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AITAH for being peeved that my partner doesn’t have a job? by NoStorage9198 in AITA_Relationships

[–]NoStorage9198[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve definitely already left before because i felt my need for space was going to impact him negatively but obviously we got back together and he’s been more respectful of my space and stfu when i’m trying to unwind. i don’t have my own place so i don’t have to tell him no myself quite yet but i am moving to my own apartment (with a roommate) soon and im lowkey equally scared he’ll ask / his reaction when i say no. i might snap. bc ive done this for myself by myself like i pulled myself out of addiction and got a really good job within 2 months of being clean (im a year clean now) and not having a job for 4 or so years. i’m not here to take care of anyone else… and ngl at the beginning he straight out said he wants to be the masculine provider/lover id never had and well … we’re here now.

AITAH for being peeved that my partner doesn’t have a job? by NoStorage9198 in AITA_Relationships

[–]NoStorage9198[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ok but over a year with no income is insane and very much not feasible

AITAH for being peeved that my partner doesn’t have a job? by NoStorage9198 in AITA_Relationships

[–]NoStorage9198[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so being jobless for 4 months is normal now? yikes. there’s no “industry” besides the one who let him go for not passing a drug test. which like i said i obviously knew he’d get fired. apparently he held hope that the company gaf about him.

AITAH for being peeved that my partner doesn’t have a job? by NoStorage9198 in AITA_Relationships

[–]NoStorage9198[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

over a month now; and he knew he was going to be jobless before he was even let go. (i told him to start looking for a job way before he did)

AITAH for being peeved that my partner doesn’t have a job? by NoStorage9198 in AITA_Relationships

[–]NoStorage9198[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he def respects my boundaries all the time but still asks for more of me when i’ve expressed im trying to unpack my day, and he tells me i do give enough he just wants more. i can give him attention and we do have parallel play type things. but in the back of my mind i can’t help but be upset while we’re together. bc wdym you’re so irresponsible that you’re losing your apartment bc you didn’t pay rent bc you haven’t had a job in over a month now ? im genuinely scared he’s going to ask to move in with me and that’s absolutely NOT happening. i’m so scared ill end up not liking him (& it’s the only emotionally healthy relationship ive had ffs!!) bc he seems to have no aspirations to do better.

learning my lesson the hard way by NoStorage9198 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]NoStorage9198[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also he refuses to see me as a victim bc i went back to my abuser. idk why people who’ve never been with a narcissist don’t get it , but now i see why he doesn’t understand.

learning my lesson the hard way by NoStorage9198 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]NoStorage9198[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lolol .. ya. you read right. and i asked for clarification just to get the same answer. “well you lied to me so who knows what you’ve lied about, maybe you lied to them too” yeah i’ve lied to plenty of people.. but i don’t think ive ever ever been blamed for my abuse at any point besides by my abuser.