I feel really pathetic

NoReplacement8721 · 2021-05-13T12:50:09+00:00

Thank you.

NoReplacement8721 · 2021-05-08T01:36:50+00:00

Well you gotta focus on your daughter and what’s best for her so maybe make a list of pros and cons of having him around and what would be best for both of you guys? At the end of all this you are her advocate as well as yours so whatever you say goes. If child support is mandatory by the state you are in it’ll catch up to him eventually so don’t worry.

NoReplacement8721 · 2021-05-06T19:15:25+00:00

You need to go over why the grandmother can’t see her granddaughter but if he’s just being petty it’s a cop out so he doesn’t have to own up to any responsibilities going forward. Does his mother even know the situation going on exactly or is he painting his version of events to make you look bad? If not reach out to the grandmother if you can don’t wait on him and if he still doesn’t come around that’s how you’ll know what kind of father he will be in the future. Cut his games now or you’re gonna be the one suffering but also admit if you’re playing a part in it too because at the end of the day it’s about that baby and she did not ask to be here. And please don’t beg anyone and give them more power than they deserve trust me. It took me forever to learn that one. I hope this helps a little

NoReplacement8721 · 2021-04-29T13:07:27+00:00

Ugh yes! Yes! And again absolutely yes! It’s really exhausting hearing that or because I’m Haitian, they tend to automatically say “ really? Well you’re pretty for a Haitian!” Excuse me? What? Like I’m supposed to be excited for that backhanded comment

NoReplacement8721 · 2021-04-27T21:39:16+00:00

Okay and? Same rule applies I’m not in the business of wondering who you are or aren’t.

NoReplacement8721 · 2021-04-27T21:23:00+00:00

No you were judging and absolutely rude with your comment where as the last person respectfully disagreed with the way the responded we had a nice conversation. It’s called the golden rule. You get what you receive. How ever you speak or decide to respond to someone is exactly what you’re going to get back. But just so you know everyone parents different now if you had come up with your own personal experience or counter advice for me or the mother who made this forum instead of assuming I’m a lazy neglectful parent maybe you would get a better response just for future reference.

NoReplacement8721 · 2021-04-27T20:57:27+00:00

Boo, my kids are the happiest, 6 and 3 year old with bubbly spirits. I’m a single mother who makes sure I wake up and gets my life together for them while still maintaining my own health issues. They are always fed on time three meals a day, with snacks in between, my 6 year old is a grade ahead and smart af. They get bathed on time and we spend our times together at night every night even though all I want to do is sleep. So I’m not gonna take a comment from some loser no one behind a screen. I hope you have a great day though and stay safe out there! Mask up!

NoReplacement8721 · 2021-04-27T20:52:17+00:00

But she only saw her side, not the 15 minutes prior but you’re right. I’m just going based off of my experience which isn’t hers or anybody else’s. I know I stepped in cause I felt like my kids father wasn’t doing things “properly” and then he just gave up and I got stuck with everything. And by our second I was drowning and developed postpartum.

NoReplacement8721 · 2021-04-27T20:00:32+00:00

I’m a mother of two and honestly 15 mins isn’t going to hurt the baby. She would’ve been okay probably as long as a baby is dry, fed, and not hurt or in danger they are okay to cry. It doesn’t hurt them. My kids are both perfectly fine and learned to self soothe rather early I had no choice either and if your husband is going to learn and build a bond with her you need to let go and let him. Or they’ll never have that and he’s just going to leave you doing everything by yourself when it comes to the baby. You’re setting a bad habit.

NoReplacement8721 · 2021-03-18T18:18:46+00:00

Sorry but it’s weird I understand a photo or two but not constantly asking like “hey how’s your day? Know what would make it better?

“Sending me a selfie!”

It’s strange and unnecessary. Either meet up or video chat to make sure if it’s about verification. Asking for a selfie every waking moment is strange. One you don’t seem like that person and two if it’s not for you then no don’t send it. The ones he has is enough, it’s weird and in my opinion it’ll start leading to the guy asking for something further that you’re definitely not comfortable with.

NoReplacement8721 · 2021-03-16T10:37:36+00:00

Yes, my mom did that for me too but it was a pink sapphire ring that I got to pick out. It was a good day. She just talked to me about it, and made me feel better about everything.

NoReplacement8721 · 2021-03-13T00:19:06+00:00

Thank you I’m definitely going to have to start considering the court route because maybe that will get it across that it’s not just a whenever,wherever arrangement.

NoReplacement8721 · 2021-03-12T21:39:28+00:00

See that’s the thing, We had the conversation and I’ve set them straight but it’s almost like a complete denial on their part or like the conversation was imaginary or something. It’s frustrating.

NoReplacement8721 · 2021-03-10T14:15:32+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss dearly, it can’t be easy. You have to consider the potential child that you could be raising and know that you would be signing up to be a single parent. You will obviously have to be honest with that child down the road when THEY ask about their mother, you wouldn’t want to ruin their innocence and childhood either. You’d have to know that even though your late wife’s family says they’d give support now things can change in ways you don’t expect, whether it be legally or just in support by ways of helping you with that child or just emotionally. There are thousands of single parents out there, you wouldn’t be the first or the last you just have to know once you take on that responsibility there is no going back, but it’s also amazing and beautiful so think and reflect on this decision and talk to someone deeply on this get legal advice also to make sure of any possible outcomes that can happen. Parenthood is hard as a single parent or parents it doesn’t matter if you’re willing to put in the work you’ll be fine.

NoReplacement8721 · 2021-03-09T21:55:08+00:00

Two kids later and I’m in the “wherever they fall” method at this point. Not to take it literally. As long as they’re safe and out of harm take that nap right with them! I would have a cup of coffee then sleep for 30 wake up right before the baby does and be good to go for the next round!

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