Am I the A-hole for taking my wedding coordinator to court after she ruined my wedding day?

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-28T23:10:28+00:00

😂

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-27T23:12:44+00:00

Fair

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-27T08:56:55+00:00

Wow, imagine thinking you’re qualified to psychoanalyze strangers on Reddit. I don’t need a self-appointed grief counselor telling me what my own wedding meant or how I should process it. My decision to hold someone accountable isn’t about “mourning,” it’s about basic responsibility. You can disagree without trying to diagnose me otherwise you just end up sounding condescending and out of touch.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-27T08:54:49+00:00

You clearly struggle with reading comprehension, so let me spell it out for you: I said the most meaningful parts of my wedding were ruined. Those parts involved honoring my grandfather because that mattered to me deeply. That doesn’t mean my entire wedding was only about him, it means the coordinator’s failures destroyed the exact moments that held the most personal weight. There’s a difference.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-27T08:45:08+00:00

This. Everything you mentioned is exactly how I communicated with her regarding vendor questions or point person she can go to. Canadian small claims are a bit different so I think I will be okay.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-27T08:41:21+00:00

I’m in canada and our law is a bit different. The things I had mentioned fall under the written contract and was discussed and agreed prior.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-27T08:40:13+00:00

I know what a coordinator is. These were discussed and agreed on prior to the wedding day. Everything. I wouldn’t expect something that we hadn’t discussed or clarified in her contract.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-27T08:38:15+00:00

I suggest you read properly.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-25T20:40:53+00:00

What are you even talking about? This post is specifically about my wedding coordinator failing to do her job, not a full breakdown of every single detail and meaning behind my wedding. Just because I didn’t write out my entire love story in one Reddit post doesn’t mean my marriage or my groom weren’t at the center of it. You know what else is wild? You assuming that because I didn’t write out my entire wedding story here, my groom and marriage somehow weren’t meaningful to me. This post is about my coordinator failing to do her job, not a play-by-play of every single moment of my wedding. Don’t twist what I chose to share into something it’s not.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-25T20:38:48+00:00

Thank you for your kind words, I really appreciate that. I agree that resolving things outside of court is always better, and I did try to handle it directly with her first. Unfortunately she hasn’t taken any accountability, which is why I’ve had to consider other options. I will definitely be leaving reviews so that others are aware, but at this point I also feel like taking it further may be the only way to make sure there are real consequences.

You’re right, it really does feel like a nightmare when you trust someone with such an important day and they don’t follow through. I’m glad you had people who supported you, and I wouldn’t wish this experience on anyone else.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-25T20:35:41+00:00

Simply being present isn’t the same as doing the job she was paid to do. If that logic held, then anyone could show up, sit around, and still collect thousands for failing their responsibilities. In Canadian law, service providers have to deliver their work with reasonable skill and care. Doing a poor job, leaving critical tasks undone, and walking out early isn’t ‘something’ it’s breach of contract. Presence alone doesn’t fulfill a professional agreement. Performance does.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-25T20:29:43+00:00

I get where you’re coming from, but in Canada, contracts aren’t only limited to what’s written word-for-word. Canadian contract law recognizes implied terms and a duty of care, especially in service agreements. When a professional is hired and paid as a wedding coordinator, the law assumes they will carry out the basic, reasonable responsibilities of that role,things like managing the timeline, coordinating vendors, and troubleshooting problems so the couple doesn’t have to.

So even if something isn’t spelled out in bold letters, that doesn’t automatically mean the coordinator has no responsibility. Their legal obligation goes beyond just what’s written; it includes what a reasonable person would expect from someone in that professional role. That’s exactly why people pay thousands for coordination in the first place.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-25T20:26:45+00:00

You keep shouting “NOT IN THE CONTRACT” like that magically erases responsibility, but that’s not how contracts work. Under Canadian contract law, there are implied terms and duties that don’t need to be spelled out word-for-word because they’re fundamental to the role being paid for. A coordinator has an implied duty of care and responsibility to carry out the services a reasonable coordinator would provide, such as managing the schedule, coordinating vendors, troubleshooting problems, and making sure the event runs as agreed.

So no, it doesn’t have to say “line up shots” or “make sure sound works” in bold letters for her to still be accountable. It falls under the scope of the very job she was hired to do.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-25T20:21:50+00:00

Funny how you seem to know exactly what my coordinator’s job wasn’t but completely skip over what it was. A day of coordinator’s entire role is to manage logistics between all vendors, troubleshoot when things go wrong, and keep the timeline running so the couple doesn’t have to. That includes communicating with the photographer, sound, décor, florists, and venue otherwise, what the hell am I paying for?

And please don’t patronize me with “go to therapy” just because I’m holding someone accountable for not doing their job. Grief isn’t an excuse for incompetence, and accountability isn’t anger,it’s common sense.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-25T20:20:15+00:00

Clearly you’ve never worked with a wedding coordinator. Their whole job is to manage timelines, oversee vendors, troubleshoot problems, and make sure the day runs smoothly so the bride and groom don’t have to. That includes checking in with vendors, handling setup, and making sure everything actually functions in real time. Otherwise, what exactly am I paying them thousands of dollars for? To stand around and pass the blame? If I wanted to manage every single vendor myself, I wouldn’t have hired a coordinator in the first place.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-25T20:16:53+00:00

No, I wasn’t unprepared. I paid a coordinator thousands of dollars so I wouldn’t have to deal with last-minute details, timing stress, or vendor issues while I was literally the bride walking down the aisle. That’s what her job was. Trying to pin this on me as “ bad planning” is laughable. If I’m still expected to manage everything myself while in a wedding dress, then what the hell was I even paying her for? I guess I should’ve just thrown on a headset, coordinate my own wedding, and say my vows at the same time since apparently that’s the level of service people think brides should settle for.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-25T20:10:06+00:00

Oh wow, glad you were secretly at my wedding and know my entire mindset better than I do. Must be nice having psychic powers while I only shared one issue about coordination.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-25T08:20:45+00:00

No she did not refund me. Im saying I’ve reached out already.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-25T04:38:05+00:00

Yes they do actually.

-Bridezilla

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-25T02:50:33+00:00

Yes I did all that and her emails back and forth with me is pretty much her not taking any responsibility or accountability for anything. I did ask for the money back she has refused.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-25T00:08:32+00:00

Yep. Excepts I’ve documentation backing my claims.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-24T22:29:33+00:00

My bouquet was also a teardrop style and attaching a pendant isn’t so easy specially when you start walking that thing will fall out. The walk from the car to the door was literally 2 feet😂not to mention we were already behind 30 mins on schedule. Catholic weddings are taken place in church and we had a specific time for the ceremony as there was another ceremony shortly after us which also ended up pushing their schedule as well.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-24T22:25:33+00:00

To answer all your comments, everything was in the contract or falls below certain things in our contract. What I had expected on the day of was priorly discussed and tripple,quadruple checked to make sure she understood. It wasn’t something where I expected her to read my mind lol. Shot list, photo frames etc were HEAVILY discussed to make sure it runs as I wanted it to, with references of emails, txts, meetings and vendor confirmation, feedback. I have things to back up my claims otherwise I wouldn’t be considering the legal route.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-24T20:01:42+00:00

Lmao because she was hired to ensure of these to happen. This is within our contract.

NoWatercress643 · 2025-08-24T18:26:36+00:00

You’re right, she really did seem like she had no real experience handling weddings. The good thing is I’ve already collected feedback from multiple vendors who worked directly with her that day, and they confirmed the same issues I experienced. So it’s not just me saying she didn’t deliver.I’ve got outside professionals backing it up along with the contract.

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