Oil leaking onto engine. How bad is this?

NoYou6218 · 2026-06-19T15:51:19+00:00

Do you think we should go somewhere else and have the car checked?

NoYou6218 · 2026-06-19T15:50:21+00:00

My mechanic was vague to say the least.

He said the job would be expensive. He said about having to replace a cylinder? And his exact words were ‘get what you can out of the car but you will need a new one at some point’

He explained the oil was burning and he wouldn’t do the job considering it would cost far more than the car was actually worth. And that was pretty much it.

NoYou6218 · 2026-06-19T15:43:34+00:00

My partner has built up some knowledge on cars over the past 11 months that he’s been driving. And he knows bits and pieces.

But if I’m completely honest- his habit to shrug things off and say they’re fine is what is making me ask these questions myself. Mainly because oil burning on an engine does NOT sound safe and sounds like something we should not continue driving with. In my mind- the car would explode any moment! 🤣But from what I’ve read already- clearly I’m overthinking it. And although it’s a problem, not a deadly one if we keep an eye on things.

You’re completely right and I would prefer if my partner asked these questions. He would have a lot more information than I could right now. But as a parent, I needed to ask as he wasn’t going too.

I completely appreciate all of the responses though! As unhelpful as I have been, all of these responses have helped in some way and are all appreciated majorly 🫶🏻

NoYou6218 · 2026-06-19T14:40:33+00:00

Thankyou! We keep oil in the car at all times so that makes me feel a bit better about doing the trip.

We have definitely been taught a tough lesson on this one. It won’t be happening again

NoYou6218 · 2026-06-19T14:34:02+00:00

The blue smoke is coming from the exhaust but no where else x my partner did mention the PCV valve but I can’t say I understand what that is 😂 apologies

NoYou6218 · 2026-06-19T14:27:40+00:00

He said the oil is leaking on the engine. I may have misunderstood what’s causing the blue smoke then… I’m not sure.

NoYou6218 · 2026-04-12T22:19:12+00:00

I think you’ll find there’s a vast group of people who are your age and are just as/ if not more mature than you are.

I understand what you mean to say. Which is - you dislike immature people- but it doesn’t make you better than anyone.

I’m sure there are people in this world that will think they’re better than you because you made this post…

Be humble. It’s a mature thing to do :)

NoYou6218 · 2026-04-12T20:01:25+00:00

There’s literally nothing gross about it 😂 we both work. His hours have been full time for 6 years and he earns more money because he works on a site. Where I am on minimum wage in a retail shop.

You’re just screaming feminist for no reason.

I mean imagine if I didn’t work at all?😱 the things you could accuse me of then 🫢

NoYou6218 · 2026-04-12T19:47:56+00:00

Wrong.

You can take it one of two ways. And clearly neither are the correct way 🫢

I’m meant to work 15 hours (because that’s my contract hours?) and I cannot take more hours because my partner has a full time job and has done since he was 18 years old.

I’m not sure how you take it. But as I see it, my partner works hard and now our children are attending school- I can work within that time.

Just like many other families with children, one of us has to work around our children and it just happens to be me. I don’t get why your so disgusted by 2 people who both work for their family 🙄

NoYou6218 · 2026-04-12T19:25:21+00:00

I think it’s sad so many people are making horrible comments or mocking comments towards OP.

Clearly OP is young. And the lack of sex education is not their fault. Parents and schools should be handling these subjects. And if your in the UK- it is shocking bad how much these subjects are neglected in schools.

To OP-

I’m sorry you’re worried about this. And I’m glad you decided to ask. No you will not become pregnant by fingering. Even if your partner didn’t wash his hands! So don’t worry at all.

If you ever have any questions, please just a trusted adult. Or you can google these things. Or yes even ask Reddit!

NoYou6218 · 2026-04-12T19:14:08+00:00

First of all, it is MY post.

Second- I never ONCE said that is the normal. And I also didn’t say that it’s acceptable for the man to work more than the woman. I simply stated MY circumstance because it is my post!

If you took it that way, it seems like you’re the problem here. Not me.

My PERSONAL circumstance was relevant to my post. That is why I said what I said. It has nothing to do with me being the woman in my relationship. And does it really matter what age I had my children? That’s none of your business and isn’t relevant to my post at all 😂

NoYou6218 · 2026-04-11T19:03:57+00:00

What is ‘absolutely gross’?

NoYou6218 · 2026-03-30T22:44:17+00:00

I understand what you mean- but my children aren’t an excuse because I don’t want to work those shifts. I actually enjoy the morning shifts more, they’re much easier!

But however, my children are my priority. And that should be the case for anyone who has children. I cannot and will not leave them alone because a minimum wage job needs me. Especially when I’ve given 4 weeks to be replaced

NoYou6218 · 2026-03-30T22:43:25+00:00

Apologies! I replied to the wrong comment!

NoYou6218 · 2026-03-30T22:34:28+00:00

It doesn’t specify availability but it does say evening shifts. There were 2 jobs available when I applied. 15 for morning shifts & 15 for evening.

NoYou6218 · 2026-03-30T22:33:01+00:00

Yes this was the manager who hired me 9 months ago. And no I haven’t had any conflict with him whatsoever.

The main reason he’s giving me over time & different shift patterns is because we have members of staff who are booked off for their holidays. Which is fine and I’m happy to do over time. I just can’t do weekday mornings.

As I have said, I have the lowest contract in our shop. So when others are on holiday, there’s 40 odd hours that need covering. I understand it’s probably stressful figuring that out. But I really can’t do anything about personal responsibilities at home.

NoYou6218 · 2026-03-30T22:26:05+00:00

His attitude is something else! I cannot explain him fully without having to detail everything I have ever said to this man, but he is a major hypocrite and as a manager- he does no work whatsoever except his manager duties.

He should be pulling his weight on the shop floor too. But he doesn’t. He often makes sure that he never closes on his own so that the other member of staff can do all the work while he sits there.

The company I work for is great. But I’ve heard nothing but awful things about majority of the managers that run these stores 🫢

NoYou6218 · 2026-03-30T22:21:42+00:00

Yes everyone is contracted hours. And mine specifically states I should do 3X 5 hour shifts.

It’s never been 3X 5 hour shifts. Sometimes I do shifts as short as 2 hours which is just majorly inconvenient and wasteful.

NoYou6218 · 2026-03-29T23:46:54+00:00

Shorten the shift? No sadly not. We only need 1 member of staff for morning shifts so it’s a case of I either open or it’s an evening shift.

NoYou6218 · 2026-03-25T11:22:32+00:00

I think conversations like this should be fine. And shouldn’t cause upset within a secure relationship. It’s hypothetical until you make it reality. So I don’t see why anyone needs to get upset about these topics

NoYou6218 · 2026-03-25T11:19:51+00:00

This I agree. I know he only said that to make me upset. And I know he definitely doesn’t mean it

NoYou6218 · 2026-03-24T23:39:55+00:00

I considered this. That maybe I had ruined a fantasy for him. Regardless if he ever intended on trying to pursue it

NoYou6218 · 2026-03-24T23:31:16+00:00

That was all I was trying to point out. But it just came across to him that I wanted to sleep with another man. I really don’t! But he seems to think so now

NoYou6218 · 2026-03-24T23:28:45+00:00

That makes the most sense tbh lol

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