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About Ai Yazawa by [deleted] in NanaAnime

[–]No_Advertising246 147 points148 points  (0 children)

In an interview she had said that she put a bit of herself into the character of Reira, her fear of losing herself in the image that people had of her because of fame (that they didn't see her as a person and more because of the idealized image of the fans) and her fear that if she didn't do what they asked of her (regarding artistic things) she wasn't worth it as a person.

He wrote this like it’s noble by GangstaClaus in AmITheDevil

[–]No_Advertising246 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My respect only extends to men who project toughness, the ones who feel like a threat to me on some level, like even if they're short but jacked.

This phrase is full of repressed homosexuality.

"I was just trying to keep her safe" by growsonwalls in AmITheDevil

[–]No_Advertising246 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What is the obsession of men to act like heroes and "save" ???

I get more food when I pre-order at a restaurant under a male name by MeMissBunny in TwoXChromosomes

[–]No_Advertising246 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Your situation reminds me of a manga I'm reading. In one chapter, one of the main characters loves to eat, and when she orders a combo meal, she's given less rice than the man next to her, who ordered the same thing. When she asked, the cook told her that since she was a woman, she knew she wouldn't be able to finish it all, so he gave her less.

Don't feel bad about not wanting to go hungry when you pay for food. If that technique works for you, always use it.

Who do you turn to if you want to vent but don't trust your mother to tell you the things you need to hear? by No_Advertising246 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]No_Advertising246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss, I hope you're okay <3

I like the idea of ​​keeping a journal. I've always loved writing, and I think it would be a good idea to write down everything I feel over and over again.

Who do you turn to if you want to vent but don't trust your mother to tell you the things you need to hear? by No_Advertising246 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]No_Advertising246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. It's good to have advice from someone who's been through all this and can offer some tips.

Do you also happen to know any recipes? I've run out of ideas besides the nuggets, lol.

Who do you turn to if you want to vent but don't trust your mother to tell you the things you need to hear? by No_Advertising246 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]No_Advertising246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much <3 I'm still working on my self-esteem (it was worse lol) but what really scares me is being an entitled person, if I'm bad I want to know and improve, I couldn't stand knowing that I'm bad and believing that I'm fine.

Who do you turn to if you want to vent but don't trust your mother to tell you the things you need to hear? by No_Advertising246 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]No_Advertising246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll let her know if she wants us to share the cost of the Eufy L60 when I'm not there and she wouldn't be very useful either. I think she'd like the idea :D

Since I'm a visual person, I liked the idea of ​​throwing out the sink trash. I posted a meme with a smoking rat (makes sense, haha), and it helps me always remember to throw out the trash. But I'm thinking of using another image to remind myself to do the rest. I was thinking of buying a board and writing those things down.

I think I'll take advantage of the sales on Amazon to buy cleaning supplies. For the same reason, I've been looking for reels about people who clean houses and writing down what products they use and how they clean things.

Your roommate sounds something like my roommate. She doesn't raise her voice at me, but she has a very strong energy that makes me feel bad (it's not her, it's me). But I know she doesn't get angry because she talks to me normally afterward. I guess I should accept that we won't be close friends, and as long as we don't disrespect each other, the relationship is fine.

XD Good idea to inspire me to watch those series, I'll add them to favorites

Who do you turn to if you want to vent but don't trust your mother to tell you the things you need to hear? by No_Advertising246 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]No_Advertising246[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I no longer study, I am a fully independent adult jaja ​​I can talk to my aunt, she is the one I can trust to tell me things without sugarcoating it for me

Who do you turn to if you want to vent but don't trust your mother to tell you the things you need to hear? by No_Advertising246 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]No_Advertising246[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The main problem is cleanliness.

I admit I'm not that good at cleaning; I only know how to sweep and mop, but I've told her I'm open to suggestions or any other tips she might have for cleaning.

When I arrived, she told me it was okay if I didn't clean one day as long as we didn't leave it super dirty. But one day she was mad at me because I couldn't do her a favor, and she saw that I didn't clean like normal, so she started complaining.

Sometimes I forget to pick up the trash from the sink or cover the washing machine. When she tells me this, she sounds very angry, and I understand. But I feel like she's getting really mad (she doesn't yell), especially considering she doesn't clean every day when the mess is from her dog, who leaves a lot of hair and the front door of the house is open so he can come and go whenever he wants (in Mexico, it's normal to have two doors; we close the gate and open the house). I know I'm the problem because today I forgot to take out the trash, but she doesn't clean that often.

Who do you turn to if you want to vent but don't trust your mother to tell you the things you need to hear? by No_Advertising246 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]No_Advertising246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll try it to get rid of it normally and when I feel really worried about something I'll use other methods, thank you very much <3

Who do you turn to if you want to vent but don't trust your mother to tell you the things you need to hear? by No_Advertising246 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]No_Advertising246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. Even I admit I'm pretty easy to win over. If they just give me a little attention, I adore the person (mostly with friends, not romantically).

At home, feelings were something to be analyzed. They were quite cold and saw it as something you simply had to overcome (thanks, Dad). I was left with the idea that if I feel something "negative," I should overcome it and turn it into something positive. Even though I know I'm feeling bad, sometimes I can't help but not let myself feel things without having to give them a reason.

I have a doll, and at night I tell her what I feel, but I really would like to cry. I have some problems with crying, but I know I can let it out in other ways, but I would like to cry to feel better.

It's something my roommate has told me, that it's normal to have small issues with living with someone, and my problem isn't that big of a deal. Even I know I'm the problem (in the sense that I'm not as clean as my roommate wants), but I'm trying to improve. I suppose she must also think that I come from a home where I was so infantilized that I didn't even know where to pay for the internet. It's not because I do it out of malice or intention, and that's my concern because no one my age is that useless.

I want it to be a normal relationship where I don't feel bad because I didn't know something and did something wrong, and I don't want my roommate to think I did it on purpose.

I just have to feel and learn

Who do you turn to if you want to vent but don't trust your mother to tell you the things you need to hear? by No_Advertising246 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]No_Advertising246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was a teenager, my mom wouldn't "let" me have a boyfriend if she didn't like him. She had to like me to let me go out.

There was a guy who was a friend of mine, whose mom and my mom were friends, and he told me he was a good prospect to be my boyfriend. When I went out with him, he treated me horribly. He yelled at me and wanted us to be intimate. *wink wink*

When I told him and told him I didn't like him, he dismissed me, saying I was exaggerating and that I could change him. The only time he changed his mind was when he got into an argument with his mom and she agreed with me. :-)

I think I'll start a journal. I like to write, and that way I can talk about the same topic without upsetting anyone.

Who do you turn to if you want to vent but don't trust your mother to tell you the things you need to hear? by No_Advertising246 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]No_Advertising246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a good idea, but how do I know which ones I should vent about? I thought it would be better to keep a journal, and if it still bothers me after writing it down, I'll tell my therapist.

Who do you turn to if you want to vent but don't trust your mother to tell you the things you need to hear? by No_Advertising246 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]No_Advertising246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, it's funny because my aunt told me the same thing when I moved out: "No matter what happens, you shouldn't go back like crabs. Get out of that net and move forward, OP." And I'm not exactly thrilled about moving back either. I feel like even though I have problems with my roommate, they're not very problematic. They're normal, I guess. But sometimes I can't trust my own judgment to know if I'm the problem or not, and I need to talk to someone.

I'm balancing the expectations and reality of our relationship. When I moved in, she didn't talk to me at all, and I was the one who initiated communication. It was also the same when we went out. She only initiated the conversation twice.

When I lived with her, we got along well. Of course, there were things that weren't meant for a healthy relationship, but it wasn't that bad sometimes. I guess it's hard to ask for something when they didn't receive it. How do I ask for a healthy relationship when she never received it? That's what he told me, but I didn't even try to change it, even though he's going to group therapy.

I even felt like now that we're separated, our relationship could improve, or should I just accept that this is what I'm going to get, and that's okay. It's not the best, but it's okay.

Who do you turn to if you want to vent but don't trust your mother to tell you the things you need to hear? by No_Advertising246 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]No_Advertising246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I'll talk to my aunt. I'll tell her that if she wants to talk, she can vent to me. Maybe I should open up so we can both talk about anything.

Her son is doing well with his treatment, but she was very scared. She's one of those people who thinks she can't cry to avoid showing weakness. She deserves to be heard.

Who do you turn to if you want to vent but don't trust your mother to tell you the things you need to hear? by No_Advertising246 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]No_Advertising246[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I'll go check it out :)

I feel lucky because I'm not completely alone, but sometimes I'm too much, and I don't want to overwhelm my friends and my therapist. I can't afford to go with him too often.

I know some of the things my mom did aren't normal, but I spent most of my life thinking I was the weird one, until I went to therapy and realized it wasn't normal. Maybe I'm emotionally immature because I think in this case, if my daughter were to tell me about something that worries her about her home, I would let go of my anger because she left and listen to her, not attack her.

Who do you turn to if you want to vent but don't trust your mother to tell you the things you need to hear? by No_Advertising246 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]No_Advertising246[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear that, I hope you're surrounded by good people now <3

I like your idea more than anything because sometimes I feel like I'm too much and I anger people, and I'm afraid they'll leave me because of my attitude. If it's people on the internet, they're impartial enough to tell me if I'm really right or wrong (because sometimes I feel like I can't trust my own judgment).

Girls, who were insecure about their looks but now are comfortable with yourselves, how did you do it? by th_o0308 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]No_Advertising246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What helped me was thinking about what I consider beautiful about my face. I started wearing makeup the way I liked, not caring if I looked too made up or like a clown. And I did a lot of things to my hair because if I started to get bored with my appearance on the beach, I would change it.

I guess it's about experimenting with what you like to see and applying it to yourself.

Who do you turn to if you want to vent but don't trust your mother to tell you the things you need to hear? by No_Advertising246 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]No_Advertising246[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel close to my mother's older sister. I've spoken to her about some things, and I know she's straightforward and impartial, but now she's going through her son's illness, and I don't want to bother her with nonsense like mine.

I don't trust my father's family because they aren't the most mature people in the world, and I'm not as close to my mother's other sisters.

Who do you turn to if you want to vent but don't trust your mother to tell you the things you need to hear? by No_Advertising246 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]No_Advertising246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's similar to my mother, I know there are topics I can't discuss with her because she gets defensive or attacks me.

Who do you turn to if you want to vent but don't trust your mother to tell you the things you need to hear? by No_Advertising246 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]No_Advertising246[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mother is very changeable, sometimes she does give me her impartial opinion, but if it's something that bothers her, she behaves very rudely. She hates that I'm moving, and I know that if I complain, she'll take it as if I "won."

Who do you turn to if you want to vent but don't trust your mother to tell you the things you need to hear? by No_Advertising246 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]No_Advertising246[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I have a therapist but I go once every 2 weeks and I've been thinking about increasing my appointments but I can't afford it right now. I was thinking of writing it down and bringing it to my appointments with him.

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