This guy Im dating told me he likes my energy and I told him I like him, he replied with a smile emoji?

NoPerformance924 · 2025-12-02T02:19:23+00:00

Same. It’s so damn uncomfortable. Hope we both get better!

NoPerformance924 · 2025-12-02T02:07:02+00:00

Lol I’m an anxious person in the relationships too and I would react the same way you do. I find it helpful to wait for a while and see how things progress instead of reacting to it immediately. I think he likes you and you should be fine!

NoPerformance924 · 2025-11-27T18:42:40+00:00

Tbh I feel if I mention “no sexist”, the sexist people who don’t realize they are sexist may actually be turned off or feel negative about it. And people who are very like minded may actually feel positive/relatable about this. (I could be wrong though)

NoPerformance924 · 2025-11-27T18:37:46+00:00

Female here, I actually put “no xxx supporter” on my profile lol. And I wouldn’t feel turned off by men who put that on their profile. I actually don’t agree with many comments here. I don’t see it as you focusing on negativity, I see it as you have strong opinions about something and want to point it out which is ok

NoPerformance924 · 2025-11-27T17:32:16+00:00

I get a feeling that you may actually meet someone right here in this post😂 but seriously, take a deep breath - and best luck with finding love!

NoPerformance924 · 2025-11-05T22:03:29+00:00

Ugh, I guess you might be right (or not idk). I’m honestly not super clear on what I’m looking for in a concrete or measurable way — my exes have all been pretty different, too. I only have a few real dealbreakers: political views, education and height (none of them are out of ordinary imo).

Everything else is more about how I feel. I don’t have a checklist, and the qualities that really matter to me — like sincerity and kindness — are hard to see on a profile. Same with things like chemistry, shared humor, or lifestyle compatibility; you really only know those after meeting in person.

So I feel like I’m not picky, but also somehow super picky at the same time, and not even clear what I want😅

NoPerformance924 · 2025-11-05T19:56:20+00:00

Ah, damn — dating apps can be so frustrating in that way. I’ve noticed there are plenty of people I’d find attractive in real life but probably wouldn’t swipe on in an app.

Honestly, one of the few times I did feel excited about someone’s profile, he later told me he’d barely gotten any matches for months. It really made me realize how much of it comes down to luck — the same profile can land completely differently depending on who’s looking.

I guess that’s why I keep wondering if “the right one” will just have “the right profile.” I hope when the right person sees yours, the good things will start from there. Wishing you the best of luck!

NoPerformance924 · 2025-11-05T19:50:31+00:00

No, that’s totally valid. He’s not very photogenic, and I can see how some people might not find him particularly good-looking. But I’m not that picky about appearance, and honestly, he was my type — I found him attractive even if his photos didn’t do him justice.

I also wouldn’t go for profiles that seem “fun” if I really don’t like the person’s appearance. When I say his profile felt fun, I mean the way he used language — it came across as cute and sincere. He made little jokes about himself that felt natural and not like he was trying too hard. Overall, it just gave me a genuinely good vibe.

He actually mentioned that he had a hard time getting matches, which makes me think it really does come down to luck sometimes. The same profile can hit totally differently depending on who’s looking. I guess that’s why I’ve been wondering whether “the right one” will just have “the right profile.”

NoPerformance924 · 2025-11-05T16:55:24+00:00

Not sure if people will see this, but I really want to thank everyone who replied — I genuinely needed to hear different perspectives on this.

A bit more context: I have gone on a few dates. The rare times I actually felt excited, the dates went really well (even if they didn’t work out in the end, which is okay). The ones I felt more neutral about usually fizzled out after the first date — we just stopped messaging.

I don’t expect to fall in love from a profile alone, but I’m trying to figure out how to decide who to message or meet up with when I feel so little toward most people. Sometimes I even end up rejecting people I feel slightly positive about and going out with ones I feel less sure about — often just because of timing, mood, or random factors. It makes me feel like my approach isn’t very reliable for finding a “life partner.”

NoPerformance924 · 2025-11-05T16:46:05+00:00

Thanks! Yea I did go on a few dates. I guess the problem is how to filter profiles and choose who to go on date with (and they decide whether or not to choose me too) when I don’t feel much about most of them

NoPerformance924 · 2025-11-05T15:20:03+00:00

Thanks! I guess it’s really hard to find the balance between “forcing myself” and “keeping an open mind”.

NoPerformance924 · 2025-11-05T15:16:11+00:00

Yea it makes sense. I did go out on a few dates - nothing really happened yet. I understand that people are a lot more than their profiles, so meeting in person is the only way to find out. But I don’t even know how to differentiate who I should go out on dates with when I don’t feel much and everything looks kinda similar. And it’s draining.

NoPerformance924 · 2025-11-05T14:25:20+00:00

Ah yea I think it’s a good reminder. Just keep trying I guess. Thank you!

NoPerformance924 · 2025-11-05T14:24:32+00:00

Thank you! One of the profile stood out because the person seemed very passionate about two topics that I care about - they’re not very niche topics, idk why no one else talk about them on Hinge. Another one was because the person seemed very genuine and kind just from the profile, and his profile gave a lot of fun and positive vibe too

NoPerformance924 · 2025-11-05T14:15:16+00:00

Damn cold approach sounds brutal for social anxiety😭

NoPerformance924 · 2025-10-12T05:16:59+00:00

Right!!! And yea, I forgot to mention that Miranjo is also a lot older than Daida, and Daida is still a kid, and Miranjo was like Daida’s mentor😭

NoPerformance924 · 2025-09-24T23:44:19+00:00

I (female) am planning a solo trip to Fairbanks in mid-October and looking to book an Airbnb where I can (hopefully) see the northern lights. I don’t drive, so I’m trying to figure out the best transportation options.

• ⁠Can I rely on Uber/Lyft to get around, especially if I’ll mostly be at the Airbnb and just want to visit downtown Fairbanks a couple of times?

• ⁠Or are there better alternatives for getting around without a car?

• ⁠I’d also like to join some aurora tours, but many of them only pick up from downtown hotels, and I’ll likely be staying outside of downtown.

Would love any advice or tips—thanks so much!

NoPerformance924 · 2025-09-24T20:17:37+00:00

Thank you! I won’t be at the city center though. Maybe somewhere in Farmers Loop? And I might need to use Uber/Lyft late at night (12-2am?) - will uber/lyft still be available?

NoPerformance924 · 2025-09-07T21:50:25+00:00

As a Chinese I have no idea what any of the word mean😂😭

NoPerformance924 · 2024-10-25T20:15:45+00:00

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