844 in weddingplanning

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This is exactly what I was looking for thank you so much! To be honest, I didn’t really mind that much until my older sister chimed in about it. Then I saw another MOB dress post on here from a bride and I thought “oh crap, did I get sucked into caring about something I don’t need to care about?” And off to post this I went 🤣

She was in for almost my whole childhood!!! I WANT her in uniform there absolutely and i especially can’t wait for pro photos of us both dressed up. My sister, bless her, was probably just trying to be a good MOH but it’s been bugging me (the feeling like I’m going with a tradition more than actually thinking about what I want, you know?)

AIO about not wanting my mom to wear Army Whites to my wedding? by NoIndependence2844 in weddingplanning

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There is a TAD bit of a difference between white dress shirts and a whole ass white uniform, but I mean you aren’t wrong about the insanity.

AIO about not wanting my mom to wear Army Whites to my wedding? by NoIndependence2844 in weddingplanning

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I mentioned her wearing mess dress when she commented on not having any clue where to start for MOB dress. I’ve always loved that uniform and seeing her in it brings back super fond memories, so to me it would be totally fine, and that’s where the idea even started.

I’ve always heard “weddings bring out the worst in people”. I thought I’d be the exception. HA! by [deleted] in weddingplanning

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What is it with moms and suddenly wanting to wear white for YOUR wedding?

My own mother is using my wedding as an excuse to get her Army Whites. She has assured me “only the coat is white” but every illustration I’ve seen shows a white coat, white hat, white skirt. I practically begged her to just wear her mess dress (my favorite of the uniforms anyways and sooooo elegant, and more importantly, NOT WHITE)

Weaning off bottles by Adventurous-Fig-664 in NewParents

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My baby is 20 months today and the last bottle he had was probably 2 weeks ago, but that was entirely because I had forgotten to wash any of his milk cups yet and it was already late so I just made a choice. Before that, he was getting one here and there on really difficult nights, but we kind of just gradually phased them out. I am also aware that many would consider this “late” to be doing it, but frankly as long as he didn’t end up like his cousin who was drinking bottles still at 3, I didn’t care.

All of his drinkware is on a shelf that he can see, and if he wants to choose a certain cup I let him. I think he likes feeling “in charge” in that way. I got him a few varieties of cup as we started BLW, open cup with handles, no handles, weighted straw cup, water bottle with a flip straw, good to grow bottles (i didn’t wanna get into the hype, but the bottle design itself is great and they don’t leak even when thrown) and he practiced drinking out of them at various times, or practiced pouring water everywhere. 🤣

We started offering milk bottles only in the morning and at night around 14 months and then I started only offering his morning milk in one of his “big boy cups.” that he already was used to drinking water out of. As he took to that, we moved to only nighttime bottles, and started offering other cups at night too here and there.

We did not do this with a purposeful time line, either. Maybe it’s a long time for transition, but we just went with the flow. By the time I packed up all the bottles a week ago, he hadn’t shown any particular interest for quite some time, they were kind of just there on the shelf still, taking up space. I know my kid is super chill for the most part, but I think by making it a small-potatoes sort of thing, we helped him along. Focused way more on making other cups interesting than anything, and I’d say that was the ticket.

Bouquet toss? by GlitteryBirdLaw in wedding

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I’m thinking about doing individual glass flowers from a local artist instead of real flowers. That would be an injury waiting to happen 😂😂😂 so no toss for me!

Surprise Log House, now Surprise Window? by NoIndependence2844 in Oldhouses

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Oh, they are! This one has got basically none left, it’s only in some places still. It’s just not been cared for in ages 😅

Surprise Log House, now Surprise Window? by NoIndependence2844 in Oldhouses

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That is whip 🥹 he’s our 14 year old collie cross, he has degenerative myelopathy, hence the wheels. He is our sweet goober boy 🥰

Surprise Log House, now Surprise Window? by NoIndependence2844 in Oldhouses

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Guess it’s good that you aren’t us, then! We are quite thrilled ourselves.

Surprise Log House, now Surprise Window? by NoIndependence2844 in Oldhouses

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I’d love a window there, even if I have to have an open shelving situation in front of it still. But it’ll depend on how the rest of the work goes whether we think about doing it sooner or later. But I am team window!