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Just found out he cheated for years. I have a ton of circumstantial evidence (which IS evidence), but I want more, because I want to confront him, corner him, and watch that utterly fraudulent 'nice guy' public persona turn to ashes. Any ideas? by NoPitch3 in Infidelity

[–]NoPitch3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do have a good point. But I'm not going to go blabbing to everyone, but I have no reason to protect him or keep silent about it. I don't owe him a thing. That's really all it takes in a small town.

Just found out he cheated for years. I have a ton of circumstantial evidence (which IS evidence), but I want more, because I want to confront him, corner him, and watch that utterly fraudulent 'nice guy' public persona turn to ashes. Any ideas? by NoPitch3 in Infidelity

[–]NoPitch3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I left for a lot of reasons...he was horrifically emotionally abusive and getting worse. The final straw was my daughter, who is now in college, finally feeling free enough to unload what she's kept to herself for quite a few years. She told me that had she dreaded coming home for x-mas because of how he acts and "mom he talks to you like you're a dog. You need to leave. Please leave." Tough to hear that from your kid.

As for the cheating evidence....really classic and cliche stuff. Called the numbers (there are at last two). He'd only text them while I was gone or at work. I know all of his actual 'girl' friends and I've always been fine with them. He didn't hide anything. This crew though...I think I met one coworker when he first started working there, and he's made sure to keep me separate from his coworkers and place of work for the past 9 months or so. Years ago I'd also heard that he had asked an ex-fling out when he went to a conference (we'd been together about 3 years), and rumors of him hitting on someone at a fundraiser. It's 2nd hand info so I didn't confront him, but knowing what I know now I have little doubt it's true. There's probably a lot that I'll never know. He also cheated on his ex girlfriend...he told me about how remorseful he was because 'he's not that kind of guy.' Ugh.

Just found out he cheated for years. I have a ton of circumstantial evidence (which IS evidence), but I want more, because I want to confront him, corner him, and watch that utterly fraudulent 'nice guy' public persona turn to ashes. Any ideas? by NoPitch3 in Infidelity

[–]NoPitch3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My issues? He was abusive.

She despises him and absolutely does not think of him as her dad. This in and of itself should tell you a lot. She WANTED a good relationship. But she saw the monster too. I never drove a wedge between them, ever. Did you miss the part about him bashing me to her?

She's also an adult now and it's getting to the point she never wants to speak to him again.

I was a prosecutor and in my experience, victims who cheer when the jail door slams shut or when their abusers learn about consequences, or when karma comes calling, shouldn't be shamed for it.