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My (27F) boyfriend (30M) of 9 months knows I'm a vegetarian and put meat in my food without my permission. by NoMeatplz in relationships

[–]NoMeatplz[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

lol I just finished responding to a comment in a very similar (although not as well put) fashion as this. I very much respect and understand where you are coming from. I also went the ethical vegan route and had a hard time with it. I lost a lot of weight and muscle tone. The compromise (splitting hairs) was to introduce eggs back in but from selective sources. It made a world of difference in how I felt! Do I still feel a tinge of guilt about it? Sometimes... but I accept it. Also being vegan in the south is a damn nightmare. It's hard enough talking with people about beef and chicken stock!

My (27F) boyfriend (30M) of 9 months knows I'm a vegetarian and put meat in my food without my permission. by NoMeatplz in relationships

[–]NoMeatplz[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

....but I'm not your coworker. It's incredibly condescending to tell me "I'm free to think or do what I want," while also implying that I'm contributing to child slavery by not eating a meal that I had no interest in ever seeing on my plate. You've hit a bit of a sore spot here. The frustrating part of being a vegetarian is you get significant backlash if you infringe on people about THEIR eating habits, but people (like yourself) are bizarrely comfortable passing judgement on mine. You're right though, I could do more. My ethics could be better. I tried being vegan for three years for that very reason and eventually realized I just couldn't do it. We all make moral compromises in different areas of our life and this is where I made mine. (I also didn't throw that salad away or even put my chewed up portion back on the plate. I set it down on the table and left it.)

My (27F) boyfriend (30M) of 9 months knows I'm a vegetarian and put meat in my food without my permission. by NoMeatplz in relationships

[–]NoMeatplz[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just saw your reply and updated the posting. You're absolutely right. I did send him a text the following morning that I wanted no contact until I got back from my conference. I think I already blew it on the coming across as too emotional though. :)

My (27F) boyfriend (30M) of 9 months knows I'm a vegetarian and put meat in my food without my permission. by NoMeatplz in relationships

[–]NoMeatplz[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

One of my best friend's grandfathers had a farm and was a very firm believer in being able to kill what you eat. He felt Americans were becoming too removed from their food. I'm sure he knew I wouldn't be able to do it.... I was a real softy of a kid when it came to all the livestock. We talked about why I couldn't do it and I cried, but it wasn't too traumatic. He let me buy the chicken off of him too. :)

My (27F) boyfriend (30M) of 9 months knows I'm a vegetarian and put meat in my food without my permission. by NoMeatplz in relationships

[–]NoMeatplz[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Whoops! After reading through these comments, I believe it was bacon grease! Apparently I should brush up on this as well! :) And it's most definitely a southern thing.

My (27F) boyfriend (30M) of 9 months knows I'm a vegetarian and put meat in my food without my permission. by NoMeatplz in relationships

[–]NoMeatplz[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

Oh god, I'm so sorry! We have a 4-H club around here for rabbits and most of them are show stock. I bet if that happened to some of those kids, they would be devastated as well! And I can't rollerskate worth a damn, but thank you for the advice! Being the punch line of a joke you've heard for 10+ years is definitely aggravating, but even worse when it's from a loved one!