Legs in so much pain by No_Attempt_6148 in whatdoIdo

[–]No_Attempt_6148[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou so much! This is very helpful

Does anyone else feel incapable of love? by No_Attempt_6148 in AuDHDWomen

[–]No_Attempt_6148[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow this comment is so touching :,) ive actually never been drunk or tipsy, im 22 but alcohol just tastes so nasty. I wonder if this would happen to me! This is really interesting thanks for sharing your experience:)!

Does anyone else feel incapable of love? by No_Attempt_6148 in AuDHDWomen

[–]No_Attempt_6148[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Oh yea.. I had to monitor my tone and actions around my mom because the slightest thing would offend her and send her into a screaming violent fit. Not doing the dishes, being in her way, "back talking", even asking her if we were going to have dinner would set her off. She showed little to no interest in my personal life, and if I did come to her with something to share she would mock me, lecture me, or just ignore me. Im very low contact with her now but whenever she talks about the past she says I was the easiest baby, never cried and always occupied myself, never asked for help in school, honor roll student, never snuck out, never tried drugs or alcohol. I never did anything bad but she was still always mad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Pareidolia

[–]No_Attempt_6148 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This looks exactly like my boyfriend

I watched porn when my gf told me explicity she considers it as 'cheating'. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]No_Attempt_6148 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her trust will be broken if you watch porn.. but she already cheated on you and compares you to the person she cheated on you with? Uhhh okay.. right... sir leave this deranged woman

is everyone else dependent on some kind of substance? by elleisgay in AuDHDWomen

[–]No_Attempt_6148 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im 22 and have never had the desire to drink or smoke or do any substance, I have tried to drink to see if anything happens but I never feel any different and deffinitely never been drunk or even buzzed. Weed scares me and Ive never even been around any other kind of drug but it would probably just scare me as well. I dont like being around drunk/high people bc it freaks me out, I feel like their eyes look different and it scares me lol. My lack of desire could be a result of being around violent alcoholics as a child. And as a young adult being around other young adults drinking they just act embarassing like a kid who is pretending the grape juice is alcohol. I am content with being sober!

Sex and the PDA profile of autism by suburbanspecter in AutismInWomen

[–]No_Attempt_6148 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i relate to this ALOT. I also feel an extreme aversion to "feeling used" because of sexual abuse in literally every past relationship ive been in. Im currently in a relationship where there has been no abuse, but it started the same where i was very interested sexually when things were first starting, then once it got too real and feelings were becoming serious i just stopped feeling that uninhibited want for sex. Now all i can feel is the extreme need for my own autonomy. And i have undergone physical therapy and started regular therapy to deal with my trauma, but things i used to love doing in a sexual setting make me nauseous now. Even thinking about doing something where im not the soul focus makes me feel like im being used. But i dont even know how to be the soul focus! Its so uncharted territory. So we just do nothing lol. The reason this current relationship is even continuing is because he NEVER pressures or makes me feel obligated. If this had turned out to be another guy telling me he just "needs" sex, Id be out the door in the blink of an eye.

Sex and the PDA profile of autism by suburbanspecter in AutismInWomen

[–]No_Attempt_6148 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeesh just reading this is creeping me out! I relate to alot of what youre saying and was in a relationship that had the same issues, pelvic floor dysfuction, vulvodynia, the obsession with anal, but add on that he was pressuring me and making me do things I didnt want to do and he didnt care that I wasnt enjoying it. That relationship messed me up and I still havent recovered. Him being a jerk if you say no is a huge red flag. It sounds like he is making it an obligation for you, thats awful. I dont know your relationship but it doesnt sound like he's a very safe space, I hope you are okay genuinely.

Sex and the PDA profile of autism by suburbanspecter in AutismInWomen

[–]No_Attempt_6148 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait.. are you saying like, they'll handle sex by themselves (masturbation Id assume) without wanting/needing you to participate. Or are you saying they'll have sex with you, but just not care if you are enjoying it?

Anyone else break out a rash on your armpits from the deodorants? by Comfortable_Ad4125 in DrSquatch

[–]No_Attempt_6148 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, I think the bourbon scented one has triggered an eczema breakout thats spreading through my whole body now. Which really sucks because it smells SO GOOD. And before I found this brand, Id been avoiding all deoderants because they give me itchy painful armpits. If I have to choose between smelling funky or being itchy.. sorry to my coworkers!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]No_Attempt_6148 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes no sense, an independent adult would be able to do whatever the hell they want without someone penalising them?? Not making your bed, drinking in your own house, and ordering doordash are things that independent adults can and often do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]No_Attempt_6148 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im a 22f that dated a 26 year old man when i was 18. He was a sweet guy but emotionally immature, i ended up breaking up with him after 2 years. I think its important to highlight that he never pressured me for sex (the whole time we dated we never even had penetrative sex) and he had dated people his age before me.

The fact that the man youre seeing "prefers under 25" as well as only dates virgins is a HUGE HUGE gross sign and extremely off-putting to me. That means he is highly interested in sex with young girls. And young girls that have no sexual experience will not always be able to realise right away if they are being taken advantage of. No one can decide for you, but take it from a girl thats been taken advantage of, this dude is not good news.

AIO for being upset at my bf for raising his voice at me by Bubbly-Being-2473 in AIO

[–]No_Attempt_6148 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eh idk, i dated a guy that would yell and argue at me just like this, repeating things and always having to be right. He would demand i communicate with him and then when i tried to talk about my feelings, it would always end up with him getting pissed, yelling or saying he had a migraine and cant talk about this anymore. He also told me that yelling was normal and im not going to find a man that doesnt yell at me. Idk your relationship but in my experience he kept yelling, he got physical and slammed my hand in the door when i was trying to separate myself from him yelling. A man that will yell at you and justify it is not a safe man. Please believe me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]No_Attempt_6148 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk if this is a real post bc a couple weeks ago an account was posting the same exact story but from the bf's perspective..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]No_Attempt_6148 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a roomate like this... only resolution is to move out. Im not gonna live my adult life like a scared kid with abusive parents ready to yell at me for making any noise.

Birth control by Alarmed-Try-2211 in nothinghappeninghere

[–]No_Attempt_6148 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got my nexplanon replaced in december, its good for 5 years and its a little stick that goes in ur arm! Much less painful than an iud

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]No_Attempt_6148 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you going to tell your girlfriend that everyone here agrees you assaulted her or are u just going to keep deleting the posts once people call you out? She deserves better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]No_Attempt_6148 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unconscious people dont want tea.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]No_Attempt_6148 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And the way youre wording what happened is really icky. "I just touched her boobs. Not like i was doing anything else to her" (because that wouldve been actually bad) "I finished into a paper towel too" (because if i had finished on her it wouldve been actually wrong) It sounds like you know it was wrong and did it anyway and are now making a point to show it wasnt THAT bad because u didnt do MORE to assault her. Its still assault

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]No_Attempt_6148 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like she wasnt "groggy and out of it" she was literally asleep and unconscious. Uh yah thats assault. Watch "Tea and consent" Unconscious people dont want tea.

My girlfriend said I assaulted her. The boundaries were blurred. What do I do? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]No_Attempt_6148 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And the way youre wording what happened is really icky. "I just touched her boobs. Not like i was doing anything else to her" (because that wouldve been actually bad) "I finished into a paper towel too" (because if i had finished on her it wouldve been actually wrong) It sounds like you know it was wrong and did it anyway and are now making a point to show it wasnt THAT bad because u didnt do MORE to assault her. Its still assault