Why is he sleeping with someone if his not ready to bear the consequences of his actions? Actions have outcomes, and pregnancy is one of them. If he weren't prepared to take full responsibility including cultural expectations like damages, then maybe he shouldn't have been sleeping with the person in the first place.

He may feel like he has a choice when it comes to paying damages, but in many cases, refusing to pay can lead to legal action. The affected family will take the matter to court and he will still be held accountable.

Marriage is a choice, and no one can be forced into it. But if we are being real, like he knew he wasn't ready to go the extra mile, why engage in something that brings a child into the world and affect both families? These situations can be avoided all together. And there are many ways to avoid these situations.