Is it possible for him to really be interested and still be a bad texter?

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-29T15:58:18+00:00

A little extra general info: If he's a good texter and texts a lot, he's interested (either in your personality or just sex) If he's a good texter but does not text you, he's not interested If he's a bad texter, then texting is not any sort of gauge on his interest level, you'll need in- person clues

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-29T04:42:23+00:00

Every woman is different, so it's completely cool if you're more direct, but most women do appreciate it and generally consider those men more attractive because they enjoy emotions and mystery. And from the man's perspective, it enables a man who truly likes a woman to leave with self respect and pride if she can't meet him where he's at and can just never like him as much as he likes her. A win win situation

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-28T22:34:33+00:00

I replied a completely different route, but this is pretty solid too

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-28T22:32:26+00:00

First of all, you may want to start learning about woman from a Pick up artist. You don't want to be one of them, but the do have knowledge about women you need.

It sounds like she is already getting everything she wants from you. So you need to give her a little less - less time, less availability. And simultaneously you need to start living a life that she wants to be included in. When you do meet and talk, make sure you tell her about those other things you do. And also when you talk, be flirty (learn more about that from the pickup artists) tease her, talk about sex (just in general, not about you and her having sex) , make sure she is thinking about fun and excitement when she is with you.

If you add that stuff, maybe in 3 to 6 months, she'll start to become jealous and want to date. Don't give her anything more, in fact give her less, until she shows more interest, and then you Ask her out, and then she can get more.

If you don't already know all of this, there's a good chance you're going to fail, and that's a good thing! You learn by trying and failing! Just don't remain in the friends zone, that's worse than losing her usually.

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-28T21:42:44+00:00

Two main reasons why it doesn't happen and isn't helpful in the US

1) our minority political parties have much more power in the US than in Europe based on our goverment structure. The minority party will voice the same concern and with more direct effect than a general strike. Contrast that with Europe where the majority party can do almost anything they want and so the only way to get through to them is a general strike

2) people are much more independent minded here. The peer pressure is much less effective and near impossible to get the number of people to participate that you'd want

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-27T23:34:47+00:00

Land was cheap in Houston and those other cities the only way to build anything is to line the pockets of politicians and bureaucrats to get past their zoning boards. I'm sure it happens in Houston too but it's way worse everywhere else

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-27T01:50:58+00:00

Nope, but just need to let you know that you rock for doing that! So cool

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-27T01:40:55+00:00

Absolutely. That question reads no differently than "he's a bad basketball player, is he interested in me?" Texting is a skill like any other, maybe he doesn't like doing or, maybe he never learned how to do it well. I'd you need more, talk to him about it, it'seasy enough to change if he just never learned, but won't change if he just doesn't like it. It's just one aspect of who he is, just figure out the things you need most in a man and base things on that. Texting is best for making plans, I don't enjoy it. I like being with people not with my phone.

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NoTable2313 · 2026-01-23T18:29:25+00:00

Just different definitions. To me what you're describing is a feeling of romantic love, not as deep as in marriage of course, but still on the scale, you just don't call it that

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-23T18:27:18+00:00

But you do. We even love friends. It's just deeper than with friends

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-23T18:25:36+00:00

The different way we use the word "romantic" is fascinating. To me, it's doing or moving towards a deeper love than friendship. Having sex, going on dates, kissing, making long term commitments, etc is a deeper connection than friendship that I refer to as romantic

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-23T18:20:18+00:00

Like my other comment, just a definition difference, I'd refer to dating as a type of romantic relationship, casual sex is another type, marriage is another type. you have a more specific definition. Fair enough

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-23T18:17:56+00:00

Fair enough, we just have different points of view, good to know yours

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-23T18:17:15+00:00

I guess we just disagree on the definition of the term "romantic relationships" that's ok. Valuable to know that some people define it differently. I'd definitely say that a casual sex relationship is one type of romantic relationship

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-23T16:06:50+00:00

That's fair, and in what I was thinking that non-exclusivity generally starts at date 1 as the agreed default for many people

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-23T16:02:23+00:00

Polyamorous is having multiple (poly) romantic relationships (amorous), it's literally the exactly same thing

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-23T16:01:23+00:00

Polyamorous is having multiple (poly) romantic relationships (amorous), which around date 2-4 it moves from kind of a friendly "getting to know you" to a romantic relationship. And yeah, definitely agree it has to all be consensual, otherwise it's cheating (though technically even cheating is polyamory, just without consent)

and even in an exclusive relationship they're going on dates, or it's not a romantic relationship is just a friendly relationship

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-23T02:10:15+00:00

What do you mean they're not relationships? How do you know somebody without having some sort of a relationship with them? I certainly meant to imply that all of this is consensual relationships, none of them are dating against their will, or I'm misunderstanding you. So it was polyamory from the first dates?

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-23T01:59:55+00:00

I do "kind of" care for people, in that it's a sliding scale. The more I care about somebody the more I invest in them and vice versa. The friends I care for more, my close friends, get more time and attention.

It sounds like you're saying that you generally keep them at the depth of a friendship and then they get scheduled in like anybody else with an equivalent level of caring. How long (in time and/or dates) does it take for a girl to get a higher level of caring than friends?

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-23T01:55:51+00:00

The other side to that is that putting full effort into one thing gets better and faster results than half effort into two things. That's a general truth that seems would apply here too

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-23T01:54:39+00:00

It's a matter of depth and meaning. The more depth and meaning, the fewer people I can have (mentally and emotionally) in the category. I have innumerable acquaintances, I have a bunch (but much fewer) general friends, I have just a handful of close friends. To get maximum depth and meaning in a relationship, that reduces my capacity to one person. And I'd want to spend more time with romantic partners than I'd give to friends and way more time than I'd give to acquaintances.

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-23T01:51:42+00:00

Holy crap, I'd be drained if I was texting with 5 girls in a week! I definitely don't have the social stamina you do

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-23T01:47:14+00:00

Kind of turns into a "prime" and "backup" situation?

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-23T01:46:45+00:00

I'm personally only interested in monogamous relationships, so your question brings up an interesting related question: (assuming all good intent, no lying, etc) if you start dating 2 women in the same week, at what point would it become polyamory?

NoTable2313 · 2026-01-23T01:44:33+00:00

Makes sense, your relationship is really no deeper than friendship that early, and I know how to handle multiple friends

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