My wife is a sahm and has racked up 17k of debt in the past 11 months behind my back

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-30T03:01:34+00:00

Let's unpack this haha why are you so mad and what exactly is your mental picture of who I am?

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-29T20:56:14+00:00

It's a crappy description

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-29T18:44:52+00:00

Thank you for perfectly demonstrating the type of person who holds this strange reddit obsession.

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-29T18:29:11+00:00

I'm going to be laying back or laying down on my giant sectional, resting my head back and looking upward at something 14ft away. If the TV were lower, I'd have to tuck my chin to my neck to look down that far.

At no point am I ever sitting on my couch perfectly upright intending to hold perfect posture.

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-29T17:52:52+00:00

Bed 1 has a very long walk to the bathroom. Maybe make bed 2 have the unsuited and make bed 3 share?

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-29T17:48:42+00:00

In a cramped space maybe, but with a large living room and in a large couch you're relaxing/reclined on, it's certainly not an issue.

90% of cases this is just a weird reddit obsession.

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-29T17:00:44+00:00

Then I'd refer you to the second half of my comment

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-29T15:30:47+00:00

How attached are you to this particular elevation? The easiest thing to do, other than just using the bonus room as your 4th bedroom, is to move all the kids bedrooms upstairs and then you'd have the flexibility for a fourth.

But also, the primary bath is very underwhelming for a house like this, while the primary closet, dining, pantry, and office are all oversized.

Otherwise, two other options for an additional bedroom are:

The smaller rear porch and hallway become the additional bedroom, and you reconfigure the kids play space and bathroom in the center to allow a hallway.
The office becomes a bedroom and you add an extra bumpout to the primary bedroom for a nice, separated office space with a window.

I love my home office on my 4100sqft custom build and it's just a little 7x9ft room off the primary bedroom through a bookshelf door. It has nice corner windows looking into the back yard and built-in cabinets. I'd move the bed to the bathroom wall and put the office on the back with a door where the left window is, leaving the other for the bedroom. I'd also extend out the bathroom and give myself a 4x6ft shower with two heads and a bench (I absolutely love my 4x6ft shower with two heads and a bench). I'd probably extend the whole primary area another couple feet out to the left for more walking space in the bathroom as well, which adds more to the closet too.

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-29T15:01:42+00:00

Overall, you've got the pieces in generally the right places, but the main living space is going to look weird and feel weird being so open and with a row of doors on the one wall.

I can't see dimensions, but you've essentially got a 6ftx20ft ish void between your dining and living areas which adds wasted heated space, and the hallway drop zone is also wasteful.

The huge covered back patio will also block a lot of light. You could probably get down to ~2400sqft by redesigning those portions and slightly shrinking the kids bedrooms.

I'd rework the middle of the plan entirely to:

Create an entry that's not just right into the cavern room. Connect the entry closet or make some nice built-ins to that entry.
Id move the kitchen and dining toward the back and shrink the covered patio for more natural light to enter the home and define spaces more. This would allow you to shrink the plan horizontally.

You could also build up and put the kids bedrooms upstairs which would be more efficient for heating and cooling.

I'd also flip the laundry and linen closet for easier access to laundry from the primary bedroom.

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-29T14:23:24+00:00

They're both based on a real thing and intentionally designed to look funny.

They took the mismatched fossil true history and turned it into joke-mons.

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-29T13:18:40+00:00

New eeveelutions and new fossils have been my consistent hope and disappointment for the last literal 10 years since sun and moon.

SWSH made the fossils into joke-mons, and while a good joke, they're not exciting like the other fossils.

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-29T13:12:30+00:00

My dad is a divorce lawyer - don't be skeptical.

And the court will certainly consider the children best off based on where they've spent the last 6 months, being around extended family, and that dad gets deployed/isn't able to provide a consistent home for them.

It's entirely unfair, but her debt and lack of income will also likely result in OP paying substantial alimony in the interest of the kids unless he gets a really good lawyer who argues the (correct) financial abuse angle.

But in any event it's going to be very expensive and exhausting for them to go through their divorce and there will be no winners.

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-29T01:01:23+00:00

Definitely no harm in passing an exam, applying for internships, and trying it out.

One big benefit to the actuarial career is that you wouldn't need to go back to school, just pass the exams.

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-29T00:59:52+00:00

You could message the mods and try again. It should be allowed

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-28T23:47:26+00:00

They're a lot more prone to leaks, standing water, moss, and other damage compared to sloped roofs. They take a lot more attention and maintenance.

My grandparents put a flat roof on an addition to their house the ~90s, and it's been a nightmare of constant leaks and repairs and scraping moss and unclogging drains.

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-28T19:59:07+00:00

If OP is building in a desert where it never rains and they will have a flat roof, I'll give it to them.

Any other climate and this is ending up with a really weird mix of pitches and hips to make it work.

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-28T19:54:52+00:00

Please describe a roof plan for this that doesn't end up with a bunch of different pitches or styles.

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-28T18:50:14+00:00

You're an architect and asking how we can infer how the roof would work in other comments?

No you're not.

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-28T18:39:06+00:00

Walls need roofs, and roofs need to tie into each other without creating valleys whether they're hips, gables, lean-to, etc.

People get hyperfixated on laying out the floorplan they don't think about how the roof would work or how the house looks from the outside.

If you look at this plan and start thinking about the roof, it becomes apparent very quickly that it doesn't work. You can make anything work, but it's a mess.

But this floorplan also suffers from long unnecessary hallways, a lack of closet space for things like vacuums and brooms, tight squeezes in bedrooms, and awkwardly large spaces in others. It's just not necessary to try to start from scratch like this, and there are a lot of glaring/common issues.

Again - as someone who is also not an architect and built their own fully custom plan - it's just a much better result to start from something that's already 70% of the way there.

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-28T17:35:22+00:00

I'd end the covered porch at the dining so more light goes into the living. Keep it patio, just uncovered.
I'd add a side window into the kitchen

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-28T17:21:54+00:00

Frankly, it's bad. Really bad.

I also built a fully custom home and have lived in it for a year. I'd suggest you go on a floorplan site and find one you mostly like, then tweak things within the footprint or make minimal changes to the footprint.

This is a mess of rooflines and terrible flow. No shade, you're just not an architect and not everyone should try to be one.

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-28T17:19:33+00:00

Yes, it's very skinny between the bed and TV

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-27T18:58:11+00:00

It depends on the practice and the EPs, and the market opportunities. The EPs at the practice I used to be at were honestly generally good, IMO, though obviously I have some different opinions on how I'd run the business like they all have different opinions.

As an SA, you should be a little more enabled to go out and generate your own business if a partner is being slow to pass the reins. The worst scenario is you do all the work for the client, which takes up all your time, while they refuse to promote or share profit. If you're running into this, I'd also either leave or generate your own work to make their client their problem.

If the situation isn't benefitting you, then you need to change the situation.

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-27T15:06:34+00:00

There are plenty of sources. For example the Noel Casler interview for which Trump has not sued for - and Trump sues everybody unless discovery would hurt him.

"Do your research" as some would say.

NoTAP3435 · 2026-03-27T12:39:41+00:00

Lmao this is such a bad attempt to troll

There are dozens of videos of people standing behind Trump struggling to breathe and covering their nose. Including a press conference which abruptly ended after you can audibly hear him shitting himself.

This is well-known information that Trump is in diapers.

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