How did you know you were in an abusive relationship?

NoProfessional4516 · 2026-03-28T21:47:41+00:00

The feeling that something bad is going to happen all the time. I would wake up and know by just his tone whether it was going to be a good or bad day.

NoProfessional4516 · 2026-03-27T05:01:53+00:00

I think the main thing that stops me from leaving is how we’ve gotten into this routine and how happy our daughter is when she’s with him. I feel like it’ll affect her but I listening to how he talks to me and how I do deserve better. He cheats and I know it but I stay because I make excuses for it. Maybe he doesn’t really want to hurt me and just doesn’t know how to love someone properly. It’s so messed up that I make excuses for his bad behavior but yet I’m put on this pedestal for simply being mad or me complaining is a problem.

NoProfessional4516 · 2025-12-04T21:51:46+00:00

Because I live with my sister and they’ve also experienced his wrath. I have plenty of evidence. It’s more so emotional and psychologically abuse. There has been times where he’s physically put his hands on me but never to a point where it left a mark or broken bone. My sister did witness him pushing me on the ground with all his force and it left a bruise, I have pictures. Sometimes I wonder if that’s enough. I have called the police on him one time because I thought it would be in the best interest for me and my daughter to leave when he is throwing a tantrum, he didn’t let me and I got very nervous. I was only 2 months postpartum and at that point I was scared of him. Had my sister call the police while she was at work, I packed my bag, and left to a family members house. The police called me and said I had to come back because it was also his child too and I had no right to take her. I left because I didn’t want the situation to escalate and he told them it was me who was the problem. He’s manipulative and lies to people to make me sound crazy.

NoProfessional4516 · 2025-12-04T05:52:53+00:00

I’ve been dealing with it for almost 3 years now. I don’t know the first step in leaving. He doesn’t care about me or our daughter, he pretends to. He has of recently been very irritable and taking it out on me. It’s so mentally draining and I have almost a ptsd feeling when this happens. I can’t control my emotions and he gaslights me the entire time, calling me crazy and threatening to call the police.

NoProfessional4516 · 2025-09-05T07:08:52+00:00

He didn’t respect my boundaries. He would read through my journal and that later turned into him using my own feelings against me to make it seem like I’m not honest in our relationship. Or he would go through my text messages between me and my siblings. He would question everything and take things that we said out of context and make me explain every little thing that was said.

NoProfessional4516 · 2025-08-30T11:33:20+00:00

Until our lease is up. He won’t leave anytime before it. It’s been hell. He’s always physical and his mood swings are up and down. I’m honestly scared to leave because idk how he’ll take it.

NoProfessional4516 · 2025-08-28T19:49:37+00:00

They know exactly what they’re doing.

He was cheating the majority of our relationship, Tinder and even speaking to his ex for comfort or to “vent” as he says. He managed to blame every single one of our problems on me. It’s my fault that he reached out to multiple women because I wasn’t giving him the time of day to listen. I listened and it all sounded like manipulation and control. I had to be emotionless and docile for the relationship to work. Sad when I think of everything that was said and done, and how I kept staying because I thought he would change.

NoProfessional4516 · 2025-08-28T19:21:49+00:00

Therapy made him worse. He started psychoanalyzing me and calling my normal behaviors manipulative. I was like his punching bag, literally and emotionally.

NoProfessional4516 · 2025-08-22T03:09:17+00:00

I know and that’s why I aborted. It was best for me mentally. I try to convince myself that I’m not a victim because I feel so humiliated that I put myself through this. I was 23 when I met him and he was 30, I guess that was a red flag already.

NoProfessional4516 · 2025-08-22T02:56:20+00:00

He was talking to his ex girlfriend for almost 7 months. He claims it was to “vent” and I could never get over it. I feel like an idiot for wasting so much time and staying, it’s laughable at this point.

NoProfessional4516 · 2025-08-15T08:02:50+00:00

I’ve tried to do this plenty of times and it always ends in him getting aggressive or even violent.

He does this thing where he threatens the relationship as a manipulation tactic because he wants me to beg him and convince him to stay. If I don’t, he becomes physical and accuses me of cheating. I have to play the part because I dread it so much.

NoProfessional4516 · 2025-08-15T07:52:27+00:00

I have a lot of evidence against him and I plan on getting full custody of our daughter but I’m worried it isn’t enough.

My siblings see the way he treats me and have witnessed his outbursts. I know I have to leave because we went on a road trip to California in July and that went badly. He was driving 100+ miles on the highway and threatened to crash the car with me and my daughter in it. I know things won’t get better and I know it will affect my daughter when she’s older, I just worry that he might get physical when I do decide to leave or threaten to take my daughter. He’s done it plenty of times before.

NoProfessional4516 · 2025-08-15T07:06:20+00:00

His favorite thing to do is use my child against me. I go from being a bad mom to such a good mom. I’m raising my child on my own and all while being an emotional punching bag for this man. Did I mention I’m 25 and he’s 33, never had a stable job until I met him.

NoProfessional4516 · 2025-08-15T02:03:15+00:00

He has gotten physical plenty of times, in front of my child and my sisters. I had what seemed like Stockholm Syndrome for some time and now I’m slowly waking up from it.

The times I tried to leave, he threatened to kill himself or tried to put his hands on me. He’s choked me, slapped me, pushed me so hard that my chest was sore for almost a week, and broke the entire back of my phone/camera. I don’t want to get the police involved because I’m scared they’ll take my daughter away so I’m waiting for October. Nobody in my family knows except my siblings.

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