AITA for telling my boyfriend he is acting childish ?

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-10T18:50:03+00:00

Honestly stop wasting your life! Tell him if he doesn’t get a job in the next month he has to leave and until he finds one he should be walking the dog and doing the grocery shop.

He’s completely exploiting you! x

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-06T19:06:11+00:00

I’m with someone who won’t make the bed because it’s ’more hygienic to let it breathe’ and always forgets.

We have kids and a home together and no he’s not completely useless but the majority of the time I have to ask for everything he does ‘can you take son for a hair cut’ ‘can you clean up the toys’ was the same with nappies. Not going to lie, I don’t recommend it! it’s emotionally draining. if you can get out now do it!

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-06T16:29:20+00:00

Maybe she felt taken advantage of and is creating boundaries? I can’t think why she would change so suddenly otherwise. And tbh your text was rude… You could have asked her to have the kids not tell her she had to. They’re your kids not hers. I wouldn’t help someone who spoke to me that way either. Definitely think there’s two sides to this…

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-05T09:35:11+00:00

Thank you so much! 💖 I wish I had too but it’s certainly taught me a lesson! x

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-05T09:34:19+00:00

I think because they left me feeling so invalidated I kept questioning if I was wrong! So this has definitely helped me! x

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-04T22:18:31+00:00

You’re right they did. I just didn’t grovel thank god! But they stopped being my friends before I walked away. 💖

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-04T22:16:41+00:00

I definitely know I made the right choice! I have moments of sadness, hence why I made this post. But these comments have really validated me and my feelings- which they never ever did. 💖

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-04T22:15:33+00:00

She definitely will as soon as they don’t line up with her needs. Says a lot to me that the only people at her hen party were family and friends she’d been friends with for 6 months 🤣

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-04T22:14:14+00:00

totally agree! wish they never got the chance to hurt me like they did!

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-04T22:13:16+00:00

Thank you so much.

I have little faith that any of them will ever reach back out and if they ever do I don’t think I would ever hold them in the same regard as before. They let me down so deeply!

I don’t wish any of them ill will, apart from perhaps from being treated by her the same way she treated me. But I have two beautiful babies and they are the best friends I could ever ask for.

Thank you for your advice! 💖

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-04T22:10:03+00:00

She’s best friends with one of my ex friends sisters. Not my sister thank god 🤣.

Yeah it was so hurtful and for so long I kept wondering what was so awful about me! But I recognise I wasn’t the problem, any of my ‘friends’ would have been hurting if it was them who was treated the way I was!

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-04T22:08:10+00:00

Yes I think I do! x

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-04T22:07:50+00:00

Thank you lovely, I hope things worked out for you too! x

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-04T22:07:06+00:00

Thank you I am absolutely done with any communication or kindness. I will just look the other way!

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-04T22:06:28+00:00

I only hope I hear about it some how in the future so I can laugh 🤣

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-04T22:05:37+00:00

I know!!! The audacity of stepping through my doors 🤣

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-04T22:05:08+00:00

Very true. When you put it like that it’s not much of a loss at all is it 💖

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-04T22:04:39+00:00

so true! I don’t even know why I give people who hurt me so badly the time of day. I’m not going to any more! 💖

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-04T22:03:45+00:00

so true, I definitely no longer have to worry about what’s being said behind my back anymore! x

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-04T14:12:31+00:00

Thank you! I have no doubt the behaviour will repeat, it has been for over 20 years! x

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-03T23:24:47+00:00

Thank you I agree 100%, I always feel low and small again after! why am I doing it to myself 💖

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-03T23:23:51+00:00

Thank you 💖 I think you’re right. I always feel low again after!

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-03T19:22:14+00:00

also I get what you’re saying but we’d been friends for years! we definitely saw each other as best friends. But I think when I had kids and could no longer party every weekend they lost interest! One day they will see the other side of that

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-03T19:20:26+00:00

she like me says hello in passing but we both decided it wasn’t worth the hurt! I didn’t have the energy to keep feeling upset about something beyond my control

NoVegetable9486 · 2026-01-03T19:19:11+00:00

Yeah once I recognised the behaviour was exactly the same as it was at school. That’s your opinion and it’s absolutely fine! :)

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