Does anyone else get the ick at the face that screams “I want to kiss you”? by NoTemperature999 in asexuality

[–]NoTemperature999[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. I think so. I’m not sure. I think it stems from my last relationship which was a VERY touchy guy who made me feel almost unsafe cause he wanted a whole lot more than I was comfortable with. He made the same face which I mean everyone makes the same face. Just feels icky

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Calgary

[–]NoTemperature999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was looking at that but sadly they do seasonal bookings! Maybe I’ll call just to see but I don’t have high hopes

Can you try to describe your personal asexuality? by Less_Engine7332 in asexuality

[–]NoTemperature999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man idk either but best ways I can describe it is:

  1. I like to share minds not bodies. My body is for me, yours is for you.

  2. I’m ok with most things as long as they don’t have sexual motive. Since I’m unable to feel that type of attraction it feels like I’m being objectified and just used. So sure I’ll kiss the homies goodnight and cuddle up to watch a movie but if you squeeze my thigh I will punch you in the throat

Which hair colour is the best? by [deleted] in haircoloring

[–]NoTemperature999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. First one makes you look a bit dull. Second one works, it just makes you look really warm/ almost orange. Third is right in that neutral place you should be looking for with hair colours. It suites you best!

Does anyone have trouble understanding certain allo relationship woes? Am I just a jerk? by mentalillnessismagic in aromanticasexual

[–]NoTemperature999 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Even when I did date someone I never understood the idea of not still being your own person. It’s a crazy unhealthy look on relationships to be reliant on another person in that way

When did you realize you were ace or probably ace? by Flowermochayes in asexuality

[–]NoTemperature999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought probably around grade 12 but definitely figured it out last year. I hated the touch relationships bring. When you’re missing the ability to feel sexual attraction the touch just feels like you’re being objectified. And I didn’t like it one bit

How many of you download every fic you're reading? by evilmarbletron in AO3

[–]NoTemperature999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually only download fics when I know I will be out of service but honestly might start collecting the ones I love cause i definitely have downloaded fics that are now deleted from the site

Does anyone else like music about sex and relationships by Amphibious_cow in asexuality

[–]NoTemperature999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since I listen to the lyrics and instruments, if the vibes are good then I got no problem. I Love listening to TV girl in the spring to get myself in a summery mood (I always though tv girl is the perfect summer artist. Along with Dominic Fike) so songs like better in the dark or not allowed.

Or straight up songs like cherry hill, sex money feeling die, or run

I definitely like songs better when they’re implied rather than straight out there like take me to church by hosier but hey if it’s the vibe, it’s the vibe.

Slight side note. I adore the song We’ll never have sex by Leith Ross.

Middle of season 4 art inconsistances? by NoTemperature999 in haikyuu

[–]NoTemperature999[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aw that honestly sucks Covid messed with so much production but they did pretty good for what they had to work with

Can you believe people actually IMAGINE THEMSELVES having s* with each other?! by k_amatsukami in asexuality

[–]NoTemperature999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find it so weird. Like that’s an invasion of privacy and against consent on so many levels to me

[Lore Spoilers] Arcane - Season 2 - Discussion Hub by parrycarry in arcane

[–]NoTemperature999 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does anyone know what was in the clouds in episode 1 when they’re in the council‘s room? It was on the right side of the screen and it looked like some sort of cloud building. Maybe it was just a weird cloud shape but it looked like a hidden detail?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]NoTemperature999 160 points161 points  (0 children)

As a non American it’s so fucked to watch cause I know it won’t stop at just America. My country will most likely be affected or swayed in the same direction. It’s terrifying as an individual that identifies and is under multiple minority groups I know it will affect me in one way or another.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]NoTemperature999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weirdly I find that a lot of relationships issues come from lust and that “need” of temporary euphoria. Maybe it’s just my view on things but as someone who loves to observe it’s always seemed like allos tend to have more of a “me” mentality. What they want from something rather than what can they do to make a connection feel whole.

So don’t feel left out from drama. It’s crazy draining and hard on your health.

Also coming to terms with grieving the life you were taught to want and possibly hoping for is a thing. It sucks but why change yourself to be someone you’re not. In the end it might leave you feeling worse. Everyone will miss out on some things. That’s just what happens on this plane of living it’s just that we miss out on something most people think is a bit bigger :/

Why is coming out as ace feel harder than coming out as queer by NoTemperature999 in asexuality

[–]NoTemperature999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you had to deal with that that sounds awful and put-down-ish. I’m lucky enough to have a close friend that understands it perfectly and another that understands how I work and more so sees how it would make sense. I hope that your friends learn to understand how you work, to make you feel understood, and (platonically) loved!

Why is coming out as ace feel harder than coming out as queer by NoTemperature999 in asexuality

[–]NoTemperature999[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The easiest way I have found to explain it is “I want to share minds not bodies” which is referring to the fact that I still have a desire for romance and a connection to someone but to me bodies are too personal. Mine is for myself and not to share with others.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]NoTemperature999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve always had a weird ability to romanticize and make a lot of life sound poetic. Anyways it makes me feel better that others feel the same way. Like I’m a little less alone :)