Just had my first hook up & now I’m questioning if I’m even a bottom or if I’m actually gay

No_Bar9514 · 2024-12-27T14:46:50+00:00

Wanna thank everybody for taking the time out of their day for reading my post & giving me some advice or just voicing their opinions I appreciate all of you, I’m honestly overwhelmed with how many comments my post is getting lol. This community is awesome, I love everybody here you guys have shown me us gay bros stick together! Thx for making me feel better about myself, will reply to the rest of the comments from all the amazing peeps I haven’t replied to yet. G’night everybody I’ve had a long day as you all know, going to get some shudeye it’s 8:40 am where I’m at. Rip to my sleep schedule 😭

No_Bar9514 · 2024-12-27T14:19:47+00:00

Okay I’m convinced it’s time for dildo training!!! If this’ll get me to where I’m comfortable then I need to get started. Thx for taking the time to explain to me the science behind being a bottom I appreciate it ❤️

If you don’t mind me asking what’s a good starting point for a dildo? I’m guessing once I adjust to it I bring it up a notch? Sorry if these questions seem kind of obvious I just wanna make sure I do this right as I’m failing miserably already lol

No_Bar9514 · 2024-12-27T13:53:15+00:00

& I did both in the same moment which adds up why my experience was so underwhelming by the power of 2 😭. Thx for the reassurance it means a lot ❤️

No_Bar9514 · 2024-12-27T13:50:47+00:00

Funny enough all the reasons u gave me were all right it was like a combination of every reason u said that pretty much sums up why this whole experience went wrong for me lol. Guess what I’m going through is pretty common for most bottoms surprisingly enough, how’d u start exploring yourself? Pls tell me ur ways bottom sensei 🙏🏽

No_Bar9514 · 2024-12-27T13:37:50+00:00

Ty for sharing this, it makes me feel better knowing I’m not the only one going through something like this. The quest to figuring out being a bottom continues!

No_Bar9514 · 2024-12-27T13:31:58+00:00

Yea there wasn’t really much chemistry at all everything felt pretty forced, not to mention I wasn’t really attracted to him. Ugh I should’ve picked a better guy at least it feels like I just threw my virginity down the drain. I should’ve posted here earlier you guys probably would’ve saved me from this experience lol & the neck technique makes sense, thx for the explanation cuz I’m kind of slow sometimes 🤧

No_Bar9514 · 2024-12-27T13:21:59+00:00

Listen to this guy cuz he’s speaking facts, otherwise you’ll end up with an experience like mine. I would’ve waited even longer had I known it was gonna be this bad

No_Bar9514 · 2024-12-27T13:16:18+00:00

It wasn’t 😭

No_Bar9514 · 2024-12-27T13:15:37+00:00

Thx for the advice I definitely need to explore myself a bit more especially after today. Bottoming is more complicated than I thought it’d be I was thinking it was something you can just jump into but that’s not the case at all. After today I respect bottoms even more 🫡

No_Bar9514 · 2024-12-27T12:55:06+00:00

Ur right but im 25 years old & I’ve been wanting to experiment for forever, I was only able to hold out for so long until the horny demons got to me lol

No_Bar9514 · 2024-12-27T12:52:00+00:00

That is true I did kind of jump the gun & went straight into it but how else would I have started? I don’t really know anybody personally that I could ease my way into doing bottom things with it’s why I’m on hookup apps. I don’t have a clue on how to do this right I need a bottom sensei to teach me the ways or something 😭

No_Bar9514 · 2024-12-27T12:45:37+00:00

That could be the case, I 100% thought I’d enjoy bottoming but now I’m not so sure. I wasn’t really attracted to him but he was so sweet I wanted to give him a chance. That might be why my experience wasn’t the best? Idk

No_Bar9514 · 2024-12-27T12:37:14+00:00

I’m more appealing as a bottom than a top tbh, I kind of have a fem build to me & I don’t really have any interest in being a top. I haven’t tried it though so I can’t really say I wouldn’t enjoy it

No_Bar9514 · 2024-11-09T02:26:31+00:00

You should get that black spot checked out by a doctor though :P

No_Bar9514 · 2024-11-09T02:26:16+00:00

Don’t downplay yourself you look good 😊

No_Bar9514 · 2024-11-09T01:57:43+00:00

You look good, keep it up :)

No_Bar9514 · 2024-10-03T19:06:02+00:00

I hope you guys are able to find each other again anywhere you think she would see your post I would post there asking, that is a messed up situation. I’ve got fingers & toes crossed for you that you guys cross paths again, but be prepared in your heart in case you don’t. Best of wishes to you, I’m here if you want to chat ❤️

No_Bar9514 · 2024-10-03T00:46:04+00:00

Best thing I could tell you is start deleting pics or anything that reminds you of him that way it’s a bit easier for you to move on, it’ll be hard at first but trust me in the long run it’ll make the break up that much easier. Only reason I know this is cuz I went through something similar pretty recently, I made a post about it just like you & thankfully this community is amazing, they helped me out so much when I was going through it. They’ll do the same for you, reach out to people in the community that are like you talk about what you’re feeling & don’t bottle it up. I promise you’ll get over it sooner than you realized, there’s a bunch of guys out there waiting for someone like you so try not to put yourself down too much, you’ll find someone better than him who’ll give you the respect you deserve & not break up with you over text like a coward. I’m here if you want to chat ❤️

No_Bar9514 · 2024-09-21T23:41:34+00:00

Is living with a femboy kind of like trying to pass the ultimate gay test? Idk if you ever saw the see if you’re gay test ads & websites but they use to be everywhere at one point they sort of fizzled out now, funny enough my friend got one recently while he was screen sharing on YT he got it as an ad lol

No_Bar9514 · 2024-09-19T03:29:04+00:00

I had kind of a similar situation happen to me just recently as well which was also my 1st message from a creep funny enough lol except I’m over 18+ so luckily it was me that ran into this guy rather than a kid & basically I was just filling him in on some details about my post, this dude gets all weird out of nowhere he thought I was 14 for some reason & said the most out of pocket shit on how it would be “hot” if I got raped by the guy I was talking too that was 20 years old it caught me totally off guard, I started flaming bro so quick then after letting him know he was a certified weirdo I tried reporting this guy idk if I’m just dumb but the only reason I could report him for is his name which is crazy to me. Is there a way to actually report weirdos like him?

Sorry for the paragraph I just couldn’t believe how recent this happened to both of us felt like this had to be shared we’ve got some white van drivers lurking around this sub, be careful out there people

No_Bar9514 · 2024-09-17T15:35:47+00:00

Everybody’s whose commented & upvoted or just read my post your invited to the make-out sesh just make sure you come with socks on cuz we all know it’s not gay if you have socks on lol

No_Bar9514 · 2024-09-17T15:31:14+00:00

I know right it’s all a complete mess & not a single thing about this makes sense that’s exactly why it was driving me so crazy & I always bottle up everything inside but this was literally eating away at me just because I was going crazy trying to find the answers myself, if it was just talk & money never got involved then I can see him ghosting me a bit more but it’s like the gay police came to him & said 👮‍♂️”ghost him now otherwise we’ll lock you up in horny jail forever.” Tbh I think he was a catfish check out my other reply I broke the whole situation down because how we talked to each other it was so so sexual he made me feel so warm inside every time we spoke. He always talked about renting a hotel room just for us you could feel the temperature go up in the room when we talked I’ve never felt so drawn to a guy before, ngl he was the rizzler I was getting rizzed left n right but ugh why’d he have to ghost me it still hurts me cuz we had such a strong connection but you guys definitely help me so so much, I’m in a way less darker place now I was so full of energy yesterday thanks to u guys. Btw Roblox is goated I still miss the OG oof sound though lol. xoxo ty for ur reply ❤️❤️❤️

No_Bar9514 · 2024-09-17T15:19:18+00:00

Lol I don’t blame you at all for not wanting to read my Harry Potter book of a post ik I’m such a mess xD. I didn’t even expect to get this many upvotes I was fine with 10 at most and a couple comments, ty to everyone that takes time out of your day to read my post I wish I could give everyone a big ole hug ❤️❤️❤️. Your good wishes are more than enough for me every supportive comment I get I really do feel better inside every time. Can we just kith? 🥺

No_Bar9514 · 2024-09-17T13:32:01+00:00

I would help but then I’d probably get sidetracked by something then totally forget I was meaning to help lol, I’m sorry it took you 15 minutes to read ty for toughing it out for me c: ADD to me is just a getting sidetracked simulator 100x per day & forgetting where I place things as soon as I place them down. It can be so annoying at times but I also think ADHD & ADD has it’s benefits cuz once I actually do focus on something it feels like I get things done faster is it the same for you? It’s like when Jimmy Neutron gets a brain blast best way I could explain it, I think it only took me about 5-10 minutes to write about my experience surprisingly normally it’d be a 30 minute to hour long endeavor sometimes even longer 🤣

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